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  • chris1529
    chris1529 Posts: 315 Member
    I didn't do it. I have better values than that. I explained to her the situation and my reasoning behind my decision and now she is aggravated and saying "its innocent were just friends" and I try and explain there can't be 100% just friends between women and men. So now I feel like a *kitten* because now she Prolly thinks all I want to do is bang her. Or she is dumb and like to cause drama between friends. Anyway thanks for helping me conform I made the right choice.

    You absolutely made the right decision! :)
  • Andrewcpimpin
    Andrewcpimpin Posts: 124 Member
    Were you friends with her first, or did you meet her through your friend?

    I'm wondering if she's using you to play mind games with her sorta boyfriend, to get him jealous enough to commit to a serious relationship. It's a crappy, but very female, thing to do. Run away.

    Hit the nail.on the head I think
  • mewaybright
    mewaybright Posts: 240 Member
    Guy code says no...
  • jwalker30
    jwalker30 Posts: 282
    I didn't do it. I have better values than that. I explained to her the situation and my reasoning behind my decision and now she is aggravated and saying "its innocent were just friends" and I try and explain there can't be 100% just friends between women and men. So now I feel like a *kitten* because now she Prolly thinks all I want to do is bang her. Or she is dumb and like to cause drama between friends. Anyway thanks for helping me conform I made the right choice.

    So did you make this post just to explain what a good guy you are?
  • skittles8810
    skittles8810 Posts: 67
    I dont think this is the appropriate place to even ask that question, Just saying! This is not a dating site or a moral delima site. Its for people who want to lose weight and dieting.
  • Railr0aderTony
    Railr0aderTony Posts: 6,803 Member
    NOPE, if you did not think somthing could happen you would not have posted.
  • adrian_indy
    adrian_indy Posts: 1,444 Member
    I didn't do it. I have better values than that. I explained to her the situation and my reasoning behind my decision and now she is aggravated and saying "its innocent were just friends" and I try and explain there can't be 100% just friends between women and men. So now I feel like a *kitten* because now she Prolly thinks all I want to do is bang her. Or she is dumb and like to cause drama between friends. Anyway thanks for helping me conform I made the right choice.

    You absolutely made the right decision! :)

    Boo! BOOOOO! First off, they have been "casually" dating for 8 months. If it hasn't gotten serious yet, it never will. This could be your true love, and your friend will probably understand. But if you are that worried about it, just do some heavy petting or something. I heard eatings not cheating as well.
  • cloud2011
    cloud2011 Posts: 898 Member
    I didn't do it. I have better values than that. I explained to her the situation and my reasoning behind my decision and now she is aggravated and saying "its innocent were just friends" and I try and explain there can't be 100% just friends between women and men. So now I feel like a *kitten* because now she Prolly thinks all I want to do is bang her. Or she is dumb and like to cause drama between friends. Anyway thanks for helping me conform I made the right choice.

    No, she is fishing, to see if you have feelings. She has a boyfriend, so she has no reason to hang out ALONE with another man on a Saturday night, at home, drinking beer.
  • hopefulfuturexox
    hopefulfuturexox Posts: 12
    It depends if the friendship is important enough to you, if it's not, then go to the girl and screw up your friendship with him. If it is, then talk to your mate
  • adrian_indy
    adrian_indy Posts: 1,444 Member
    I dont think this is the appropriate place to even ask that question, Just saying! This is not a dating site or a moral delima site. Its for people who want to lose weight and dieting.

    Life is a dating site.
  • Andrewcpimpin
    Andrewcpimpin Posts: 124 Member
    No didn't want everyone to think I was a d bag woman stealer. And I'm not that good of a guy just some things I have morals about but was also second guessing if I was just being a puxxy
  • cloud2011
    cloud2011 Posts: 898 Member
    I dont think this is the appropriate place to even ask that question, Just saying! This is not a dating site or a moral delima site. Its for people who want to lose weight and dieting.

    Yes, it's MFP, but this board is for "chit-chat, fun, and games." I think the OP's topic fulfills the criteria of all three.
  • MoreThanMommie
    MoreThanMommie Posts: 597 Member
    Sounds like a bad situation waiting to happen.
  • ZugTheMegasaurus
    ZugTheMegasaurus Posts: 801 Member
    Okay, I'm totally baffled by the responses here. Why is it wrong for two people to hang out? Am I missing subtext or something where "hang out" means "spend all night doing the horizontal mambo?"
  • asia_hanebach
    asia_hanebach Posts: 275 Member
    Okay, I'm totally baffled by the responses here. Why is it wrong for two people to hang out? Am I missing subtext or something where "hang out" means "spend all night doing the horizontal mambo?"

    ^my thoughts exactly
  • Krissy366
    Krissy366 Posts: 458 Member
    " and I try and explain there can't be 100% just friends between women and men.

    I think this part is completely wrong. I have had many completely platonic friendships with men throughout my life. I think people who don't have opposite sex friends are missing out. But under the circumstances, I think you made the right choice.
  • coachblt
    coachblt Posts: 1,090
    I've been in your situation before and I hung out with the girl. I didn't betray my friend nor made a move on the girl. That would be wrong. We were drinking but I left way before she or I was drunk.

    My friend knew and it wasn't a big deal. He ended up marrying the girl and I was his best man. They are still married today and I still keep in touch with them on a weekly basis. Great friends!
  • DS67ATX
    DS67ATX Posts: 289
    Im open to things but that may just cause problems you don't need.
  • cindy4mica
    cindy4mica Posts: 777 Member
    I dont think this is the appropriate place to even ask that question, Just saying! This is not a dating site or a moral delima site. Its for people who want to lose weight and dieting.

    Yes, it's MFP, but this board is for "chit-chat, fun, and games." I think the OP's topic fulfills the criteria of all three.

    ^^This.
  • jaydubbayu
    jaydubbayu Posts: 456
    She could just flat out fall for you, and start ignoring your friend. Then, you're in a situation. Find your own *kitten*, like that previous poster said. They've been dating long enough for you to know it's wrong.
  • RH_Brazell
    RH_Brazell Posts: 339
    ummmm that would have to be a negative......
  • DesignGuy
    DesignGuy Posts: 457 Member
    I'm not even sure why this is a question.

    Answer is no, it's not cool to go.
  • dntworribhappi
    dntworribhappi Posts: 131 Member
    Ha, some of these comments are cracking me up, fine if you are a douche bag, or if you are sure you can hit it. But really, sounds like trouble to me.
  • dntworribhappi
    dntworribhappi Posts: 131 Member
    Im open to things but that may just cause problems you don't need.

    So, ummm.... what exactly are you open too? :wink: No, but seriously it does sound like trouble.
  • crise40g
    crise40g Posts: 60 Member
    Bros before hoes! Hahaaaaa! But seriously, not a good idea.
  • paul7799
    paul7799 Posts: 98 Member
    Not worth the trouble. Wave off.
  • jaydubbayu
    jaydubbayu Posts: 456
    Bros before hoes! Hahaaaaa! But seriously, not a good idea.

    He's right... Bros before hoes... Been sticking to that for 15 years now... Never lost a buddy.
  • taryn_09
    taryn_09 Posts: 196 Member
    negative ghost rider. not an okay situation especially when alcohol is involved. its like bromance codes. lol.
    i would just avoid that whole situation. saves a lot of drama later on.
  • MFPAddict
    MFPAddict Posts: 2,069 Member
    negative ghost rider. not an okay situation especially when alcohol is involved. its like bromance codes. lol.
    i would just avoid that whole situation. saves a lot of drama later on.

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  • Chadwick891
    Chadwick891 Posts: 72 Member
    Hands off the goods, it's all good. If she's inviting you for drinks, you better be aware of her intentions. I'd tell the friend about it straight away.
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