Guys, what do you think of girls

Rae6503
Rae6503 Posts: 6,294 Member
edited December 2024 in Chit-Chat
that care too much about what men think?


Seriously, ladies. I've seen 5 or 6 posts asking for male opinions, and I guess when you are in a situation like this, where you can ask these questions, it's tempting.... But really, we don't need to shape our bodies, or our appetites based on what the majority of men on some message bored think. If we try to turn ourselves into what men want, we lose ourselves and can become very hollow and unhappy (and in fact UNattractive to men). Be yourself, look how you want to loo, then find a man who is attracted to you, loves you for that, or don't and be happy on your own.

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  • elenathegreat
    elenathegreat Posts: 3,988 Member
    Plus, we all know the blood, sweat and tears is to impress other women first and foremost!
  • CoryIda
    CoryIda Posts: 7,870 Member
    Have I told you lately how flippin amazing you are, Rae?
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,375 Member
    YES! Thank you!
  • Cameron_1969
    Cameron_1969 Posts: 2,855 Member
    Are you aware of the irony of this thread? . .is this a joke!?. .it's a joke, isn't it?. . LOL!
  • Rae6503
    Rae6503 Posts: 6,294 Member
    Are you aware of the irony of this thread? . .is this a joke!?. .it's a joke, isn't it?. . LOL!

    Yes, dear. The first question was a joke / irony (but I'm still unclear on the definition of irony like most people, so I just avoid the word).
  • laurasimmons
    laurasimmons Posts: 575 Member
    Well put!
  • elenathegreat
    elenathegreat Posts: 3,988 Member
    Is it ironic that the first one to mention the irony of this thread is a guy?
  • mamnboston
    mamnboston Posts: 81 Member
    nice catch Elena, haha

    GIRL POWER!
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,375 Member
    Is it ironic that the first one to mention the irony of this thread is a guy?

    Exactly what I was thinking also! LOL
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,465 Member
    Guys, what do you think of girls

    Quite a bit.
  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
    I'm more interested in about what you think . . . about smackin my *kitten*? Yay, nay? Thoughts?
  • LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo
    LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo Posts: 3,634 Member
    Plus, we all know the blood, sweat and tears is to impress other women first and foremost!

    True especially to female family members particularly about weight issues :grumble:
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,465 Member
    I'm more interested in about what you think . . . about smackin my *kitten*? Yay, nay? Thoughts?

    Affirmative.
  • elenathegreat
    elenathegreat Posts: 3,988 Member
    Guys, what do you think of girls

    Quite a bit.

    This illustrates my original point. Girls are working it to impress other women...that men show up as a result is just the icing...mmm, icing is my favorite part, buttercream...
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    I never understand it.

    1. We're not all the same. Some of us are complete opposites in fact. You can find one dude who will not date anything other than a perfect 10 blonde and one dude who is only into morbidly obese women. So there's no point in asking in the first place.

    2. I'm personally only interested in a woman being herself. So if she's planning to change herself based on what a group of strangers on the internet said they liked I couldn't be less interested in her.
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,375 Member
    Guys, what do you think of girls

    Quite a bit.

    This illustrates my original point. Girls are working it to impress other women...that men show up as a result is just the icing...mmm, icing is my favorite part, buttercream...

    Meh, speak for yourself.

    I bust my *kitten* so I can do the things I want to in life that I couldn't do when I was obese. I really don't give two craps what other women think of me. They can either take me as I am or leave me be. I do think a lot of women try to compete with other women, so your point is taken, but certainly not all of us.
  • hennyben
    hennyben Posts: 313 Member
    I never understand it.

    1. We're not all the same. Some of us are complete opposites in fact. You can find one dude who will not date anything other than a perfect 10 blonde and one dude who is only into morbidly obese women. So there's no point in asking in the first place.

    So True! They ask the question and then get every opinion possible from men AND women so they're none the wiser 11 pages of opinions later
  • elenathegreat
    elenathegreat Posts: 3,988 Member
    I never understand it.

    1. We're not all the same. Some of us are complete opposites in fact. You can find one dude who will not date anything other than a perfect 10 blonde and one dude who is only into morbidly obese women. So there's no point in asking in the first place.

    So True! They ask the question and then get every opinion possible from men AND women so they're none the wiser 11 pages of opinions later

    Grasshopper, enlightenment is not found in the opinions of the many...only lighthearted entertainment...
  • Justjoshin
    Justjoshin Posts: 999 Member
    I would wager half the guys on MFP find insecure women to be fantastic prey... I mean, really hot!
  • SirBen81
    SirBen81 Posts: 396 Member
    that care too much about what men think?

    Who says we think?
  • egiakatt
    egiakatt Posts: 90 Member
    Thanks Rae! I needed to hear this today!! Thanks!
  • w_i_n_d_y
    w_i_n_d_y Posts: 216 Member
    That doesn't annoy me as much as the women who pretend to be something they're not because they think it will impress men....if I had lost a pound for every time a girl commented on how she only has guy friends because women are catty or how she thinks like a guy well I'd be anorexic.
  • Rae6503
    Rae6503 Posts: 6,294 Member
    a girl commented on how she only has guy friends because women are catty or how she thinks like a guy

    This bothers me too. It's like the ultimate attack against women. How are we ever going to get men to take us seriously and give us equal thoughts and rights if we can't get along with each other. Now some women are catty and they should stop that, but the way some women degrade women as a whole is worse.
  • w_i_n_d_y
    w_i_n_d_y Posts: 216 Member
    a girl commented on how she only has guy friends because women are catty or how she thinks like a guy

    This bothers me too. It's like the ultimate attack against women. How are we ever going to get men to take us seriously and give us equal thoughts and rights if we can't get along with each other. Now some women are catty and they should stop that, but the way some women degrade women as a whole is worse.

    How do they think this is an attractive quality to men? Men have mothers, sisters, daughters, female friends and want us to get along with the women in their lives.
  • Shamrock_me
    Shamrock_me Posts: 161 Member
    This could be bad. I like a little attention because I'm working out and hey someone else notices.

    A honk across a parking lot or a hoochie whistle, whatever. Its an innocent little ego boost. Would I date a guy who did this? NO. But I don't mind a little noticing at all by men. I wouldn't mind it coming from a woman either but I rarely ever roll down the window in my car and WOOHOO at women. Usually they're friends or family who yell "STOP IT you weirdo!!"

    Do I do any of my diet & exercise because I want that attention? No not really. Maybe in the way that that scummy old bf newly divorced can find me on FB and say WOW I screwed up, I was an idiot / jerk. But thats just one of those things. 99% is because I want it for me. Not someone else but I wanna live longer & be stronger. I don't care what some chick dude or martian thinks.

    The 1% left is just vengeful evil witch who wants to look better & be stronger & live longer just to piss off everyone who said I couldn't. (Laff)
  • kimber0607
    kimber0607 Posts: 994 Member
    Please dont bash me for this..pretty please
    BUT I think 'mos't of these threads 'what does he think/what does it mean/what do I do in this situation' are posted by younger woman..which I think is totally normal as you navigate through dating/growing up etc
    Regardless of age, I guess everyone is curious about different perspectives etc
    But i do think as u get older you feel more comfortable in your own skin and more confident with your own decision making
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    that care too much about what men think?


    Seriously, ladies. I've seen 5 or 6 posts asking for male opinions, and I guess when you are in a situation like this, where you can ask these questions, it's tempting.... But really, we don't need to shape our bodies, or our appetites based on what the majority of men on some message bored think. If we try to turn ourselves into what men want, we lose ourselves and can become very hollow and unhappy (and in fact UNattractive to men). Be yourself, look how you want to loo, then find a man who is attracted to you, loves you for that, or don't and be happy on your own.

    Do you have any idea how much I wanted to post this a couple weeks ago???

    I'm me. Take me or leave me, but if you leave me, you weren't the right guy, anyway.
  • Rae6503
    Rae6503 Posts: 6,294 Member
    Please dont bash me for this..pretty please
    BUT I think 'mos't of these threads 'what does he think/what does it mean/what do I do in this situation' are posted by younger woman..which I think is totally normal as you navigate through dating/growing up etc
    Regardless of age, I guess everyone is curious about different perspectives etc
    But i do think as u get older you feel more comfortable in your own skin and more confident with your own decision making

    Oh, I was definitely a lot more concerned with what people thought when I was younger. I had this whole "tough girl" persona I put out. I only drank beer, I tried to look like I didn't try when I got dress (ultimate stupidity). Really it wasn't until meeting my husband (who is 8 year old than me) that I was able to break that. He didn't know me, and actually expected me to be girly, so I was free to be as girly, or not-girly, as I wanted to be. He also didn't care about little things like a girl's appetite, or muscle size, ect, like a lot of the younger, less-mature boys I had dated did.
  • Wreak_Havoc
    Wreak_Havoc Posts: 597 Member
    I'm more interested in about what you think . . . about smackin my *kitten*? Yay, nay? Thoughts?

    "As you wish..."
  • emgawne
    emgawne Posts: 265 Member
    Great post. I think far too many people attempt to get healthy for someone else rather than for themselves. It should be about how you want to look and feel in your skin. Not how anyone else thinks you should look. And it should be about being healthy.
    I am younger (only 22) and I do believe it is a lot of people my age who are trying to figure out who try are/want to be and they seek that direction from everyone around them so these boards are a perfect way to try to find it.
    But in the end it comes down to having the body/clothes/appetite/whatever that you feel most comfortable with and that will allow you to be healthy at the same time.
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