Got rid of my love chub.. now what?

skinnybutt12
skinnybutt12 Posts: 5
edited November 2024 in Health and Weight Loss
So, my boyfriend and I like to eat. I gained weight, to the point that when the rest of his overweight family decided to do a Biggest Loser competition, I jumped right in. I am an experienced calorie counter, but through the use of MFP, I was able to lose 20 lbs in my healthiest effort yet, and won the competition. This was two weeks ago. On the weekends since, we've had family celebrations practically everyday, so I'm a little over 5 lbs up again. I'm a binge eater and I guess I've done more damage in the past, but it was really something I thought would overcome now that I have some freedom. In any case, the part I'm struggling with in all reality, is that I am now the same weight I was at before my boyfriend and I starting dating, this time last year. My goal weight has always been between 120 and 130, and I really need help getting back on track with that! I feel like I not only lost control since the competition, but am sort of encouraged by his family to continuing indulging because to them, I'm now the skinny version of me.

Essentially I am looking for any tips to regain control of my personal goals, and if anyone has any personal experience with binge eating in a relationship, I'd love to hear any suggestions on how to handle that situation. My boyfriend knows to some extent that I have binge eating issues, but his family clearly doesn't know that I've been triggered by them in certain instances.

I apologize if this was choppy/hard to read, just wanted to make it as short as possible! Thanks.

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  • skinnybutt12
    skinnybutt12 Posts: 5
    anyone? :(
  • moonsforeyes
    moonsforeyes Posts: 228
    Yes mam! I know how you feel. This is what you have to do: decide that this isn't a diet/competition and instead a permanent healthy lifestyle.
  • nixirain
    nixirain Posts: 448 Member
    Been there done that. I have to deal with my BF's Jewish mother that gets offended every time I don't go for 2nds. It is hard because you don't want to offend anyone, but there is a point where you just gotta tell them you are not going to eat it. I also have the issue where my BF eats anything he wants but doesn't gain any weight and whines when I don't want to eat somewhere he does. I tell him that if he really wants it really bad that I will not be mad if we don't have that meal together. He usually caves and eats something healthier.

    Its hard dealing with people who are not willing to change their lifestyle and feel guilty and jealous that you have.

    Be strong!
  • skinnybutt12
    skinnybutt12 Posts: 5
    Been there done that. I have to deal with my BF's Jewish mother that gets offended every time I don't go for 2nds. It is hard because you don't want to offend anyone, but there is a point where you just gotta tell them you are not going to eat it. I also have the issue where my BF eats anything he wants but doesn't gain any weight and whines when I don't want to eat somewhere he does. I tell him that if he really wants it really bad that I will not be mad if we don't have that meal together. He usually caves and eats something healthier.

    Its hard dealing with people who are not willing to change their lifestyle and feel guilty and jealous that you have.

    Be strong!

    wow, re-reading my post, I was having a really rough time last week! but kind of realized when you mentioned his Jewish mama, that I have probably offended my guy's family SO many times by saying no in the past year, that it would be a waste of their hurt feelings if I didn't continue to lose weight! thanks so much for helping me start putting myself first again.
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