Dealing with unsupportive friends and family

My Mother pretends to be supportive (when I talk to her about my fitness goals/weight loss etc which I usually don't bother doing) but then she goes behind my back and talks about me like I'm starving myself to death or something. I weigh what I'm supposed to weigh for my size (lost 30lbs and went from a snug 12 to a comfortable 4 in a year's time), workout 6 days a week and eat healthy so I'm not sure what exactly I'm doing wrong in her eyes. Then again, she's VERY overweight, yo-yo dieted all the time when I was little and eats like crap so I think part of seeing me succeed makes her feel her failures. Maybe that's what's going on with your friend? My way of dealing with it is to not discuss it with that person. Be proud of yourself and don't let anybody take that way from you!

Her bad feelings shouldn't stop you! Do it for you and good luck :flowerforyou:

Most people in my family besides my papa are morbidly obese. So a 120 pound family member trying to lose weight gets me a LOT of gruff from them. I just ignore it and try and incorporate some yummy healthy meals for them

Your friend needs to work out her own insecurities within herself. If she is so insecure that she feels that way toward you because you are losing weight, then maybe it's best to distance yourself. If you truly feel like she doesn't want you succeeding. Friends should be happy for each other in their successes. Not jealous.

Emotions are contagious sometimes, and I think you caught hers! The idea here, is that she's supposed to catch your positive mood.

Ask her if she wants to work out with you. Offer up info on what is working or not working for you and see if you can help her along.

If not, then maybe you just need to hang out with her less until you are further along in your progress. You can't let someone else's feelings dictate what to do with your life.

I mostly deal with my friends being VERY unsupportive of my decision of being vegan and are constantly making fun of me.
It gets to me sometimes, but all you have to remember is that you are doing this for YOU, not them. This is your life and you shouldn't feel guilty or bad because of the words they say, or the way they act. All that matters is that it makes you happy! Stay strong and don't let them bring you down. Haters are gonna hate!

I want to encourage you to do what's best for your health, your body and your own self worth. Let other people do what's best for their own health, their own body and their own self worth.

One of the reasons I haven't told my family (only my mom knows) is because I have a cousin who is really just the definition of a child and she's been on a weight loss craze for years because she has bad luck with guys and she thinks it's her weight. And she isn't overweight, she's in the healthy range for her height. But I feel like if I say "Hey guys I'm on a weight loss plan and I've lost x amount in x weeks" she'll start treating me worse than she does now. I'm 22 and she still holds a grudge because of when she babysat me at 5 years old and I threw a fit over peanuts being on a sundae she bought me.

Family, you can't really pick. Friends you feel like if they can't support you in what you're doing, then you're a bad person. (and believe me, I had a friend like that and she is no longer in my life for it) But you can't control what your friend does or doesn't do, what they weigh, or how they react to you doing anything. You've made the choice, you're sticking to it, and if there's ill feelings on their part then that is entirely their problem, not yours. If they let it hinder your friendship then it tells you how much you meant to them to begin with.

My goals are my goals and they have nothing to do with what anyone else thinks about them. I like encouragement but I don't need it to keep going because I'm not getting fit and lean for anyone else. You are not responsible for your friend's (?) feelngs. She is. When you make a decision to improve your life you will sometimes remind others of the own failures to do the same. While you can empathize with this, that is on them. Not on you. You are improving! Bravo!!

Maybe you need more supportive friends and not ones that want to hold you down and "compete" with you?

I have been extraordinarily blessed to be surrounded by people that are nothing but supportive of my journey. My parents, siblings, in laws, husband and friends have all been very good about this process -- even my five year old says lets go exercise mommy I have to burn calories.... That being said, there was a time in my life when that wasn't the case which made it very hard to progress beyond the first few pounds. Just know that it won't last forever.

Well I am very blessed to have family that is very supportive but I have one friend sometimes two who are quite annoying about it. If I eat something that isn't neccesarily 'healthy' they will be like "Oh thats got sugar/fat in it! You can't eat that or you will get fat again" its quite frustrating considering I allow myself a small treat to stop any cravings I might get later on and save myself from binging on crap.
I just don't talk to that person about weightloss or even eat around them anymore.