A new type of support :(

Shakes
Shakes Posts: 54
edited September 19 in Motivation and Support
If pushing calories down my throat wasn't hard enough it just got harder. My husband is a Marine, and is on a 40 day deployment:brokenheart: ....Returns for two weeks :love: The leaves for a nine month deployment :sad: Along with my medicine I take, I could barely muster a handful of olives and cherry tomatoes from my garden. I don't know why...but when he is gone, eating is not a priority, which is sad because Ive learned the past week on here that Ive got to jump start my eating habits. But its soooo hard :indifferent: Any advice would be appreciated. And please nothing negative Im a crying baby missing my husband lol

Mandi

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  • VballLeash
    VballLeash Posts: 2,456 Member
    I'm so sorry to hear that... there is no negative feedback on mfp :happy: It is hard to lose when you don't eat especially the right way but you have good reasons to be having a tough time. Try setting specific times to eat, 3 meals and 2 snacks. Do you exercise? This will help with the weight loss and you will feel so much better and probably be hungrier! And don't cry... just come here to distract you and give you motivation. Good luck and stick to it :happy: :happy:

    ~Leash :heart:
  • havingitall
    havingitall Posts: 3,728 Member
    Try your best so you can look awesome when he comes home. Be proud of him, he is doing an honorable thing.
  • Nanpoodle
    Nanpoodle Posts: 41 Member
    Hello Mandi! Yes, there is great support here on myfitnesspal, so you are at the right place. Every time you want to eat the wrong foods, think of looking great for your husband upon his return from deployment. Thank him from all of us for the sacrifices he too is making for our country.:wink:
    Stay focused on being healthy and trim.....I do know that when I want to eat wrong, it helps me to think THIN and how I want to fit into those "goal" clothes or look great for an upcoming event, etc. Don't forget to count every calorie, that really works to see your proteins, fiber, etc. We are all here for you while your husband is gone, ok! :flowerforyou:
  • annaliza
    annaliza Posts: 809
    poor thing...

    I couldn't do it. I could never marry a military man that is always gone. I have to have my husband around or I go nuts.

    So kudos to you my dear. It's tough.....especially with what you are going through.

    Just hang in there and eat! Think about how fabulous you'll look when he gets back and how pleasantly surprised he will be. And think about what an awesome job he is doing for all of us. You should be very proud of the both of you.

    Keep posting on MFP...we'll keep you motivated and on track!

    Good luck to you!
  • arewethereyet
    arewethereyet Posts: 18,702 Member
    First let me say, you are beautiful just the way you are!

    What I hear you saying is you have a hard time eating to begin with, and now with the stress you are having an even harder time nourishing your body.

    I am so sorry for the pain you are feeling.

    From what I have learned in my many MANY years of living(:tongue: ) do things to take your mind off of it.

    Exercise is good and it also destresses the body. Get a 30 minute easy Yoga video. I LOL when my kid gave this to me...but it works! I am so entranced by the moves I am trying to preform, that I forget about the everyday worries. This in turn, allows my appetite to peek through.

    Try to choose high calorie, dense foods if you can only eat a litte. Nuts and berries together are great. Dont go for low cal breads..............get a full grain bread to put some peanut butter on.

    I pray you will accept the way things have to be, and find a place to feel peace in it.

    :flowerforyou: Jeannie
  • Shakes
    Shakes Posts: 54
    Thank you guys. Im crying while reading this. I manged a small pice of salmon, at the encouragement of co-workers. But, the problem is I vomited it up anyways. I cant got to gym today, to tired.
  • czewwhat
    czewwhat Posts: 8,715
    Sounds like severe anxiety or depression, have you considered medical advice for this period of time?
    There are medications that help to reduce your bodies reaction to anxiety, they might help. Be happy, and be proud of your husband. defending our way of life is a tough job! :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
  • Shakes
    Shakes Posts: 54
    Yeah, Im on kolonpin and a new one called buspirone. but im feeling like going back to valium. I mean, I dont want to be the lonely house wife on valium...but then again who does? :huh:
  • Shakes
    Shakes Posts: 54
    Another day on the list ;) But I take my placement examine in college today:indifferent:
  • HeatherMMB
    HeatherMMB Posts: 95
    Hi Shakes!
    Best wishes for the exam - you will do great!!

    I agree with 'are we there yet' - try calorie and nutrition dense foods - can you access a nutrition person to help you find the foods? how about meal replacement shakes like Ensure - so you make sure you are getting good nutrition - it's hard to overcome anxiety and depression when you are not well hydrated and nourished.
    maybe your job - whille you husband does his job - is to be the most healthy you can be so you are all there when he comes home. And, do try things to take you mind off it - I tried an exercise ball - what a hoot! once I stopped falling off and laughing at my general klutzyness it does work and it takes lots of concentration!!

    You have lots of support here - stay connected!

    wishing you peace :flowerforyou:

    H
  • keiko
    keiko Posts: 2,919 Member
    Shakes, I've been where you are. It is so hard when our husbands deploy. I know, I've been there. There is almost a grieving process we need to go through. And an adjustment time.

    For eating Jeannie has given you great advice. Keep trying because you don't want to make yourself sick by not eating. Neither you or your DH need to be concerned about that right now.

    College is a great idea! It will help you to fill some of your time and learning is always good.

    If you can try not to go back on valium. My mom was so addicted to it. I'd hate to see anyone go through what she went through. There are meds now that are very affective in treating depression and are not as addictive as valium.

    Also if you don't already find a good supportive group of friends or family. Are you living on a base? Close to a base? Check out their FROG. My church and small group from church were my support. Those friends were and still are my lifeline. When I needed to talk or when I needed help with something in the house. (Hot water tank went out, front door was broken...)
    MFP will be a good help for support but you need real people to. Also you might want to check with your prescriber for your meds to see if they have or know of a support group for you. Sometimes talking it through with others in the same boat helps alot. Are you seeing someone for therapy or only taking meds. I've seen with friends that the two together work really good.

    I wish you the best and thank you to not only your husband for his service but also to you. They can't serve if we don't support them. So thank you for the sacrifice that you are making.
    :flowerforyou:
  • Shakes
    Shakes Posts: 54
    Thank you guys so much for your positive messages! FYI I do have the yoga ball, and being a former ballerina I was clumsy and falling off every few minutes also! After laughing at myself for so long I realized, I was at least burning calories laughing:bigsmile: Exams went good.I probably would have tested better if I wasn't on my break from my split shift.....Note to self...Exams dont work out very well on lunch breaks before second shifts:noway:
  • RecliningFigure
    RecliningFigure Posts: 214 Member
    Here's an idea. Use the 9 months to perfect healthy dishes that you and he would love. Plan out all the wonderful meals you will have together when he gets back. This way, you are focused on what a wonderful and healthy time you guys will have when he gets back, you will be working with food (and eating it while doing this), you will be working on making healthy and delicious dishes (become an expert griller, or great at stir fry, or perfect the best chocolate chip cookie (modified of course)), and you will be focused on something other than you're not with him.
  • adopt4
    adopt4 Posts: 970 Member
    Think of food as fuel for your body. You're a dancer, you know this. :wink: Schedule your meals in advance and eat them when you're supposed to. Your metabolism will slow way down if you don't. Drink your water.

    And to keep from missing hm all the time... like others have said, make a plan to do things, learn something new (origami?), volunteer at a Boys and Girls club (dance class!), volunteer at a children's hospital... Join a support group with others like you. Or start one!

    Nothing shameful about medication helping you thru a hard time.

    You may also have some food allergies or intolerances that are not helping in this situation of stress?

    Try an ounce at a time - that's not really very much - a protein shake, whatever, and then wait 15-30 mins before having another ounce. Like what the doctors tell people to do when they have that bariatric surgery where they bypass the stomach... only with you, you want to put in what your body can manage at a time. Also, make sure you're hydrated.

    And seriously, if you can't eat for a few days, yeah, you'll feel like crap... but as long as in a few days you can start eating right again, you can pull yourself up from the depression, then a few days of not eating is not going to permanently harm you.

    You CAN do this!

    ETA Married to a Marine (now out of the service) and damn proud of those guys.
  • BrendaLee
    BrendaLee Posts: 4,463 Member
    That must be so hard for your hubby to be gone for so long...I'm a single mom, and my daughter is leaving for 10 days, and I'm wondering how I will get through it. Seriously, I'm a big baby too.

    You do have good motivation to eat right and exercise though...when he comes home after so long away, you will look even more amazing for him. :flowerforyou:
  • GreenEyedMonster
    GreenEyedMonster Posts: 803
    I'm so sorry to hear that... there is no negative feedback on mfp :happy: It is hard to lose when you don't eat especially the right way but you have good reasons to be having a tough time. Try setting specific times to eat, 3 meals and 2 snacks. Do you exercise? This will help with the weight loss and you will feel so much better and probably be hungrier! And don't cry... just come here to distract you and give you motivation. Good luck and stick to it :happy: :happy:

    ~Leash :heart:

    Definately get some cardio in there... Since I've been doing my 4x per week runs I've been hungry all the time but it's weird cuz I fill up faster too. 'course that my be from all the water I've been drinking post workout too.

    Kudos to your Marine too. Those guys make my job seem a lot more important in the Air Force.
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