Question for the men -- Male libido.

Sweetness023
Sweetness023 Posts: 70
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So I've been curious about this for quite some time.

I'm sure most, if not all of you have heard at some point in your life that all men want sex, 24/7, it's all they ever think about. etc. etc.

The reason I'm asking is because between the past two relationships I've had, it's kind of gone from one extreme to another. From one wanting sex every day but being satisfied with getting it every 3 days to the other going up to 2 weeks without showing any hint of arousal.

So, my questions to you are;

What would you consider to be a healthy sex life and what would your ideal sex life be like?
What do you think about the stereotypical stigma that is attached to the male libido?

Inquiring minds would like to know. :)

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  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    Shockingly men are not robots,we have moods and highs and lows too.
    I don`t think a mans sex drive is any stronger then a ladys,just a bit more consistent.
  • xHelloQuincyx
    xHelloQuincyx Posts: 884 Member
    im the one who always wants it.
    and 90% of the time i initiate it
    my ideal would prolly be twice a day.
    and be way more spontanious, with him initiating more
    the actuality is once a week or less right now.

    with college and opposite work scheduals (his job being much more demanding then mine), it dosnt leave much time for even dates.
  • neverstray
    neverstray Posts: 3,845 Member
    It depends on the guy and the age.

    In my 20s and 30s, pretty much 3 or 4 times a day is what I needed. I was always horny and anything would remind me of that fact.

    Now though, I definitely feel my libido slowing down a lot. I can actually look at women, and not be aroused or think something really nasty I would like to do to them right there and then. I see this as an improvement in my personality because I'm not clouded with sex all the time. I can actually enjoy the company of women without having an end game in mind. Believe me, this is really a big deal. Younger guys have no idea what I am talking about and will deny that they think this way. It's not until they are older that they will look back and realize it. And, I understand that not all guys are total horn dogs. But, most are, IMO.

    Anyway, if I was "with" someone when I was younger, yes, I would want sex constantly. On weekends, it wouldmbe multiple times a day. During the week, at least once a day. But, now, I'm cool with once a week or whatever. It's just not on my mind, just when it happens it happens.
  • CharlieBarleyMom
    CharlieBarleyMom Posts: 727 Member
    My ex husband finally owned up to it being "all about the chase". When we were first dating and first living together, before we actually got married, sex was fantastic, plentiful and phenomenal and not the least bit boring. Even on our wedding night we did not have sex. On our honeymoon I had to beg him to stay in bed... and I think we may have had sex once during the 10 days we were in Monterey California... and we never ever did it outside in the beautiful weather (either there or back home).

    After 2 breakups he owned up to the fact that, even though he advertised how much he was "into" sex and told me of all his conquests while he was in the Navy ... that sex was okay for him... he said that he figured out that it was all about the chase and that once he "got me" (marriage) he didn't have to pursue it hard anymore....

    We were 29 when we got married and we were separated 3 years later so we were both still relatively young.
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    I'm happy with once a day. I'd be happier with 2 or 3 times a day. It's not all I think about, but it is a very important issue in a relationship to me.
  • viper_7
    viper_7 Posts: 14
    Majority of men do want sex and think about it on a regular basis. It's part of what being a man is all about. We are hard-wired to looking for a potential mate and on the look-out for sex. To procreate, to pass on our genes, to ensure humans survive. The gatherer/hunter. This drive is strongest between 18-35.

    In the animal kingdom it's the male in the main that initiates sex - for survival.
    In only a few animals is sex actually enjoyable, thankfully we one of of those species.
    It's also why men do look at other women - for sex and for spreading our seed.
    also why men *kitten* if they have not had sex for a while - to ensure the sperm are kept in tip-top condition.
    It's also why sperm from two (or more guys) actually fight it out - to ensure their genes are the ones that are passed on - the stronger gene.

    Personally several times a week. If less then, pretty much start crawling up the walls!

    As humans with magnificent brains, we think too much into it - bring in emotions, ask questions like you are.
    At the end of the day we are just animals having sex!

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