need motivation and reason to keep going.

Hi Wendy, such a great job you are doing! I had the same even though we both needed to lose. I think it has a lot to do with their insecurity that you might want to leave when you get to your goal. dont listen when he says you will not get there. you will! never ever give up! you are worth it! I didnt have as much to lose but I understand the spouse thing. Now he is on here too and my greatest supporter. Just make sure you reassure him you are not going anywhere! give him extra attention if need be. kill him with kindness so to speak! I will add you too. you can do this! you got it!

hi Wendy! if you would like to add me you can! i feel like i'm doing this thing alone at times too since my hubby is encouraging but not eating healthy like i am. it gets tiring making different meals. but i'm happy with my progress and i figured being 30 i needed to start to lose my weight now and be healthy for my daughter so she doesn't have a poor body image like i struggled with. so you can do this!! don't give up!!

Keep at for yourself and your children and grandchildren, not for him. He may be insecure and worries that if you lose the weight, you might leave him. I'm sure that is not the case, but sometimes husbands feel that way wheter or not they can admit it. Its great that you have lost 25 pounds. I have twin grandsons, so I can promise you that you are going to need all the energy that you can get, So stay the course, you will be so glad you did. Take encouragement from wherever you can get it and be proud of yourself.

I am here for you. Your husband sounds like a creep.He is sabotaging you. I am sorry but men who dislike women who are overweight have some serious problems. This is your life. You are a beautiful women. I have a 169lbs to lose and my husband still loves me. You can totally do this. I think the reason why he is doing that has more to do with his own fears of aging than your weight. Your sweet body gave birth to beautiful children. Love yourself and don't accept that from a DAMM MAN! Sorry, but when i hear of men giving women a hard time because of their weight it makes me very angry.

~ The first step is understanding that this journey is all about you ! Sure it would be nice if he acknowledged your efforts and had something nice to say ... but the truth is ... it is YOU that needs to acknowledge your own efforts and be proud of the steps you are taking to a healthier lifestyle.

Forget about giving up ... those words don't exist anymore. Your here for a reason ... your calling out for support because you need it ... well here it is ... you are not alone ... and this community will support you every step of the way !

I guarantee he will notice when you get to your goals ... one big factor will be your confidence level and how you carry yourself. The beauty of this journey is how you feel along the way .... don't depend on anybody else to make you work for it ... hold yourself accountable .... allow others to guide and support you.

There is no better feeling in the world that compares with success ... especially when it is YOU that accomplished it ! Get up, get moving .... and make a difference. Don't allow anybody to hold you back ... YOU GOT THIS !

Best of luck my friend ... :flowerforyou:

Hi Wendy!

I have to agree with AnnaBellj. I would also like to say that you should stick with it and reach your goal. By achieving your goal he may be more supportive in the future.

I think you are on the right track - you will find lots of support here. If you are interested you can add me as a friend and I will be happy to offer a males perspective and support


Hope this helps,


Michael

Just remember who you're doing this for. YOU!!! Yes, it would be nice if your husband said something positive. I know it would be great to hear that he notices that your hard work is paying off, but it doesn't sound like it's going to happen anytime soon.

I don't know if you watch the Biggest Loser, this weeks episode, I just wanted to smack Chris' husband Roy when he begged her to come home instead of insisting that she stay there and continue to get healthy.

My husband has been so supportive and happy to see me make the effort to be healthy. There have been times when he has wanted to throttle me when I've gone over board or get a little smug about my diet and exercise, but he wants me to be healthy.

Stay positive and keep on working on yourself. You can change his attitude.

My husband said somethig similar to me when I first started, and I'll be damned if it didn't make me work harder! I am doing this for me; therefore, I don't need his validation or encouragement. If you are not getting support at home, lean on your friends here. Feel free to add me and we can continue despite our husbands! You got this girl!

I am here for support if you want it. I just started on MFP last week. You can do this! I tell myself that every day. I want to lose a total of 50 pounds. I have only lost 7 so far but I only starting working out 8 weeks ago.

my two cents:

you have to do this FOR YOU. You cant do this for anyone else. YOU have to kick your own butt, no excuses, just do it.

Nothing worth having is EASY

Good luck I know you have the inner strength to meet and exceed this challenge.

I have a bunch of stuff written on my bedroom mirror, and it helps!!"

"So what if it takes a year. That year will pass anyways! Be in it for the long haul!"

"If you are tired of starting over, STOP giving up!"

"You can throw in the towel, or you can use it to wipe the sweat off your face!"

"Suck it up, and one day you won't have to suck it in!"


And my absolute favorite!:

"No matter how slow you go, you are still lapping everybody on the couch!!!!"

You can do this! Look how far you've come already!

Wow, look at what you've accomplished so far with little to no support at home. That says a lot about your own internal strength and dedication! It stinks that your husband is not there for you, but you've proven that while you'd prefer him to be, you don't really need him to be on board with you in order to do this. You sound like an amazingly strong woman. Don't let your husband's issues, whatever they may be, get in the way of you reaching the goal that you've already proven you are capable of achieving. There's a ton of support from other strong, amazing people here at your fingertips; people just waiting to cheer you on! I wish you the best of luck and look forward to seeing your success story up here one day with your before and after pics! Good luck!:flowerforyou:

Wendy -

You have some wonderful events going on and congrats on your daughter dieting with you and the upcoming grandbabies!!! I lived that life....with someone so much like that~~ so I know all too well the inner turmoil it creates.

What I can say from the other side is ... fight for your rights to be the person you wish to be...refuse to give up...It takes only your steps to make something happen not someone else's.. do what you feel is necessary to reach your goals and believe in yourself.

Insecure people try to belittle you and discount all your efforts...which is what he is doing. When you have confidence in your own self... it takes the power from them ---Own your own power. He does not have the power to make you feel like giving up. Shrug off his comments or lack of them. You do not need his comments to validate taking care of yourself. Use it as a resolve...show him you CAN and WILL succeed. While it would be nice to get the support from him in the end you don't need it. You may decide you don't need him because he isn't supporting your desires.

You've lost 25 lbs without it!!! Keep going. That is ALOT of work you did. Good & Hooray for you!!!! You have MY SUPPORT!!!!

Hey Wendy I know how hard losing weight can be I just started 3weeks ago and the more encouragement the better, feel free to add me:flowerforyou:

Congratulations on your weight loss! 25 pounds is great! You can definitely find support and encouragement here. Keep up the good work!!