Don't look back.

Batman_75 · April 2012

Take a momment to read my story. Might save you in the end.

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/Batman_75/view/80-chance-of-me-248859

Batman_75 · April 2012

little bump- Shameless self promotion.

maryb2374 · April 2012

Thanks for sharing your story. Good for you for getting back on track. The last time I tried actively to lose weight, I lost 25 pounds but then ended up pregnant with my 3rd baby. I didn't start back this time as high as I was before but I feel different this time around. It's so helpful to read your warnings about becoming too complacent once you get to where you want to be.

Are those your boys in your second picture? They are cuties!

JeanneTops · April 2012

Actually, I'd say: Don't look forward.

Yeah, you're going to feel great and happy when you reach your desired weight. But the thrill of those feelings doesn't last. Eventually, you feel pretty ordinary - up some days, down others. The compliments stop, you wear the same clothing in the same sizes, some days you feel pudgy, other days not, some days exercise is fun, some days it's just a slog.

Bu you still have to control what you eat and you still have to work out hard. You fall off the wagon and you have to struggle to get back on. The absolute truth is: feeling healthy and happy isn't going to be enough motivation. If it were, nobody would ever gain their weight back.

What you have to learn, while you're losing weight, is how to motivate yourself without the thrill of weight loss, without the thrill of dreaming about what life is going to be like when you reach goal. You have to start developing self-discipline because that's how you want to live your life. Period.

If you become dependent on dreams of future happiness for motivation, then when you get to where you want to be and reality doesn't live up to the dreams, which it won't, then you won't have much to fall back on. Except, of course, for the old ways.

But, if you've developed even just a little bit of self-discipline for its own sake, you'll have that to rely upon and to build upon.

LIfe's not miserable when you get the weight off! But it's not perfect either.

Thank you, Batman, for speaking the truth.

Sugarchef · April 2012

Well said Jeanne. You summed it up perfectly.

Rays_Wife · April 2012

Well that's a cautionary tale if I ever read one! Great blog, thanks for sharing your story. That gave me a lot to think about, seriously.

And Jeanne - you are so right. I loved your post too.

Hearts_2015 · February 2013

Take a momment to read my story. Might save you in the end.

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/Batman_75/view/80-chance-of-me-248859

Some may see this as a negative. But this is a love letter to the entire MFP community. This is a love letter to all of you fighting the same battle. This is a love letter for those who know what it is like to be a prisoner in your own body. A letter for those who won today's battle and those who lost, for those who get back up when they fall down or those who are strong enough not to fall in the first place. My shame is layed out for you because I am on your team. we are kindrid spirits and I hope and pray that when your journey comes to an end and you take the final step from the prison that has held you.... You won't look back. There is nothing back there for you and you deserve your freedom, your health and your happiness.

I've never written to Batman before, but guess there's always a first!:laugh:

I think it's awesome you've shared about what's happened in your life, it will help many!! I love the last paragraph you wrote..

Thank you! It can happen fast if we're not constantly diligent as you said, I could feel myself slipping away and each day that went by the scale would go up. So I knew I had to grab it back and move forward despite the number on the scale or maybe a better way to put it, because of the number on the scale.

Cheers for a wonderful revealing blog post, I hope you are doing well!:drinker:

Actually, I'd say: Don't look forward.

Yeah, you're going to feel great and happy when you reach your desired weight. But the thrill of those feelings doesn't last. Eventually, you feel pretty ordinary - up some days, down others. The compliments stop, you wear the same clothing in the same sizes, some days you feel pudgy, other days not, some days exercise is fun, some days it's just a slog.

Bu you still have to control what you eat and you still have to work out hard. You fall off the wagon and you have to struggle to get back on. The absolute truth is: feeling healthy and happy isn't going to be enough motivation. If it were, nobody would ever gain their weight back.

What you have to learn, while you're losing weight, is how to motivate yourself without the thrill of weight loss, without the thrill of dreaming about what life is going to be like when you reach goal. You have to start developing self-discipline because that's how you want to live your life. Period.

If you become dependent on dreams of future happiness for motivation, then when you get to where you want to be and reality doesn't live up to the dreams, which it won't, then you won't have much to fall back on. Except, of course, for the old ways.

But, if you've developed even just a little bit of self-discipline for its own sake, you'll have that to rely upon and to build upon.

LIfe's not miserable when you get the weight off! But it's not perfect either.

Thank you, Batman, for speaking the truth.

Also so very very true, wise words for those of us that think life on the other side will be all that and a bag of chips! (oh, wait, no bags of chips!:blushing:

) Both of these posts have helped me and I thank you both for the eye opening reality today.

Hearts_2015 · February 2013

bump bump bump!:flowerforyou:

Don't look back.

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