Rules of Marriage..

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  • Edwin_S
    Edwin_S Posts: 440 Member
    Three C's of a relationship, communication, conversation, communication again.
  • dawnstrassburg
    dawnstrassburg Posts: 46
    if its jsut the way you are and you dont even realize your doing it, I dont see a problem (as long as he is ok with it), if you are going out of your way to flirt with someone thats a problem. I flirt with my best friend (who is gay) and my fiance's best friend (who is a HUGE flirt) all the time, no problems. its jsut the way I communicate with them and I dont see a problem with it
  • dsjohndrow
    dsjohndrow Posts: 1,820 Member
    Stay single.
  • MyFeistyEvolution
    MyFeistyEvolution Posts: 1,014 Member
    Slight problem here. I'm getting married this year and I'm just curious to know something. Is it sinful/immoral to flirt once you're married, because I am the biggest flirt and this might be one hell of a bad habit to break. Please Help!

    Tha't between you and your husband. If he doesn't have a problem with it, then it's not a problem. If he does, and you continue to flirt anyways, it may start off as a small problem, but it will escalate into a big problem.

    A discussion is definitely warranted.

    This. There is no one answer besides talking to your husband to be...or if you know it would bother him, don't do it.
  • KittieLea
    KittieLea Posts: 1,156 Member
    As long as it's only innocent flirting and doesn't get you into trouble AND your soon to be spouse is okay with it, I'd say you're good.

    If not you might want to take a look at your behavior or your spouse-make sure you're ready for a commitment!
  • still_crafty
    still_crafty Posts: 682 Member
    Slight problem here. I'm getting married this year and I'm just curious to know something. Is it sinful/immoral to flirt once you're married, because I am the biggest flirt and this might be one hell of a bad habit to break. Please Help!
    Sorry to hear, where do i send the flowers?, dont do it, monogamy is the ideas of HIGH CLERICS & Virgin Preistesses-Ty

    *groans* . . . here come the nasty-grams . . . not from me of course but probably more of the same from yesterday
  • melb2003
    melb2003 Posts: 198
    Slight problem here. I'm getting married this year and I'm just curious to know something. Is it sinful/immoral to flirt once you're married, because I am the biggest flirt and this might be one hell of a bad habit to break. Please Help!

    Tha't between you and your husband. If he doesn't have a problem with it, then it's not a problem. If he does, and you continue to flirt anyways, it may start off as a small problem, but it will escalate into a big problem.

    A discussion is definitely warranted.

    This exactly. And this will hold true for MANY things in your marriage. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. If the people in it are ok, then that's ok. If not, you will eventually fail. Marriage is about respect, but only the two of you can determine what is disrespectful to each other. Start having these conversations now. Setting boundaries in your marriage is critical, and if you can't talk about where those boundaries are, then you shouldn't be getting married.

    ^^This^^
  • michelejoann
    michelejoann Posts: 295 Member
    Slight problem here. I'm getting married this year and I'm just curious to know something. Is it sinful/immoral to flirt once you're married, because I am the biggest flirt and this might be one hell of a bad habit to break. Please Help!

    IMHO, no. It's your nature. I'm a big time flirt, I even (jokingly) post photos of my celebrity crushes on FB, and it is well known how obsessed I am with Jack Donaghy from 30 Rock. My fiance looks at me questioningly...but I know he looks at porn when I'm not around...and honestly, I don't care if he does. In fact, I ENCOURAGE it.

    Just as long as you flirt in all fun, and its innocent and it doesn't turn into something else (like cheating), its all good.
  • onedayillbeamilf
    onedayillbeamilf Posts: 966 Member
    Slight problem here. I'm getting married this year and I'm just curious to know something. Is it sinful/immoral to flirt once you're married, because I am the biggest flirt and this might be one hell of a bad habit to break. Please Help!

    Silly girl, it's only sinful/immoral if you get caught! So make sure to delete all those sext messages and porn mails and you will be just fine.
  • angelaclassact
    angelaclassact Posts: 66 Member
    I am a complete flirt, and my husband knows it. He also knows that I would never act on it. I keep it 'classy' and don't let it get out of control.
  • michelejoann
    michelejoann Posts: 295 Member
    At least for me, innocent flirting spices things up a bit for me and my boy...: )
  • CountryBoy65
    CountryBoy65 Posts: 908 Member
    If you are married, and you flirt...you are going straight to hell. Do not pass go, do not collect $200.

    Oh, and btw....I'll save you a seat if you bring the tequila hot stuff....wink...wink....
  • neverstray
    neverstray Posts: 3,845 Member
    I dont know anything about marraige, so I can't answer this. Sometimes, expectations change along with marraige. That's all I have to say about that.
  • Krissy366
    Krissy366 Posts: 458 Member
    This was just one of the many grey areas I needed some clarification on. Thanks again!

    But the clarification you seek shouldn't be from people on the internet, but rather from the man you are going to marry. And quite frankly, he wouldn't be the first guy (ETA: or girl, actually) to be ok with something while dating that he expects to stop once married. You should discuss it with him. Because if it turns out to be an issue, saying that a bunch of people online said it was fine won't mean much within the confines of your marriage.

    I open these types of conversations up with my husband constantly, usually based on something I read online. Can't even tell you how many times I've gone home and said, "So I was reading this advice column today...what's our position on...blah blah blah." And before things I wouldn't have even considered can become a problem we define OUR standard.
  • 10KEyes
    10KEyes Posts: 250 Member
    Slight problem here. I'm getting married this year and I'm just curious to know something. Is it sinful/immoral to flirt once you're married, because I am the biggest flirt and this might be one hell of a bad habit to break. Please Help!

    Tha't between you and your husband. If he doesn't have a problem with it, then it's not a problem. If he does, and you continue to flirt anyways, it may start off as a small problem, but it will escalate into a big problem.

    A discussion is definitely warranted.

    ^^^^^ He speaks with wisdom! Some guys are cool with it and some are not. You two need to get that out in the open and clear the air.
  • Begood03
    Begood03 Posts: 1,259 Member
    First rule of fight club .. uh marriage .. don't do anything you wouldn't want him to do.
    I laughed so hard at this! Fight Club.... so true.
  • Krissy366
    Krissy366 Posts: 458 Member
    I'm sure you husband-to-be knows exactly who you are and accepts you this way. I wouldn't change a thing,

    The problem with that is, she was worried about it enough to ask the question. And that's a good thing. If you think something will bother the person you are going to marry, you should definitely ask questions. But the problem is she's asking the wrong people.
  • NSQuintana
    NSQuintana Posts: 207
    But hang on - if You are getting married, then it is safe to assume you've been together for a while...so he should know what you're like. If you're having to change your behaviour because of marriage you were doing it wrong in the first place.
    10 yrs and counting.
  • MrsLVF
    MrsLVF Posts: 787 Member
    Slight problem here. I'm getting married this year and I'm just curious to know something. Is it sinful/immoral to flirt once you're married, because I am the biggest flirt and this might be one hell of a bad habit to break. Please Help!

    Tha't between you and your husband. If he doesn't have a problem with it, then it's not a problem. If he does, and you continue to flirt anyways, it may start off as a small problem, but it will escalate into a big problem.

    A discussion is definitely warranted.

    Perfect answer.
  • NSQuintana
    NSQuintana Posts: 207
    Stay single.
    ^^^Lose
    Not bragging but I can't remember the last time I was single :laugh:
  • 10KEyes
    10KEyes Posts: 250 Member
    But hang on - if You are getting married, then it is safe to assume you've been together for a while...so he should know what you're like. If you're having to change your behaviour because of marriage you were doing it wrong in the first place.
    10 yrs and counting.

    Well then he should know how you are. ;) If 10 years, then it may be safe to say, he doesn't have a problem with it.
  • tnorth82
    tnorth82 Posts: 186
    our rule is, its OK to go window shopping, as long as you dont get your purse out!
  • adamb83
    adamb83 Posts: 719 Member
    It's something you need to talk about with your future husband, up front.

    Don't assume that he's okay with it just because he probably knows it about you and might like it. He might assume you'll tone down after marriage. He might not actually know how big of a flirt you are. Who knows?

    Talk to him and get a clear understanding of boundaries before making a potentially hurtful faux pas later.
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