Anyone else struggling with support at home?

All you can do is actually use the gym to prove it won't be a waste of money. Actions speak louder than words, right?

Can you do a 2 week trial to see if it's something that you would like? They usually let you go for 1-2 weeks for free. Or you can try out a gym that has month to month contracts I personally like working out at home. I've joined gyms but I felt like I did and used the same things all the time. So I bought an elliptical, a stationary bike and all of Jillian's DVDs. All worked out to be cheaper then paying for a membership every month. What ever you decide... You will do great

the way i see it, pay the gym membership so you will HAVE to go. even if he wont go with you or sign up, maybe he'll change his mind later after seeing you go to the gym consistantly. good luck!

See, when I read this, I think..hey...this is what you want to do...You don't need the family support. You are the one who got yourself here...but on a brighter note...you can go for a trial at the gym.. I did and it wasn't for me. Look up Harley Pastornik... or "the Revolution" tv show. He shows you exercises to do w/o going to a gym. Not everyone can afford a gym or likes it...and still get fit doing other things.

This is VERY similar to what I encountered when I started lifting... my husband was very skeptical and is naturally a penny pincher... so I knew I'd have to convince him. I basically just buried myself in it... I became obsessed. Which is how I approach anything I'm interested in anyway. I bought NROLFW, Starting Strength... read StrongLifts, etc. I ate, slept and breathed it for two solid months. I used his ****ty weights he brought with him when we got married, his old bench/squat rack... they suck, and they are a mishmash that really pissed me off at first... he has an oly bar but only two 45 lbs plates! LOL... so, I have a calculator and I count out the stupid regular weights and use the smaller bar each time... and I've been doing this for two months now. My *kitten* looks really, really good... and my husband likes it. And he is really surprised I'm STILL doing it...

Now he peruses Craigslist looking for a power rack for our garage... WIN!! He's on board after two months of me digging in and doing this, learning it from reading books that are rather boring at times, but I want a squatter's *kitten* and nice arms/shoulders bad enough that I'm still doing it... sometimes in the morning, sometimes at midnight... I keep doing it, so he has to notice!!

Good luck, stick with it if you like it and want it bad enough... he will notice. All the *****ing and yelling in the world won't work like consistency will.

Tell him that if he lets you, he gets a little cardio when you get home from the gym. ;D He'll be pushing you out the door to go, haha!

In all seriousness, though, there are some great ideas in this thread. See if you can line up a bunch of free trials at different gyms back to back and see which one you like best. You could get several weeks for free out of it if you plan it just right.

The budget meeting is also a fantastic idea, as is making a list of what areas in your budget to trim to make room for it. Hell, if you can find enough spots, maybe you can make gym bonding time for the two of you with a second membership.

You need to do what YOU want to do. If you want to join a gym, then go for it. I was one of those people who thought "oh I'll work out at home" and bought all kinds of equipment, DVDs, etc., would start them and then got bored or just didn't have time. Finally my good friend suggested we join together. She was doing a yoga class, but was restricted to 1 night a week and if she worked late or had something with her kids, she missed it and that was it.

We like the idea of being able to go to the gym whenever we want and not being limited to a certain night/time of the week.

At first, my husband, was like "you don't need a gym....just follow me around for a few days and you'll lose weight". He has his own business in home improvement/construction and can still wear clothes from when he graduated high school (he'll be 45). Makes ya sick, doesn't it???

But when we joined the gym, we only did the month-to-month and not the 24 month contract. It may cost a little more, but if we decide that it's not for us or we just don't want to do it anymore, we can get out of it.

I struggle with this too. I want to be able to go to a gym but ours closes at 8pm so in order for me to get there at 7pm to work out for around 1 hour, my husband would have to put the kids to bed on his own. Since the triplets all still share a room, this is not always easy and so he won't do it (although I do it on my own most nights!) and the result is that I can't go. It seems unfair but it is a balance to our house that I agreed to when the girls were born and I do love my luxury of being a stay at home mum, I just wish there was a way to get fit at the same time but wilth no time between 7:30am and 9pm without at least 3 children (we have 4) I just can't find a way around it. I'm starting the C25k this week and will do it in the morning before the kids get up (around 5am then!!) but getting fit is what I need to do so I will find a way, regardless.
If its your money paying for the gym and you really want to go for it then you don't really need his say so. Is there another way that you can keep fit for now that will work until he is more confident in your finances to support your new lifestyle?

Also this:

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/771-women-strength-training