Beating Self Sabotage

Hi, I'm not going to be able to give you any ways to help you, since , I'm the Queen of self-sabotage, myself. But maybe together we could come up with the whys and the ways to STOP doing it. If someone tells me they can tell I've lost weight, it seems like I'm immediately eating all I can to prove them wrong. I'll send a friend request to you.

Let me know when you find the answer! I have had a horrible horrible horrible self sabotaging week! The only solution I have come up with is to jump off a bridge and get the sabotage over with quickly LOL any help and advice would be appreciated!

Last week, after jumping up four pounds in one day with no sign of it going anywhere for a week, and I ended up eating an entire batch of frozen cookie dough balls, a medium pizza, and a stuffed cheese bread in two days along with who knows what. I finally realized that watching those numbers on the scale was driving me crazy, so I set myself a new goal that will help me move in the right direction anyway. I started Couch to 5K so I have all kinds of mini-goals to meet and an ultimate goal to reach for and it gets me out of the house and away from the food and gives me something else to think about.

Maybe figuring out how to distract yourself will be enough. Every time you find yourself reaching for things you know don't fit with your goals, give yourself something else to do: take a walk, clean something, do whatever it is that you love to do that doesn't involve food.

We make our own weaknesses. Every time we give in, we make them stronger. Find what you love to do and not love it. Don't let food be the thing that defines you. It's the fuel that keeps our bodies going, but it's not everything.

You can do anything you put your mind to!

Personally, I had some rather deep-rooted fears of what successful weight loss meant for me, almost a repercussion if you will... I have always used weight as both a way to keep people at a distance, both emotionally as well as physically, and it was also the one thing I felt I could control in this chaotic world I call my life... Again, I didn't realize I did this for a very long time.

i so relate to this observation......as soon as someone mentiones that i have lost weight or i see it on the scale i just started eating like there is no tomorrow....good luck to all of us:flowerforyou:

I am so happy that I am not the only one who loses weight and then gets scared and puts it back on (and then some :grumble: !) I don't know what the problem is - I clearly am afraid of losing weight (as kealey said - i am scared of what successful weight loss means), but I really really hate being so overweight - I hate getting dressed in the morning and having to find something that looks nice and hides all the fat and I hate being asked when the baby is due (the baby is 4 years old!! :embarassed: ).

I am also a self-saboteur... Sometimes it helps to journal about how you are feeling when you actively are looking to eat outside of your planned menu. Also, there's the whole phone a friend possibility. Lastly, forgiveness is key for me. We are our own harshest critics and are quick to crucify ourselves for stepping off the path. The longer it takes you to forgive yourself, the longer you will sabotage yourself from success.

Personally, I had some rather deep-rooted fears of what successful weight loss meant for me, almost a repercussion if you will... I have always used weight as both a way to keep people at a distance, both emotionally as well as physically, and it was also the one thing I felt I could control in this chaotic world I call my life... Again, I didn't realize I did this for a very long time.

Hope that what I said makes sense and that it might help someone else... It will always be a struggle for me but I feel I am definitely in a better frame of mind than before I acknowledged these truths.

Kindest regards and best wishes on whatever path your journey takes you on!

This might be the key right here! I have been looking into my fears of success and what could happen if I was successful. I am thinking maybe a little counselling may be the key for me. Thanks for making those thoughts whispered inside my head come out!

You speak such wisdom. This is so me. I know I have used my weight as a way to feel safe. I had some issues as a child that have affect me through the years. I'm trying to let those issues dissolve away. We all need to realize we are worth the effort.. Good luck to all of us. Feel free to add me as a friend, if any of you would like too.