My own worst enemy

Think we all have our bad days/weeks. It's so hard to be so good for so long

You just need to keep telling yourself how good it will be to keep going, keep picturing the end result etc

Set yourself a goal!!!!

My goal is I only have 22 weeks till I go to Florida, I want to be super fit to keep up the kids for a whole fortnight round the parks and I want to wear a bikini without my husband being embarrassed to be seen with me and the thought of water slide waits in a costume/bikini

I've also got a black tie dance not long after returning from Florida and I am dying to wear a gorgeous ball gown and to look amazing in it

Thats what keeps me going, I do still have my off days or the odd bar of chocolate but you have to allow yourself the finer things in life once in a while or you will go mad

Your doing great keep it up x

In my own case, I just got overwhelmed by too much work & school + a broken heart that made me opt for the comfort of hibernation and increased calories. Sometimes this is a wake-up call to slow down & pay attention to deeper needs, so it isn't necessarily "bad," but the trick is to decipher the "message" before we cause ourselves worse harm in the long run by undoing all the progress we have already made.

I feel exactly the same at the moment.
I'm almost at the highest fitness level I've ever been at and I've lost my enthusiasm for the journey. I suppose I keep thinking that yeah, I look pretty good, maybe I should just kick back and relax but I have to remind myself that I'm not doing this to look good, I'm doing it to be the healthiest I can be!
I've decided to enter a 5K race just to make sure I keep working out and give me a goal that doesn't revolve around weight loss but fitness and health!

It took me a long time to realize that I sabotoge myself because I am afraid of failure. I do well and when I see it, I panic because I feel like its only a metter of time before I mess it up. I am working on this but old habits die hard. Good luck with your journey

Oh my gosh.. I could have written your post. I lost 15pounds , have about 25 more to go. Was doing well, excercising and staying at 1200 calories. Was able to buy some new clothes. THEN.. broke my foot. Ever since then, haven't been able to get back on the food track. Just now starting to excercise again, and getting in good work-outs. But, am sabotaging myself with my food.

It's worse in the evenings. I don't want to cook. Because I am tired, I will eat what's available. Today I am cooking ahead to be ready. I think I am going to make some jello with cool whip and have that ready also.

Also-- I am UPPING the water. I am horrible at drinking it.. and maybe that will help.

Lets get back on that bandwagon!!! We know we want this. AND.. we know we can do it. We have already been successful!!!
In the words of the little red caboose ... " i think i can, i think i can"

Have a great day

When I'd lost a bit of weight (around 70 lbs) and started to approach a "normal" BMI, I got all freaked out because a huge part of my identity (the fat sister, the fat friend, plus-size woman, etc) had disappeared, but I didn't have have anything to replace it with.

I simply wasn't ready to see myself as anything other than "fat" but other people and the mirror were telling me that I couldn't keep using that word to describe myself.

It's been a whole process of, kind of, re-defining who I am--but now, I'm much more aware of who I am on the *inside* and not just my physical traits. (I think this has less to do with weight loss, though, and more to do with simply getting older!)

I had the same feelings once I hit my first big goal, which was 20 kgs lost (out of 40).
I was able to buy clothes with normal sizes, not super sizes; I got compliments ( it took very long before people told me)...
I guess I started to feel comfortable at the point I had arrived.
I was still working out with my personal trainer, still logging all my food, but somehow I had lost my motivator.
I even found that my body didn't move anymore, nor weight wise, nor size wise.
I can't say that I found my motivator back, or found a different one, I'm still looking for something to motivate me to go on.
But I didn't give up. I went on and on like I did before and I still do.
My body started to change again after a holiday break I took at the end of the year. I'm dropping weight and sizes again, but my big motivator is still missing. I have an end goal, but that's not really motivating my anymore. I had chosen a number at the scale for a goal, but since working out with a personal trainer, my body changes faster than the scale, and I'm not sure I still want to reach that number, because I might look too skinny ( considering my muscles and my age..). My end goal is disappearing, which doesn't make this journey any easier.
Go on doing what you did so far, don't stop, except for maybe taking a short break to free your head. Don't give up, because it's working and you already have some positive results. They only get bigger and nicer when you do something for it. Work towards a goal!

I am with you on this one. At my highest I was 275 so being 243 is nicer & I don't feel as big. Sometimes I think I get comfortable even though I have alot more to lose but I'm fitter than ever and I wonder does that sense of being comfortable hinder my progress or hinder my desire to complete this journey.
I've yo yo'd around the 240's for the last god knows how long - I keep telling myself 'jokingly' my scales doesn't got to 239 which I think must be the dumbest thing to say. :blushing:
But it got my butt moving this morning, I've planned my food all apart from Dinner & for today I'm going to stick to it - not half stick to it but STICK TO IT & then I will take on tomorrow when it comes. I've upped my calories too so that I can eat & not starve which leads me to binge on crappy foods & then I go off the wagon for weeks at a time. :happy:
I hope you find your spark & motivation that helped you lose that 12kg - that is an accomplishment you should be proud of no matter how much more you have to go - be proud that its 12kg gone never to return again :flowerforyou:
Now circle up that wagon & get on (you know you want to) Good Luck :bigsmile:

Firstly, congratulations on your weight loss! 12kg is a great start

Second, what I find motivates me is that little excited feeling you get in your tummy when you walk into a clothing shop and try on the next size down and it fits like a glove... and then the next one... and the next one. Not many things beat that feeling!

Lastly, I have several male friends who I wonder "what if" about, and the what ifs range from weight to height (I'm 6'2") to athletecism to religion (my lack of it, specifically - can't really help your upbringing can you!). Don't beat yourself up about it. If he actually wanted to be with you he probably would have told you what he wanted up front. You shouldn't let the opinions or expectations of one person ruin all your hard work. Keep going - you can do it!

Well, I was going along famously until a couple of weeks ago when my best male friend whom I have loved for 23 years (despite being married and having other partners along the way) declared that I am the most beautiful woman he knows and that he had always hoped that I loved him enough to lose weight as I knew being fit and healthy was important to him. I of course thought I just wasn't his type all those years and that he never wanted me.

To be fair, I don't think that sounds particularly sympathetic. Did he ever tell you this before you decided to lose weight? If not, then how were you to know?? And I agree, not loving someone because of that isn't particularly nice. Sorry to put down someone you love...

He always knew how I felt and we had periods of being Friends with benefits but in terms of a relationship it never ever came up in conversation other than when he met his girlfriend who later became his wife when he said in passing "you would be perfect if you were thin"

He has been supportive of my weight loss journey - but now, I just wish we never had this recent discussion - I was happoer thinking he didn't care

This may be difficult to swallow right now but it sounds to me as though there was no real relationship potential here. I'm sure he loves you but if he was "in love" with you, the weight wouldn't have mattered. We're talking about two completely different levels of love here. Don't beat yourself up over "what could have been". That ship has sailed. Take care of yourself. Don't think of him in that way anymore. He's married, it's done. Sorry so blunt but I'm thinking of you and getting you back on track. You can't afford to waste your mental energy on "what could've been". You need to focus you.

I am having a hard time with good vs. poor sources of motivation as well. Some days I think... "I need to keep going because I am doing so well and feeling so great". And other days I think really negative thoughts like "Wow even though I've lost a lot of weight I still look horrible in a swim suit, I will never lose enough weight to be satisfied."

Need to stay positive, and enourage ourselves for the right reasons!

One day at a time. Sometimes one hour at a time.