REALLY need advice!!!

KristenAnn711
KristenAnn711 Posts: 783
edited November 2024 in Chit-Chat
Last night I felt a little lump/nodule on my boyfriends..area...I need to tell him but I don't know if I should or what to say. Help! Guys-are there any normal lumps that maybe I felt?

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  • KristenAnn711
    KristenAnn711 Posts: 783
    Please!!
  • _binary_jester_
    _binary_jester_ Posts: 2,132 Member
    No doc, but other than the 2 hangers, no additional lumps. He should have that checked out.
  • FlyByJuly
    FlyByJuly Posts: 564 Member
    Yes, you need to tell him. It may be nothing, but he won't know unless he has it checked out. My husband is seeing his doctor tomorrow because he has a lump down yonder. Gotta get that checked out!!!
  • Celeigh12
    Celeigh12 Posts: 763 Member
    Not a guy, but think about it this way - what if it was your breast? You wouldn't want him to keep it from you because it might upset you or worry about how he said it, right? You'd just want to know so you can have it checked out. Lumps in cancer-prone areas are nothing to mess around with.

    "Babe, have you felt this? You better get it checked out to be safe."
  • _binary_jester_
    _binary_jester_ Posts: 2,132 Member
    Give it a good flick to get your point across.
  • Bookers23
    Bookers23 Posts: 187 Member
    Which area? Testicular cancer is not a Lump but a hardening and enlarging, it will also not be painful. You could squeeze it with pliers and be fine. Warts, ingrown hairs, torsion, epididymitis and a bunch of other stuff are all possibilities. For sure get it checked out and don't go googling the symptoms, you will only freak yourself out. I survived testicular cancer so any questions feel free.
  • ArtGeek22
    ArtGeek22 Posts: 1,429 Member
    Not a guy, but think about it this way - what if it was your breast? You wouldn't want him to keep it from you because it might upset you or worry about how he said it, right? You'd just want to know so you can have it checked out. Lumps in cancer-prone areas are nothing to mess around with.

    "Babe, have you felt this? You better get it checked out to be safe."

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    Keep Calm and Carry On,
    Anna
  • whitneyann0
    whitneyann0 Posts: 327 Member
    Give it a good flick to get your point across.
    :laugh:
  • AllanMisner
    AllanMisner Posts: 4,140 Member
    Ask him to drop 'em. Find the unusual lump. Grab his hand, direct it down to the lump.

    Right up until this point, you'll have his rapt attention....

    Ask him how long that lump has been there and if he doesn't say, "my whole life," make him go to the doctor.


    ETA: I'd do exactly the same thing for a gf if I found a lump on her breast.
  • jaymek92
    jaymek92 Posts: 309 Member
    Give it a good flick to get your point across.
    ^ this.
    no, but really. tell him. it could be anything. boyfriend had a bump that was painful. turned out to be an ingrown hair. in the meantime, we were freaking out trying to figure out what it could be. some weird disease? the herps from his ex (three years ago...)? who knows?
    tell him. better safe than sorry.
  • janf15
    janf15 Posts: 242 Member
    Relationships includes honesty!!! You need to tell the dude and he should get the 'lump' examined by a health care professional. It can be any number of things - including normal. That is not for anyone who does not have a medical background feel it. There is a reason my people go to school and do clinicals.
  • Cait_Sidhe
    Cait_Sidhe Posts: 3,150 Member
    Cause the longer you wait to get lumps checked out, the better the outcome? Seriously?

    If you tell him, it might save his life. Cancer is no joke.
  • 76tech
    76tech Posts: 1,455 Member
    If someone found a lump or other concerning thing on me, and decided to not tell me, I would be pissed.
  • grizzlymaze
    grizzlymaze Posts: 185 Member
    Cause the longer you wait to get lumps checked out, the better the outcome? Seriously?

    If you tell him, it might save his life. Cancer is no joke.
    I agree. It depends on where the lump is though. If its on his testis, it could be serious. If it is in his pubic hair area, it could be just an ingrown hair. This happens if he shaves or times that area. Not so much if he is all natural.

    Sorry if that was to graphic, but its better to know and we are all adults here on this site.
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    Why wouldn't you tell him?

    I would just ask "What's this?".
  • Iamkim73
    Iamkim73 Posts: 924 Member
    Which area? Testicular cancer is not a Lump but a hardening and enlarging, it will also not be painful. You could squeeze it with pliers and be fine. Warts, ingrown hairs, torsion, epididymitis and a bunch of other stuff are all possibilities. For sure get it checked out and don't go googling the symptoms, you will only freak yourself out. I survived testicular cancer so any questions feel free.

    One of the nicest, honest, real supportive posts I have seen.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I don't even understand why you wouldn't tell him. And then MAKE him get it checked out.

    My ob/gyn told me that most women who come in to get checked for a breast lump do so because their SO felt it and let them know about it.
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