Hi, need some support to gain weight.

Take the advice you think will help. There's always a SNARKY person that cannot be consructive. Don't let that bother you.

Snarky? Really? I don't like slamming people but come on. This pretty lady is just looking for attention. And yes, this is a Fat Peoples site! Plain and simple. I am Fat!!! At least 95% people here are just that. I don't mince words or try to be the nice guy not hurt anyone's feelings. Truth is, Most of us here want to loose a lot of weight. Why, Because we are FAT! Nobody's fault but our own!

Admiting it without sugar coating it is the first thing to getting in shape and not being FAT. If we weren't FAT we never would be here!

You must be one of those people who thinks everyone wins a trophy in competitions.

Just Say'n....

Sam

I disagree with this...I joined this sight to lose weight, but I have never been over a size 6, so I would not put myself in the fat category. I wanted to be fit, healthy and toned. I do not consider this a fat person site, it is a fitness site. If she feels that she is too thin and it may not be healthy, I think being proactive and trying to gain weight is just as great as the people that are trying to get healthy to LOSE weight.

Keep it up, doll, add me if you want.

just ignore the comments about this being a fat persons site. its called my FITNESS pal.

i came here needing to gain weight a while back and i know a lot of people too that have its a nice place once you get to know the right people and theres wayyyy more really nice people on here than the ones who think this is exclusivly for fatties. its not its for EVERYONE! welcome good luck and im sending you a request!!

Really? Gain weight? So you decide to come to a Fat Peoples site to get insight? Really?

... Fat Peoples site ? You need to take a better look around if you truly believe that.

^^ This. Not everyone is "fat". This is My FITNESS Pal, not my weight loss pal. Some people are here to lose just a few pounds, others are here to lose a lot more, some are here to be healthy and keep track of their food/fitness, and others are here to gain.

Hey...i'm not trying to gain weight currently, but when I was in my early 20s I did spend some time doing that, went from about 95lbs to 108lbs. I drank a lot of carnation Instant Breakfasts or ensures, added things like butter or cheese to my food, basically really increased calories and also tried to build some muscle with weights or body weight exercises. (All under the supervision of my dietician who would call in everyday to see what I had eaten lol) It can definitely be just as tough for some people to gain as it is for others to lose! I think I was 95lbs for nearly 10 years before my doc suggested gaining some. (FYI - for disclosure and all, I'm now almost 32, I took a desk job and got lazy and am currently 130, would like to be back around 115-120)

Take the advice you think will help. There's always a SNARKY person that cannot be consructive. Don't let that bother you.

Snarky? Really? I don't like slamming people but come on. This pretty lady is just looking for attention. And yes, this is a Fat Peoples site! Plain and simple. I am Fat!!! At least 95% people here are just that. I don't mince words or try to be the nice guy not hurt anyone's feelings. Truth is, Most of us here want to loose a lot of weight. Why, Because we are FAT! Nobody's fault but our own!

Admiting it without sugar coating it is the first thing to getting in shape and not being FAT. If we weren't FAT we never would be here!

You must be one of those people who thinks everyone wins a trophy in competitions.

Just Say'n....

Sam

I disagree with this...I joined this sight to lose weight, but I have never been over a size 6, so I would not put myself in the fat category. I wanted to be fit, healthy and toned. I do not consider this a fat person site, it is a fitness site. If she feels that she is too thin and it may not be healthy, I think being proactive and trying to gain weight is just as great as the people that are trying to get healthy to LOSE weight.

Keep it up, doll, add me if you want.

^ well said. I too have never been clinically overweight, my trainer pointed me to this site to help me track my food in an effort to eat more healthily and lose some body fat. I have stayed using this site for a long time, even though my goals have changed, as I love the support I have found on here.

To the OP, I wish you well in your journey and hope that you find the support that you deserve. Please add me if you like, although my goals aren't the same as yours (as I am maintaining) I will be more than happy to support you and am on here every day.

You two better add each other as friends because I would love to see the debates you could get into!!
Welcome to the site Abi.
You will find a majority of people are here trying to lose weight (or maybe we're just the loudest group?). Then you'll notice the 'lifers", those are the people who are near or at their ideal weights and are still here. Still trying to get better. Trying to run faster, eat cleaner, lift heavier etc. The people who aren't giving up on getting healthy just because they got skinny.
Look for those people to add as friends as well as some new people too.
Look for weight gainers and losers.
The bigger the spread of people you have the better support you'll both receive and be able to give.

Abi, et., all,

OK, Let me start by saying, Abi, I AM SO SORRY! This origianlly started as a joke. Then I started getting slammed for being insensitive! OK, I was Totally insensitive! then I went on to spew my own personal issues in repsonse to the additional comments that followed. Imature on my part! 100% idiot! 100% As#h$le!

It was and is terrible what when on here and again, I APOLOGIZE! I can't take anything back although I wish I could. You may beleive me or not. If not, those are the consequences I must suffer the consequences for my actions.

Your's truly,

Sam

Mia Culpa!

It takes a big man to apologise - and publicly too. Thank you for restoring a little of my faith in people's good nature. :happy:

***THIS IS A JOKE!!! WARNING! A JOKE IS COMING!!!****

So, you are gonna start with the Fat Jokes now? LOL

sam

took a lot of guts for you to come on this post and apologise, you have gone way up in my estimation and you appear to be a good man, all the best on your weight loss.

LOL I could start with the 'fat' jokes ... heard most of 'em ... but hey you know the saying about 'people in glass houses!!!':bigsmile: :laugh: lets just say i meant a big man .... really.

oops forgot to add the quote!!

Abi, et., all,

OK, Let me start by saying, Abi, I AM SO SORRY! This origianlly started as a joke. Then I started getting slammed for being insensitive! OK, I was Totally insensitive! then I went on to spew my own personal issues in repsonse to the additional comments that followed. Imature on my part! 100% idiot! 100% As#h$le!

It was and is terrible what when on here and again, I APOLOGIZE! I can't take anything back although I wish I could. You may beleive me or not. If not, those are the consequences I must suffer the consequences for my actions.

Your's truly,

Sam

Mia Culpa!

It takes a big man to apologise - and publicly too. Thank you for restoring a little of my faith in people's good nature. :happy:

***THIS IS A JOKE!!! WARNING! A JOKE IS COMING!!!****

So, you are gonna start with the Fat Jokes now? LOL

:laugh: awesome, that is the biggest laugh I've had all day.

^^^^ This


And Sam, I've been browsing around here for a while now and I'd say that you should make sure you keep posting and stick around - You'll notice that a number of intended sarcastic jokes are inevitably hard to determine and many people take them the wrong way... but you've been up front and strong enough to apologize - and in the process, I expect gained the respect of a few.
I know it may be easy to shrug it off and not bother participating in this community... put a mistake behind you... I know I often prefer to do that if I can.... but in my view, I think you'd lose out. People are here for all sorts of reasons, yes, many to lose weight, some to gain and others to learn about getting healthy and we can all support each other.

I think this whole discussion raises an interesting point:
Sometime I see groups where it is essentially "like minded" people discussing their shared goals (you see the '8Ft tall Amazon Men Trying to Lose' type threads) (That was a joke) and that can be great - I understand people not feeling alone in their pursuits for sure; however, what I think most of the people on this site share is the need to learn how to be intentional and disciplined about their actions and lifestyle and learn smart actions from less smart ones. We can all support each other even if we have very different goals - we can relate on the challenge of being disciplined and intentional and pursuing an improvement in our health.

I just reached my weight goal this week... I lost 16 pounds - I know, not a long way to go. The challenge for me will be doing neither - adding or losing - and becoming healthier. And I know that things people who are losing learn and share will help me - and things people who are trying to gain - or add muscle mass, or... (fill in the blank).. Learning that my physical build and energy level is a function of how I live - and then figuring out what I need to actually be doing is a long journey I still have to take and I'm hoping we can all take it together. It is more fun with a community.

To the OP - Good luck with your goals! I know there are a number of excellent, friendly, and knowledgeable people on here that can help - and you can get where you want to. And, in the process, I think you will be learning what I think all of us on here are working on - knowledge, discipline and details to help us with intentional living.

Really? Gain weight? So you decide to come to a Fat Peoples site to get insight? Really?

OK, Eat a lot of Pizza, Ice Cream and French fries! Don't exercise at all! You'll have no problems!!!!

Definitely DON'T do that. Who wants to be skinny fat and eat all processed CRAP? Start strength training to gain muscle and eat more protein. Under my goals, you can chose lose weight OR add weight. You can get a lot of advice in the message boards. Also look at the book, New Rules of Weightlifing for Women. I am not expert on gaining muscle, so definitely search the boards.

Definitely don't listen to that guy. He's ignorant. Just because she needs to gain and not lose, does not mean she can't be here. Last time I checked this was called my FITNESS pal...not my FAT *kitten* NEEDS TO LOSE WEIGHT pal. Lol. She's just as welcome as anyone else.

I agree that you need to do weight training and run to gain muscle mass. See a doctor also besides all of the great advice above haha. It's important that you gain GOOD weight I remember when I gained weight again after I was 90 pounds and my trainer said I was skinny fat...which was horrible. I'm here to eat healthy and be healthy skinny/fit! Good luck girl!

Hello, Abi,

I have the direct opposite problem than you have, but I would be glad to be of any help that I can be.

Hey! I just joined this site too. My friend did this Beach Body thing, lost weight and looks amazing!! So I wanted to do the same thing but to gain weight (the right kind). I started working out back in February and have gained 5 pounds already. I admit I'm a little self conscious about it because a higher number has always been perceived as such a bad thing but in reality it really depends on what kind of weight it is. I saw this picture of a woman on Pinterest that showed her body at I think 127 pounds and 136 (something like that) and I would prefer the 136 body because her butt looked lifted and her body seemed really tight.

I once worked with a woman who told me I was "disgusting" because I was skinny but it's just how my body has always been. And I was never able to donate blood in high school/college either because I didn't weigh enough. I'm close to being able to donate which is great since I'm O-

So yeah, just a little about me! Good luck!