being forced to work out

You also sound like your not ready to lose the weight. however the situation is different for everyone. I say to try some stuff out. Who knows. you may surprise yourself and actually like doing them. If you like to dance, Zumba is really fun. Go in with a positive attitude. Also, a Buddy system, of which your sister is providing you is VERY helpful... you should take advantage of this. Doing a diet alone is really hard. Doing it all alone is even harder. I think it is great that your sister is wanting you to be around longer and live a healthier life.

Exercise your right to say "no" to your sister. Then jam out on the Wii.

this.. my family and mostly sisters have told me all my life, but i had to wait for the click in me to turn on.

Ask your sister to compromise with you...you go with her if she will do some things with you...suggest a bike ride or a hike where your not just sitting on a machine but going somewhere. I agree with the previous post that Zumba is fun if you like to dance, and if you have Wii there is Zumba for the Wii and you can do it at home together untill you feel confident enough to do it at the gym.

You also sound like your not ready to lose the weight. however the situation is different for everyone. I say to try some stuff out. Who knows. you may surprise yourself and actually like doing them. If you like to dance, Zumba is really fun. Go in with a positive attitude. Also, a Buddy system, of which your sister is providing you is VERY helpful... you should take advantage of this. Doing a diet alone is really hard. Doing it all alone is even harder. I think it is great that your sister is wanting you to be around longer and live a healthier life.

This!

I have 2 friends from work that go to Zumba with me. Just in case one does not feel like it. We enjoy it but have had other co-workers that it is not for them. So if home is better for you - I would stick to home. YOu have to be happy. Remember your weight loss is for you. :flowerforyou:

I'm going to be the "jerk" on this post and say that it sounds to me like you're just making excuses so to argue why you won't go do the workouts. How do you even know you don't like what she does if you won't give it a try? This is one of the most frustrating things for me... My sister, my friends, saying they are doing the fitness thing too but godforbid they try anything WITH me. It would be different if they had a different idea, but it doesn't sound like you are trying to bring in other ideas that are considerate of what she needs as well.

Maybe she is reaching out to you as someone that is saying they want to get fit, because she really needs a partner. She definitely can't MAKE you do anything but if you don't want to workout with her EVER then just tell her that, instead of giving excuses... "I don't know if I'm ready for that..." "That machine hurts my butt/arms/legs/etc etc" on and on are not valid excuses to avoid the gym.

If you are embarrassed or nervous about these things, vocalize it. If going to the gym, the machines seem pointless, you aren't working at a high enough intensity.

What everyone else said, plus this thought:

Is your sister trying to lose weight too? If so, would the gym and the Zumba be things that you might choose to do, to support and encourage your sister, if you were asked in those terms?

If so, you could have a talk with her and ask her to ask you. It may sound a little silly (it looks a little silly written out here), but it's all about your autonomy and freedom to choose.

Or you might feel like you don't need the talk - you can just choose to do these things to help your sister, without ever even mentioning it.

If you see the gym & the Zumba as things you have yourself chosen to do, rather than things you are being forced to do, you may feel completely different about doing them.

ok so i know i'm suppose to lose weight and work out but there are some things i just don't want to do and my sister keeps trying to make me do them. i just don't like to go to the gym to work out i find it pointless...all you do is go on a bunch of machines and go home. whats the point and shes been trying to make me do the new craze zumba. i think it looks kinda fun but its something i just don't see as being fun. i like just dance on the wii thats fun but not what she does.

so i guess my questions are what can i do about my sister making me do something i don't want to do and what can i do to work out and make it fun?

Why not give it a go, then find something your sister does not enjoy.......... Remind her you did try her thing........... LOL ...... I have 2 sisters and 4 brothers xxxxxxxxxxxx LOL xxxxxxxxxxxxx Hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxx

I just got the Zumba game for the wii. Played for 30 minutes, was drenched in sweat when I was done and I don't even think I did half of the moves correctly!

A workout buddy that calls us out on our slacking is a good thing!

I used to identify with being "not a runner" and had all sorts of explainations for why I wasn't. But I let myself get peer-pressured by a friend and we started jogging together. Over time all my reasons were proved wrong. And I started to feel good about being able to jog/run. It was a mind thing. There were so many times that I wanted to call off a workout but didn't. And only didn't because of my friend - knowing she'd give my grief for trying to bail and leaving her to do the workout alone.

Its goofy that I still don't 'like' running, but do enjoy how I feel after sticking with it for awhile. It really is a mind thing. Give something a solid chance with an open mind and see how you feel about it after.

I don't run regularily anymore since there are other workouts I like better, but having put 100% into training for a 5k, and then a half-marathon I learned things about myself and my body that I never would have.

though i still felt very self conscience. i think im just gona get the zumba for the wii. then wen i feel a bit better about myself ill go back to the class.

I think this sounds like the real issue. Do you want to avoid these activities because you don't enjoy them or because you are scared/self-concious to try them?

Exercise is a huge boost. Endorphins, sense of accomplishment, positive changes in your body/mental state. It might be hard or awkward at first, but it gets easier everytime. Don't let your mind get in the way of your muscle. Besides, how do you know if something is "pointless" or unenjoyable if you haven't tried it? Life is too short. If you put yourself out there a little, you might find something you're passionate about. Everyone starts somewhere.

If nothing else, it's time spent with your sister. Being that mine lives 4 states away, I'd love to be "forced" to do things like that with her.