Husband Thinks This is Idiotic...

My husband gets a little insecure that I'm so obsessed with this. At one time his mom had lost a bunch of weight and started getting attention from everyone but her husband, so she ended up cheating on his dad. They ended up getting a divorce after 25 years of marriage. So of course everytime my husband sees that I have been successful at losing weight he gets a little worried that I'm going to find someone new. I understand how he can feel this way, but I have to keep reminding him that his parents fate is not ours, we make our own fate and that I would never hurt him. Plus the difference is that he constantly compliments me where his dad never complimented his mom.

Now my husband and I are trying to lose the weight together, that makes him feel a little better, like I'm not going to leave him behind!!

C-ella,

I am sorry your husband is bein a turd (oops did I say that). I told my fiance and he didnt say anything. Of course he has agreed to eat all the healthy things that I need to make, so I figure that is good, I dont have to prepare 2 different meals..........I think you gotta just do what YOU need to do, and not worry about it. Explain that you would like the support from him......and if that doesnt work, tell him you'll trade in the calorie counting here for online porn featuring those more fortunate then him.......ok, teasing. You have MFP........keep it up and dont worry about it doll.

Well, the important thing to do is, not look for another excuse as to why you cant do this.

We can blame the spouse, the kids, our long hours at work... when in all reality.... it all just adds up to another lame excuse. The best thing to do is to work on your program in private - and prove him wrong!

Best of luck to you!

My husband thinks my calorie counting, exercise, etc... is foolish.

When he saw me online putting in my food info, he rolled his eyes and laughed.

Just wondering if any of you have or are dealing with anything similar?

It hurts my feelings. I would love to have my husband's encouragement and support, but realize that is not realistic.

Except for all of you - and my mother who's also trying to lose weight - I feel quite alone!

Carrie

It is funny you posted this .. my boyfriend is exactly the same way ... last night he was bbq'ing big fat steaks, baked potatoes chips and dip , and I told him well since you are cooking I am gonna go workout - I actually increased my intensity of my workout as well , but ALL the while ... HE and OUR roommate , are cracking up , asking me if I want a beer while I work out :noway: LOL he comes down the the garage while I am on treadmill asking if I need a beer ! LOL ... They both sat there making fun of me all night while I logged in my food , but you know what , First I do not NEED the support of anyone OTHER than myself first .... secondly .. each of them with a trip to baskin robbins afterwards ATE about a 2500 calorie meal and both suffered with belly aches... LOL... It also gives me great motivation to look at them both with their beer bellies while I actually am doing something about it ......

So my Words to you ... depend on yourself first ! Believe in yourself first and love yourself first.... then when others belittle you , know that it is their OWN insecurities that posses them to act that way to make themselves feel better .... I really think it is humorious and I use it for my motiviation !!

Keep doing what you are doing !!