21LBS gone in 3 weeks!!!!!!!

That is a lot of weight, even at that starting weight. She may not listen to you at first because the weight is coming off so quickly, but that is likely to slow down. Not only will it slow down, but it is hard to maintain that kind of diet. Continue to support her and tell her that she is doing a great job but that you are concerned for her in the long run. Perhaps printing out some articles for her or ask her to join mfp and read up diet and nutrition (stalling and starvation mode). She may not listen now, but as she becomes frustrated, she may be more willing. Suggest that you both speak with a nutritionist or trainer at the gym. Good luck. In the end she will do what she wants, so just keep plugging away at your goals and educate yourself as well and hopefully she will see that you are both in this together.

Actually, since she weighs that much ,it isnt uncommon for her to drop that much weight the first few weeks. A lot of it is probably water weight too. But, with how much she weighs she should increase her intake just for health reasons. But sometimes they have to figure it out on their own, especially if they are the type to think stuff like that.

Actually, since she weighs that much ,it isnt uncommon for her to drop that much weight the first few weeks. A lot of it is probably water weight too. But, with how much she weighs she should increase her intake just for health reasons. But sometimes they have to figure it out on their own, especially if they are the type to think stuff like that.

This!

Being that large, 21lbs in a short time is going to be quite normal. It's only 6% of her body weight. If she had lost approx. 30% in that time, THEN I would be worried, but 21lbs is a good start for her. Her body was probably just waiting for the day to get rid of it. Going from 5000 cals to a low cal diet is probably very good for her.

Just make sure you tell her to have something to eat after her workouts. Eventually, with the weight gone, I'm sure she'll up her workout intensity. It's gotta be tough moving around with all that excess poundage.

Be supportive of it and make sure she doesn't stop eating ENTIRELY. Encourage 1200 cals per day, and encourage lots of fruits, veggies, lean meats, and exercise. BUT! That being said, you're a good friend for being concerned. I'd be happy to have a friend like you!

The much weight loss wouldn't be all that unusual because she has a rather high starting weight and was eating a lot of calories to begin with, there's also probably a lot of water weight lost as well. Slashing calories like that is likely to shock the system, i'm sure. She's probably pumped that she's seeing this weight loss and that's good if it it motivates her for a short time but substantial losses will begin to get harder for her to attain. I wouldn't be that concerned - YET. If she starts incorporating exercise then she will have to up her calories, no ifs ands or buts about it. I'm not saying that it's healthy but if it keeps her on the bandwagon in the short term, anything helps. I would be careful on how to brooch the subject because she will get defensive.

Also, what kinds of foods is she consuming? Is junk food or does it have substantial nutritional value? I know that when I started eating healthily I found it difficult to eat my allotted 1,400 calories because I was eating so many veggies and proteins that kept me full. I've found a balance but it did take me awhile.

Well done on your 11lbs!
I agree with last post, you may need to let her do it her way and when she asks for help or advice be ready with a friendly smile. She won't be able to sustain the calories for that long and will work out what is good to eat and what not.
You are doing a great job though!

being at 375 is alot of weight...so it will be easier for her to lose large amounts of weight with a radical diet change (like how they do on the show biggest loser). it's more important when you start to establish all of the habits; eating/working out.

i'd probably let her do her thing and when she starts to plateau be there to help her...if she thinks your concern is jealousy then she isn't going to listen to anything you have to say anyow.

I want to cry. I was really proud of my progress of losing 33 pounds from a starting weight close to 375, but some of you are acting like it is so normal for someone my size to shed 21 pounds. I lost 5 pounds easy, the rest is fully supported by a calorie deficit. One that is calculated as carefully as possible. I weigh, measure and record and I use a fitbit and bodybugg to ensue I am not overstating my calorie burn.


Take it back (sobbing):sad:

Everyone is different! don't be discouraged! I think losing 33lbs is FANTASTIC! we all go at our own pace and what is good for you may not be good for everyone and what is good for someone else may not be good for you... all that matters is that you're doing what's good for you! and what works for YOU! :flowerforyou:

As for the original poster, as previous people have said, it could be her water weight and ask her to make sure to be watching it because under 1200/calories per day is not good for anyone, regardless of weight! Tell her how you're using MFP and see if it's something she'd be into trying... tell her, it never hurts to try!