Friend made me feel bad about myself..or I'm I just a sensit

Senstivy u r doing it the proper wau not needing a opeartion so just remeber that

I totally agree! You are doing it the right way, remember - slow and steady wins the race!

Don't feel bad, she is the one that went the "easy" way..... you are doing a life changing operation and this will take long for longer results......
17 lbs is not "that's it ?" 17 lbs is " wow great job ...."

Ignore her. She took the easy way out. In addition, there are so many health issues associated with bypass surgery. And, since she did not deal and come to terms with what made her overweight, she will most likely gain all the weight back (a large number of people who have this sugery gain a large amount of weight back after 5 years).

You are doing this the correct way. Please have no worries. If she gives you crap about how you are losing weight, she is no friend.

Keep on trucking along. And, remember, we are all here to support you.

I can understand why your feelings would be hurt. You want her to be happy for you. You want her to notice the effort! The truth is, no one can MAKE us feel something that isn't already in us. I'm wondering if you have a tendency to judge yourself harshly. When we have trouble being proud of ourselves, then every time anyone doesn't acknowledge our hard work we feel that much more defeated. Every step you take toward your own better health is admirable and worthy celebration, whether others acknowledge it or not. Congratulations on your accomplishments and keep up the good work! You're worth it!

Let it roll off of you.

You're handling things correctly. Keep it up.

I am sorry your friend made that comment, the hormone fluctuations after surgery are insane.. where as what she said was wrong and insensitive, It is really frustrating when people look at those who had surgery to assist with getting healthy with judgmental eyes and say well you are doing it the wrong way or the easy way..

surgery is a very difficult decision and perm life change. Yes some people have abused it , BUT there are whose life depend on it so lets not get all on the WLS surgery band wagon and bash all the people who live day to day for the rest of their life with the decision to have to have the surgery to help live longer lifes for the ones they love.

Congrats on your weight loss sweets!!! 17 lbs is amazing and you are looking fabulous!!! dont let anyone or anything make you feel bad about your hard work those that matter are proud of you

Don't feel bad, she is the one that went the "easy" way..... you are doing a life changing operation and this will take long for longer results......
17 lbs is not "that's it ?" 17 lbs is " wow great job ...."

Agree completely^^

Even though a lot of people will disagree & get mad at me for saying this, I consider bypass surgery the "easy way" to lose weigh - unless it is medically necessary.
I would rather battle the scale for the rest of my life than take a chance on something that is not guaranteed. It is not the miracle cure for weightloss because there is no such will be happy when I reach my goal weight knowing that I did it on my own.
It is not the miracle cure (there is no such thing) & it works for SOME people, but not everyone. As proof - Carnie Wilson is having her second bypass surgery.

Never let anyone get you down... This is for you and your life! 17 LBS is a heck of an accomplishment.. I usually lose "inches" versus lbs.. and as long as you know you put in the work who cares what anyone THINKS? It was a bit insensitive to say "I don't see it..." but it isn't for her to see- YOU know it!

Keep going and show them what hard work does!

In my life I know several people who have had the gastric bypass and/or lapband surgery. I'm not here to bash the people who do, but for the ones I know, not a single one has been successful in the long run. I wish every one success in whatever path they follow. After years of yo-yo dieting, I believe that I've finally found the one thing that wll work for me long-term. I started my journey at 290 pounds, didnt even bother taking "before" pictures, as I felt that I was doomed to fail. My mindset right but the staggering amount of weight I had to lose was frightening. Now 23 weeks later at 222 pounds, I'm convinced that this path is the one I can live with the rest of my life.

I still have a long way to go but I started setting 10 pound goals. At every 10 pounds, I would reward myself with something related to my new life changes. Things like a high tech bathroom scale, a high tech food scale to replace the rinky dinky $4 scale I used to measure my dogs food out each day, an HRM, a new pair of walking shoes, water weights for the pool, a Skinny Ms. Crockpot cookbook, etc. I got forward to looking for those 10 pound rewards. Plus I've gone from wearing a size 24-26 to wearing an XL top and 16 pants/shorts and lost a shoe size. LOL

Like I tell my friends, every pound, every part of a pound, is a victory to be celebrated (just not with food). At this point in your journey 17 pounds may not sound as good as what your friend is losing, but I honestly believe in the grand scheme of things, when you reach your ultimate goal, you will be thrilled you did it the way you did.

So be proud of every pound, every ounce that you lose. Don't let others pull you down or make you feel less worthy. YOU are worthy and you WILL succeed if you stick with the changes as lifestyle changes and not just as a diet.

Look at it this way....Imagine 17 pounds of butter. That's what you have lost!!!! It may not look like it right away in the mirror, but you really have lost that much. Keep your chin and you motivation up. You didn't gain it over night and you're not going to lose it over night.

Truthfully you don't know what she was thinking. Sometimes we have negative self talk and all of a sudden we convince ourselves that we know what someone was thinking about us when indeed we really aren't certain. So, be confident and rejoice in your weight loss~ you are doing great! So is your friend and her struggles are her own. You both desire the same outcome for yourselves and I imagine want the best for each other too.

:blushing: My fat fingers hit the send button before I meant them to:
There are going to be a lot of people who will disagree with me saying this, but I consider bypass surgery the "easy way out" when it comes to weightloss - unless it is medically necesary.
It is not a miracle cure because there is no such thing for weightloss. It does not work for everyone. As an example, Carnie Wilson is having her second bypass surgery soon.
I would rather battle the scale for the rest of my life than do something that is NOT guaranteed to work for the rest of my life. I will be happy when I reach my goal weight knowing that I did it on my own.

Great Job on your 17lbs. Just keep doing what you are doing and stay focused. It has taken me 3 years to lose 50lbs. I learned what works and what doesn't work in those 3 years. This is a life time change, you don't need to make it fast you need to make it last.

Good Luck and stay strong.

wasn't through...........

"and it takes about 12 weeks for the rest of the world.

KEEP GOING!"



now I'm through.