Hi young mum struggling wih weight 6ft 2 nothing is working

i only heat egg for breaky cause its easier to manage and eat wat the family does when i cook mash veg and meat or pasta like spag im new to all this and completely lost and i dunno if i can measure everything i eat i really dont have much time im a housewife

I am also a wife, mother and work full time out of the house.............oh and I am 48 years old. I have found the time to purchase a small scale, measure the food before you put it on the plate (that is not a hard step). I realize that you are very confused, but there are alot of good people on here that just gave alot of good suggestions. How bad do you want this? I am not trying to be mean (I know how hard it is to lose weight), But if you really want to lose weight, you have to make adjustments to your life and schedule to accomodate the weight loss.

If you are a stay at home mom, bundle those babies up and go take a walk with them. That can be a good start to your exercise. When you cook, don't eat a huge plate of spaghetti or potatoes, measure it out and eat a moderate plate. Oh, and you can have snacks (even a little bit of the bad ones). You are a tall girl and I see from your diary that you have quite a few calories for one day. If you add exercise to that, you can have more to eat.

Good luck to you and really read the comments on here.....................they will help you:bigsmile:

One step at a time. You don't need a 'diet', you need to switch to a healthy lifestyle. If you start eating now the way the 100kg version of you eats then you'll gradually lose weight until you weigh 100kg. No shakes, no supplements, no appetite supressants required; you just need healthy food in reasonable portion sizes.

Exercise doesn't have to be hard either. I was too embarrassed to be seen exercising outdoors when I started, so I used EA Sports Active on the PS3 and went out for walks.

It's as difficult as you make it. It's as much a mental challenge as a physical one. Find foods you like that are filling and low calorie. Eat plenty of veggies. Get outside and walk.

Your doctor sounds like a #&%*, BTW.

Hi there, I'm new to this too and reading your post I'm in a similar situation. I live in Sydney and have 3 kids I'm 121kg and have set my goal of getting down to 90kg by christmas. I''m currently seeing a naturopath and she put me on a 6 week detox to help me get started. I have done this before and it's been a god send. Basically there are 3 phases each lasting 2 weeks. If you are the type of person that has been having trouble losing weight in the past I would absolutely recommend this. I literally didn't want to get out of bed on a morning because I was soooo tired, if I could I would sleep all day, didn't have the energy to clean, wash the dishes or do the laundry. I've been on the detox for 2 weeks now and have lost 2.5kg. I have a fatty liver which doesn't help my situation so the detox is perfect.

Add me as a friend if you like and we can do it together. Keep smiling and chin up

Trust me I understand your situation because I was there also. 3000 miles from family, no car, no friends, too far to walk anywhere, didn't know where anything was,no money, and a baby. I was totally dependant on my husband who worked long hours. I have been there. I was over weight (still am), depressed and feeling hopeless which makes it easy to not see all the things that I could do without leaving the house or spending money. All I had was the internet. You have found a wealth of information and support on this free site. If you go to youtube there are a ton of excercise videos including: Jillian Michaels 30 day shred, zumba, yoga, pilates. YOU CAN DO IT! I promise you can do it, you just need to get in the right mind set and I know it is hard to get there. Just make one positive change every day. March in place for 10 minutes. Challenge your self to drink 8 glasses of water then 10.. Just take baby steps and before you know it you will be in an awesome place. There is a saying "It's always darkest before the dawn." It is time for your dawn.

I have been where you are and it is up to you to decide what it important to you and what you want out of life. I became a single mother at 25 with a 4 year old and a 4 day old when my husband walked away. I went back to school, got a job and raised my children. I wish I had also taken the time to take care of myself but I didn't like myself enough.

You are in control of your life. If you are not getting what you need from your partner, then either tell him and try to work it out OR move on so that you can find someone who can give you what you need.

Losing weight is not easy, it requires planning and effort. BUT, eating healthy is not only good for you, it is good for your children. Lean meats, vegetables, whole grains and NO junk food. There are tons of activities that you can do with your children ... my current favorite is the hula hoop. My boyfriends daughter (age 6) hoops with me everytime we have her. Start with 10 minutes of physical activity a day and work up from there. We all have 10 minutes that we waste doing nothing.

Feel free to add me if you need a friend -- i am tough but honest. You are young and you don't want to be 45 like me and still trying to get the weight off.

Also, for energy I recommend sublingual vitamin B12. If after a few months of really managing your food intake and exercise there really isn't any progress, you need to talk to your doctor about checking for thyroid or other health problems.

First things first.......stop and take a deep breath!!! Forget about all the stuff you've done in the past to lose weight, stop thinking about all your failures in losing weight and forget about all the crap you learned about before (it was most likely wrong). TODAY IS THE FIRST DAY OF YOUR NEW HEALTHY LIFESTYLE!!!! You need to start thinking about now. Also PLEASE remember that you did not gain this weight in 3-6 months so it won't come off in a short time either!!! Be patient, you will have plateaus, you will have setbacks in weight but remember.....this is about getting healthy. The weight will follow!!!

Now, set up your profile. It looks like you have around 2300 calories to work with. You should not feel hungry on this. I may be shorter than you but I was easily eating 3000 calories a day before I started on here and lost a bunch on 1200 calories but realized with research that is too low for me. I can feel completely satisfied and full on 1400 calories (more when I exercise). Now you need to plan.

Losing weight is no different than raising your kids, being a mother, working, etc. It takes commitment, perseverance and planning. I will sometimes pre-log my whole day so that I know how many calories I have to snack with. Please feel free to look at my diary. I still drink alcohol and have treats but I either work for them or work them into my calorie count for the day.

The first thing you should do, in my opinion, is spend a week tracking your food. Record everything that goes in your mouth so you can see what you are really eating. You may be consuming calories that you don't realize (I have a friend who drinks 4 cans of REGULAR soda just during work and wonders why she can't lose weight) or you may not be eating enough.

Then figure out the calories of your favorite meals, put them in and start planning healthy meals and snacks. And eat them. If you exercise, record it and eat back your exercise calories. I didn't and found that I didn't lose weight because I wasn't properly fueling my body.

But this is a new day, a new way to look at food and a new idea on getting healthy. Today is my 215th day logging in. In my first 6 months I lost 30 lbs. I also plateaued for a total of 11 weeks total because I THOUGHT I was eating right but I wasn't eating enough. I don't even know what I weigh now because I gave up my scale for lent but my clothes fit better, my resting heart rate is down, I finished the C25K program and now can run 30 minutes or more (I'm only at a 4.9 on the treadmill but that's running for me), and I feel better about myself. The scale can be damned at this point!!

Please don't get discouraged. Diets don't work, lifestyle change does. And now you are on a wonderful site that has so many people who actually have a clue about how to properly work out and eat right to fuel your body properly. I just started at a gym and did most of my working out at home. Go to the library and check out some Jillian Michaels (or as I like to call her, Satan) DVDS and start there. Walk around the block, play with your kids, clean (it's in there). You can do this. Feel free to add me. I've been told I'm inspirational.......that still blows my mind!!!