I've never felt so helpless....

flab2fab882
flab2fab882 Posts: 14
in Motivation and Support
Why can't I stay motivated, I have so many reasons why I should lose weight, but none of them are kicking my *kitten* telling me that I NEED to lose weight. Please will someone help me! I need people to help keep me on track. And it makes it so much harder when everyone else around doesn't care what they eat or what they look like. I just wish someone could and would help me keep going....Will anyone help me?

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  • Karrix
    Karrix Posts: 288
    I know the feeling. I'm finally at a point where I see progress in my body, I'm closer to my goals, yet my family still never buys healthy foods!

    It's aggravating, my family members fill the cupboards with cookies, ice cream, chocolates. Everything I don't eat. My friends don't care much for fitness and make frequent trips to McDonalds.

    MFP Is great for people who have similar goals and lifestyle. I'll try and motivate you (:!
  • Anayalata
    Anayalata Posts: 391 Member
    If you don't have the mental prowess to do it yourself, then you gotta surround yourself with people that have similar goals.

    That's one of the main attractions of MFP. Almost everyone on these forums is here for the same purpose: To lose weight and get healthy.

    Make some new friends in here and out there. Or learn to be your own motivator. (I chose option 2)
  • BlackStarlight
    BlackStarlight Posts: 554 Member
    Hey!!
    You can do this huni I know you can welcome to MFP feel free to add me if you like xx
  • 1985ldm
    1985ldm Posts: 14 Member
    hey, im one of your mfp friends, but havent been on here since christmas, when i did well but then patted myself on the back with too many takeaways... so have gained a few pounds since then. literally this week got back on the wagon, got to the point where i felt heavy, lethargic and just guilty with myself!!! after 2 days of eating less chocolate and drinking more water feel so much better, less tired and the thought of exercise doesnt seem so bad again :) that and the lack of freezing dark evenings! bet the thing is you know youre not helpless, you just dont want to accept it. thats the hard part... but you can eat healthy without missing out on anything, and gain strength and health :) youll feel so much better eating properly. and summers coming, so salad and fruit will seem like better options anyway! mmm grapes.
  • carolinamcgraw
    carolinamcgraw Posts: 10
    so been there!! This is going to sound ridiculous-but....this way of thinking is what pushed me from nearly 200 lbs to 121 lbs. One day I decided to make good choices. Drank water or 0 calorie drinks-ate small portion lunch, small dinner, and tackled cleaning the house top to bottom....The next day-I thought i'll try that again.....by the end of the week I was honestly sick of water, wanted a cheeseburger and fries and didn't feel like doing a thing!!! but then I stepped on the scale...3lbs down!!! That pushed me to make it through the next week...ect. Sure we all have slip ups but as long as you jump back from them fast you're ok...2 up and 1 down is still better than 0 steps up. For me, losing weight helps keep me motivated to continue losing weight-and before you know it that goal you had that you'd thought you would never reach is already conquered and you're on an even better one! I can't think too far ahead-can't plan for the week, month...ect-I have to take it day by day. Tell myself that I'm going to do well today. If I say i'm going to do this and this and this during this week, I usually make a liar out of myself, but I can control what I do today-keep your goals short, simple, achievable. As you reach those-then move them a little more instead of waking up one day saying i'm going to lose 25 lbs this month-say i'm going to do my best today...Works for me most of the time:) best wishes-you can do it!!!
  • japruzze
    japruzze Posts: 453 Member
    Tough love...the only one who can help you is YOU. Wanting to get healthy can't be for anyone else, about anyone else and no one can make you do it. You have to want it for YOU. Until you decide that you are worth the time, effort, energy, etc. it takes to get healthy (not just lose weight), nothing anyone can say or do will make a difference. I had to figure that one out for myself. At 300+ lbs everyone...family and friends... were telling me I had to lose weight. I finally did it when I realized (after reading a really terrible newspaper article) that I was killing myself. I had to make a choice. It was life or food. It wasn't going to work trying to have both. It was agony but I sat my family down and said this is the year that it will be all about ME. I will be shopping and eating healthy. If you want something else, shop for it and fix it yourself. I will be exercising every day at home and/or going to the gym. That will be the first thing on my schedule so if you need something done, a ride somewhere, help with something, figure it out. I may not be available. Sounds terrible, huh? My husband stood up and started clapping...my kids joined him and I started crying. I haven't looked back since. My family is more independent and I'm still here and I intend to be here for a long time! FYI...I weigh a 153 lbs now. My ticker reflects the additional weight I'd like to lose. I've been maintaining for over a year now.
  • nnylee
    nnylee Posts: 811 Member
    It kinda sucks because you're the only one who can REALLY motivate yourself. You have a choice. Either you do something about your weight or you don't. It all comes down to how bad you want it. Good luck!
  • tinchick
    tinchick Posts: 59 Member
    Don't look at all the reasons that you need to lose weight. I have a million reasons to lose weight, but that isn't what keeps me motivated. I know that I am trying to get healthy. That is the goal. Weight loss will come with that.

    Not to mention that I go through periods where I have no motivation to eat healthy and especially exercise. They usually happen once every few months. I just allow myself to be a little lazy. I don't work out, but I try to eat pretty well. Then when my motivation comes back, I go back full force.

    Hope that helps!

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