Really Bummed!

Thats why this journey has to be for YOU and not others.

Crying is ok. Sometimes you just need to let out your frustration & sadness. Then when you are done crying you can get back to your life and not stress about it anymore.

Thats why this journey has to be for YOU and not others.

This is what I was told at the beginning of my journey and this is what I tell people that are trying to lose weight themselves. This is for YOU and YOU ALONE!

This is really not something to be upset about, let alone crying over. You know that you look different and you're proud of yourself. I think it's more likely that your mom just didn't say anything than that she didn't notice anything. Some people don't want to mention someone else's weight loss because they're afraid it sounds like, "You're not as fat as you used to be." And if it's been nearly a year since you saw her, it might be possible that how you look was the last thing on her mind! A lot of moms think their kids are beautiful no matter what and it doesn't even occur to them that the kids might not agree. Besides that, your friends and coworkers see you every day and will be in a better position to see the changes than someone who has to remember back a whole year for comparison.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that your mom probably didn't mean to insult or ignore you, but that it might not have even crossed her mind to mention it. You can ask her opinion on it if it would make you feel better; it's not "fishing" if you're not just trolling for insincere compliments.

Sometimes when people decide to lose wait, their friends and co workers will start complimenting them alot and it can make the person stop trying so hard. Maybe the reason she didnt say anything is because she wants you to keep at it, and she doesnt want you to forget how much healthier you want to be....Just something to think

In the last 10 months I have been working out at least 5 days a week, eating healthier (for the most part!) and I've toned up dramatically. I've lost 24lbs! Yes, I still have a long way to go as you can see by my picture, but I'm really proud of myself for what I've done!

Everyone I know has noticed my weight loss: people I work with, my students, my friends, neighbors, etc.

Today, I just saw my mom for the first time since last June, she didn't say ANYTHING. I can't even explain how hurt I am. I think my awesome lunch that I just made is the only thing that has stopped me from crying so far and now that I've eaten, I'm back to square one.

To top it off, I don't want to mention anything to her because then I'm going to feel like I'm "fishing" and that's really not what I'm doing. I just feel like my mom has always been my biggest supporter, she could have said something, right?

Other than sitting on the couch crying, I'm really just not sure of the best way to go about this....

Don't take it this way! Sometimes people behave strange, not necessarily on purpose! Maybe she had something else on her mind! It's hard for me to believe, that your mom does not support you.

I am sorry your Mom did not respond - positively or at all. I will bet that this is the pattern of the relationship you two have. Take a look at the patterns you both have. This is probably just another stop on the same continuous road - not good or bad, just the same. I would also bet that especially not seeing each other for a year, she had some things she wanted you to realize about her, as well.

I agree with the others, as hard as this is for this special relationship, you are doing this for yourself. You may have to reconcile with yourself that this is just the way it is and go on from there. Revel in your success. Again, although this is a very special person to you don't let one person keep you from enjoying the progress you have made.

Since your profile is not open I can't tell how old you are or other details of your life. I may be projecting my own thing but I am 55 and had to learn, as I got older, that my Mom is just a human being, not super human. Sometimes she did not acknowledge my wins but she had her own stuff to deal with. When I was younger it hurt a lot as these were MY expectations, as I got older I accepted my Mom for who she was and found ways to get that acknowledgement elsewhere. I will bet your own Mom excels for you in some other part of your life - this just may not be it.

Often those closest to us don't really look at us, they take for granted that we look how we have always looked.

I stopped wearing glasses after 20 odd years and you would think that would be pretty darned obvious, but most of my family didn't notice. People I wasn't so close to on the other hand noticed straight away.