Advice for the wedding night!!

Chubbyhulagirl
Chubbyhulagirl Posts: 374 Member
edited December 18 in Chit-Chat
Okay a bit misleading but I need some opinions/advice!
Im getting married in mid August. We already have three children, been together 9.5 years, lived together for 8 years, etc. My question is: should we start abstaining from sex to spice things up on the wedding night? Has anyone experienced this? Does it really make a positive difference? Thanks for any advice you can give!

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  • BiggTim
    BiggTim Posts: 53 Member
    Abstain.....if you can. :bigsmile:
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,024 Member
    Lol, too funny, but my wife and I were too wiped out on our wedding night. By the time both of his hit the mattress, we were snoring. We made up for it the next day, but wedding day was LONG.

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  • TinkrBelz
    TinkrBelz Posts: 866 Member
    Never thought about it....might be a cool idea. It could be fun too....lots of teasing! You could try and see how it works out!
  • Sp1nGoddess
    Sp1nGoddess Posts: 1,134 Member
    No.... unless you both think it's fun! Bring some new toys or lingere....
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    I don't think it would be possible. (assuming we were physical before the wedding, which isn't something that is 'necessary' for me).

    Anyone I would marry, I couldn't get enough of to begin with. If we'd been to that point...yeah, sorry...not going back for a minute lol.
  • Erindipitous
    Erindipitous Posts: 1,234 Member
    Totally up to you, obviously.. But could I do it? No friggin' way.

    I would just clear my schedule for the first three days after marriage.. Bring a special suitcase.. You know..
  • seventwenty
    seventwenty Posts: 565 Member
    Okay a bit misleading but I need some opinions/advice!
    Im getting married in mid August. We already have three children, been together 9.5 years, lived together for 8 years, etc. My question is: should we start abstaining from sex to spice things up on the wedding night? Has anyone experienced this? Does it really make a positive difference? Thanks for any advice you can give!


    Why would ANYONE think this a good idea?!
  • gracefulotus
    gracefulotus Posts: 42
    We were too wiped out at the end of the wedding to get up to anything. We stayed in a fancy hotel, but the highlight of that night was to take off my shoes and have a long hot shower and then sit on the bed in my hotel robe and eat some chocolate.... :ohwell:

    I can totally recommend that you wear in your shoes e.g. wear socks and wear them around the house. I did that but even then my feet were so sore from standing all day.
  • Bigstupid
    Bigstupid Posts: 25 Member
    Make sure to log your "exercise".
  • Rosa1213
    Rosa1213 Posts: 456 Member
    As other people mentioned, it's obviously not "necessary" and would be very hard to do, but it could be fun.. :)
    My significant other don't see each other often, since we are in a long-distance relationship, but, to put it nicely: absence does make the heart grow fonder.. ;)

    Maybe you could "abstain" just for fun for like a week before your wedding. You know, when he tries to touch you, play innocent and ask if he doesn't want to save that kind of behavior for your wedding. (You could add a naughty wink at the end of that, if you wanted.) Hahah, but anyway, I think it could be fun, if you buy a toy or other accessory as a surprise/reward for abstaining a whole week :)
  • Chubbyhulagirl
    Chubbyhulagirl Posts: 374 Member
    Thanks for the responses! Ok abstaining would be difficult but possible maybe a month prior...
    Toys and lingerie wont really "spice" our sex life...*ahem*
    Maybe a striptease?
    Ive only tried this once when we were drunk off our *kitten* but started passing gas in the middle of it. Was not sexy and we ended up bursting into hyena like laughter, tears and all. Havent attempted that ever again but maybe second time will be better?

    Then again this will all be moot if were too tired to do anything at the end of the night!
  • Alexis14351
    Alexis14351 Posts: 23
    If you were getting married next week, I'd say go for it! :smile:
  • seventwenty
    seventwenty Posts: 565 Member
    Thanks for the responses! Ok abstaining would be difficult but possible maybe a month prior...
    Toys and lingerie wont really "spice" our sex life...*ahem*
    Maybe a striptease?
    Ive only tried this once when we were drunk off our *kitten* but started passing gas in the middle of it. Was not sexy and we ended up bursting into hyena like laughter, tears and all. Havent attempted that ever again but maybe second time will be better?

    Then again this will all be moot if were too tired to do anything at the end of the night!

    Dutch ovens are never sexy, for the record. They are, however, sleeping on the couch worthy.
  • JenAiMarres
    JenAiMarres Posts: 743 Member
    Lol, too funny, but my wife and I were too wiped out on our wedding night. By the time both of his hit the mattress, we were snoring. We made up for it the next day, but wedding day was LONG.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 28+ years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

    Same....we got married in Vegas at 7pm the day was all prepping and then we partied til 8am....hard. There were no intimate moments...and I'm pretty sure not the next night either due to insane hangovers. Boy it was FUN!

    Buttttt if your wedding is going to be tamer than that, Sure abstain before but not too long...u don't want a cranky hubs to be!!
  • babyworms
    babyworms Posts: 1,304 Member
    My hubby and I abstained for two weeks before the wedding. We had a lunchtime wedding, so that we wouldn't be too wiped out by the evening. The wedding was over and we were at our hotel by 5:30 pm, so we still had plenty of energy :wink:

    We thought it made it more special, but it's an individual decision. It's certainly hard to do!
  • SusanLovesToEat
    SusanLovesToEat Posts: 213 Member
    Yeah, a week sounds interesting and not over the top but three months? Yikes!

    Weddings are stressful enough without having a sex starved cranky husband to the mix :wink:
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