Gaining is as hard as losing

oh i totally understand this. i had to gain a lot for health reasons it was seriously not easy. but for my it was psychological. once i started eating i couldnt stop gaining, i say couldnt stop abuse ruined my body processes so eating 800 calories was like 3000 to my system acording to my dietician. but im not a naturally big person anyway and even when i am the size i am now which is still very small people are still like eat food, stop starving and im like im not!! i get where you are coming from. i think here its also assumed that most people are here just to loose. i like to think its just for fitness really but i think im a minority.

My mom is a teacher by day, personal trainer/wellness coach by night. Most of her clients are trying to lose weight, but she just got a client who is desperately trying to gain weight the healthy way. She is 27, 5'3", and weighs 100 lbs. She does not have an eating disorder, and has had a child, but lost all the baby weight (it was only 40 lbs) within 3 months of having her child with breastfeeding. She and her brother are both the same way, can eat and eat, but their metabolisms are incredibly high. My mom has her on a very high calorie diet, has her drinking 3 protein shakes a day, and has her eating at least twice as much as I do in a given day, and the girl has gained maybe a couple pounds in the last few weeks.

I have NEVER had a problem gaining weight, in fact, I'm really good at it. I could probably teach a class on it. But I imagine that wanting to put on weight the HEALTHY way and just not being able to has to be as frustrating as the weight loss challenge. She is just as self conscious about her body as many of us overweight people are. At the end of the day, we all just want to be healthy!

I am sorry anyone made you feel bad. People love to judge one another without knowing the whole story and it's terrible. Although I am wayyyy over weight, my older sister has always been naturally slim and everyone is always commenting how she needs to eat more. But she does eat. A lot actually and, I can see how irritated she gets, she is just small. Try not to let people get to you. Make sure you include lots of protein and healthy fat in your diet. Hope you get the results you are looking for.

No one on MFP has made fun of me for my goals. I understand that a lot of people will not relate to me but no one has put me down even if their goals are entirely different from mine. It was just initially hard to find the support that I felt like I needed but now I have a great support team and I'm gaining pretty steadily. People in "real life" however, are an entirely different story. Yes they tend to be judgmental. The majority seem to think you can just eat a hamburger and your problems are solved when that's not quite the case.