Jealousy

angieleighbyrd
angieleighbyrd Posts: 989 Member
edited December 2024 in Chit-Chat
How do you deal with jealousy from others?

Normally I don't really care and just laugh it off.

But I can't really ignore my mother. As much as I'd like to. She is here a lot visiting the kids. She is constantly making little comments about my weight. Egging me on to eat junk. Telling me my goal is too small. Got mad at me when I wouldn't get on the scale on Easter because well for one it wasn't my weigh in day, and 2 I just ate a crap ton of food. She looks at me like I'm an alien when I told her I was counting calories. She made me an Easter basket filled with candy and goes "it's all fat free" that's nice, doesn't mean it's sugar free or sodium free or well I just DON'T WANNA SIT ON MY *kitten* AND EAT CANDY. Her way of losing weight is not taking her medication that is keeping her alive and not eating for a week. She got upset that she gained and said "I've only had water all week". I told her not eating is what is making her not lose and then I asked how she was even standing upright.

I've dealt with jealousy with my mother on a lot of things. My husband, my house, this that, pretty much everything.

My mother isn't the type of mother that wants better for her kids. She wants and expects me to be as miserable as she is.

When I am miserable and in a rut whatever the situation will be, she's happy. But when I'm doing good with whatever it is I'm doing good with, she goes all hulk smash on me.

It's annoying.

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  • Tuffjourney
    Tuffjourney Posts: 971
    Oh gosh. I am so sorry. That is sad. Mothers should always want the best for their children. :flowerforyou:
  • angieleighbyrd
    angieleighbyrd Posts: 989 Member
    Oh gosh. I am so sorry. That is sad. Mothers should always want the best for their children. :flowerforyou:
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    Not her. She also gets pissy when I push my teen with his school work, or get upset when he brings home a bad grade. Um, I would really like him to NOT be in the situation I am in. So yes, I am going to make him sit down and do his school work.
  • kb455
    kb455 Posts: 679 Member
    That is awful! Its hard for me to imagine a mother being jealous of her child because mine is always the opposite-- very happy for me when I accomplish something I've wanted. I really don't have any advice on how to deal with it just hang in there I guess and try your best not to let her negativity bring you down. Some people cannot be happy for others. You said she is at your home a lot... I think if I were you, I'd find a way to limit how often she comes over, for your sanity. Especially since, as you mentioned, she interferes with you parenting your teenager. Good luck!
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