Can't stop sabotaging myself

Start a journal to write your feelings? Or go to a gym to work through your feelings and not eat them. Even posting on here keeps your hands busy so you might find reaching out to friends might help you a lot.

The best thing would be to keep a journal. Even though I keep messing up, I try to find out why I went back to my old habits and then work to fix it. So perhaps this will help you as well.

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/562727-the-power-of-positive-thinking

You have to love yourself and believe you are worth the effort. Forgiveness when you slip is also an important step in your journey.

Sorry if this sounds harsh, but its pretty much what a friend said to me recently when I was whinging about my lack of weight loss.

Stop making excuses and just do it.

Pretty straight forward. Take it slowly. You can do it, you just have to believe in yourself that you can.

For me eating more has helped - it made me look at what I eat and make healthy changes, and knowing I CAN eat has made a big difference in what I eat, I know I'm going to be eating regularly and that if I'm hungry I can have something without it sending me into 'I've had one so I might as well eat the rest' frame of mind.

I eat when I get angry, sad, happy but you've got to put your true feelings first. We've got a multitude of personalities inside us and it depends which is the strongest.
I had a disagreement with someone yesterday, went to fill the car up at the garage, normally I'd think sod it I need a chocolate bar, but a loud voice in my head said NOOOOOO!!! and I listened. I felt good about it. When I got home I put my boxing gloves on and did a mini workout, I felt so much better. Maybe this could help you? Put them gloves on and work out the sabotager inside you. Also visualistion my help? Keep visualising the new you, what are you wearing. where are you going? Make it bright and colourful. Or you could use distractions, run a bath, clean your teeth, go for a walk. You will feel so much better!!

When im feeling bad I have a cheat day (I do limit these to once every 2weeks though so I have to be feeling really awful)
Other times I have a small chunk of choc or a small glass of alcohol. Not many calories but cheers me up.
Also started to exercise to vent my frustration... Jillian Michaels is great for this.
You will feel much better if you work through feeing crappy without binging on food.
Have you been docs? They might be able to help xx

The most important thing I have learned is to do things one day at a time. You can do anything for one day.

Fancy some chocolate? Not today, maybe another day.

Those days add up really quick.

I've been looking at compulsive over-eating and one of the suggestions (along with therapy and stuff) is to eat small and regularly. I'm aware this may take me over calories but, I've decided that going a little over calories is far, far better than eating a massive takeaway, blindly munching on crisps and chocolate, 'treating myself' with other huge and highly calorific stuff etc.
I know that it may slow down my loss but I'm at the point I don't care now.
I have to work with what I know and...hunger + negative emotion = eating way more than I should. By eating more regularly and not saving up the cals for three meals will help curb the 'hunger' aspect of it and, as others have suggested, keeping a journal will help me release emotions and indentify triggers.
I hope you find your own way - friend me if you would like to. I'm a completely compulsive/emotional over-eater who is now so fed-up with it too. I'm hoping my strategy will help me. I have to do this slow and steady as I'm extremely good at losing and then gaining...for me to avoid the gain I know I have to do things almost to the point I don't notice...if that makes any sense.

If you keep binging why dont you try just trying to change the way you eat. Eat healthier, have small amounts of 'binge' food. If you want a biscuit, have a biscuit, dont have 10, and eat healthily.
If you cant manage restricting those foods, dont buy them. Just eat well, it doesnt mean 'dieting', it just means eating good foods which keep you full and arent utter junk.

Think about it this way 'if you want to eat a lot, eat a little, so you're around to eat a lot'.

hi
I sometimes sabotage myself but i am learning how to stand fast when that little voice in my head says "one won't hurt" but I know I will eat the pack. I have less high calorie food available, I try to speak about the feelings which are pushing me that way. I tell myself I can have something unhealthy I want to eat but I need to earn the calories by doing something to burn them before I eat them!
I also use Paul McKenna's technique where i hold my hands out in front of me and use one hand to remind myself why I want to change: use the other hand to talk through why my body might not want to change and then try and tell both of them that I need them to work together as I don't want to carry all this fat around for ever. I also promise the hand that does not want change that i will listen to its worries and promise to deal with it as it happens. Sounds bonkers but works for me. Another thing is to think why am I hungry - am I really hungry to eat food or is something eating me. Often it is not hunger with me and I try and work out what it is and deal with it. It is hard - I struggled this weekend and ate a few sweets I did not log, and an ice cream which i did log - but I did not go back for a second ice cream!!!! Small victory but that is the key. Small steps, small victories, one day at a time!
Good luck with it - you can do it, in your own way in your own time but yes it is posslible.

I highly recommend the book "Brain over Binge", it's seriously great. Also look into the podcast "Inside out Weight Loss", it's been helping me.

Why do I hold on to my fat afraid to let it go...Is it a safe place? I'm so frustrated and confused.