GRRR it's so irritating

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  • _ylime_
    _ylime_ Posts: 661 Member
    My boyfriend brings his lunch in a little cooler... he is typically at job sites so a fridge is rarely an option. Have him invest in one of those and a cold pack.... or as a previous posted suggested... cereal.... :laugh:
  • erickirb
    erickirb Posts: 12,294 Member
    I just have to get this out I'm so pissed about it even though in the grand scheme I know it's not a huge deal. Fiance wants me to make his lunches so he can save money. I worked my butt off last night and made him two very yummy very healthy steak and veggie enchiladas. I told him to take one of them to work since they were so big. So I call him to see how they are and he says he is at a business lunch so he spent money at that. So I said bring them home you can have them for dinner. He says he can't he left them in the hot car so they are not good. I said ok well you have the other one at home right. no he took both of them. I am pissed because I buy the grocery's and he just wasted my money and all the time it took me to cook them, just to take both with him like I told him not too and just leaves them in the car so he can't even eat them later. This is all after he asks me to make his lunches so he can eat better and save money. I didn't reply because I was so mad about it I knew I would just overreact. So I came here to vent to you guys and ask..............any lunch suggestions that can sit in the car and still be fine, because he won't be getting anything he can waste for a long time. Thanks for the vent and any suggestions you have.
    aahhhh feeling better already, glad I didnt' get amp at him.

    Get him a cooler bag and put an ice pack in it to keep it cool.
  • ArtsyGeekette
    ArtsyGeekette Posts: 29 Member
    My vote goes for packing lunches in a Cooler with reusable cooling packs and every time he doesn't eat his lunch, find a large jar for him to put $5 in as a punishment method. The accumulated money then goes into a Savings account named "Alms for Wasted Noms."

    Or use the money as a buffer for groceries! If he has a smartphone, have him set up a reminder to take lunch and to eat his lunch or pony up.
  • janet0513
    janet0513 Posts: 564 Member
    He is a big boy and can make his own lunches from now on......and you can send me some enchiladas....I will sooooooo appreciate them :smile:
  • dirtbikegirl5
    dirtbikegirl5 Posts: 391 Member
    Yes, definitely give him another chance. Buy him a cooler and ice pack and pack his lunch in that.
  • Grimmerick
    Grimmerick Posts: 3,342 Member
    And why can't he make his own lunches?! Even children can do that.

    he does things for me that I don't like to do, and he hates making food so I do that for him, it's a compromise but I'll be damned if that compromise is going to waste my time and money.
  • dvisser1
    dvisser1 Posts: 788 Member
    I am pissed because I buy the grocery's and he just wasted my money and all the time it took me to cook them,

    Hand him the bill. Seriously, what he did was completely inconsiderate.
  • auroranflash
    auroranflash Posts: 3,569 Member
    Please send all future steak and veggie enchiladas to me. They will be appreciated.
  • cbbarge
    cbbarge Posts: 250 Member
    Tell him you are not his momma and to make his own da## lunch!! Oh, and remind him to clean the kitchen up when he's done!
  • archgrrrl
    archgrrrl Posts: 62
    My suggestions is he should make his own lunches. He's not in elementary school.

    Agree!! Get him a small cooler with an ice pack and say "Here ya go!"
  • Skeena4
    Skeena4 Posts: 209 Member
    Irritating for sure!
    I'd say PB & J, apples, dry cereal, crackers, rice cakes... if he can't buck up for a lunch bag with an ice pack instead of spending money on bought lunches, then I'd stop making them all together and tell him that you're happy to make him lunch if he's going to appreciate it and eat it, if not, well... you have better things to do.
  • billsica
    billsica Posts: 4,741 Member
    HA HA!! Welcome to marriage!
  • slyder432
    slyder432 Posts: 475 Member
    He did on purpose you know.......
  • totallytasha
    totallytasha Posts: 134 Member
    The accumulated money then goes into a Savings account named "Alms for Wasted Noms."

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: Omg, love this!!!
  • J3SSP3NNY
    J3SSP3NNY Posts: 235
    I'd give him a chance to not waste money, as well as your time and thoughtfulness. But if he does it again, you know what doesn't spoil in a car? A box of cereal. Send his *kitten* to work with some Cheerios and watch how fast he appreciates the nice meals you fix him.

    LMAO
  • collinj8
    collinj8 Posts: 98 Member
    Next time you make those, just send them to me. I will appreciate them.
    And you all know PB&J would not work, everyone loves PB&J
  • BaconMD
    BaconMD Posts: 1,165 Member
    Please send all future steak and veggie enchiladas to me. They will be appreciated.
    Can we work out some kind of sharing arrangement?
  • shaelataylor
    shaelataylor Posts: 224 Member
    Communication is important. Calmly explain that you were upset that all the time and money was wasted. Give him a chance to apologize and once he's more aware of the situation and your feelings regarding it, the likelihood of a repeat is reduced.

    this is my vote. youre obviously rather upset by it so you need to at least tell him that. now that you have your vent out hopefully it can be done calmly. its hard for him to fix it if he doesnt realize it bothers you. if he continually has the same problems after youve talked, then id say hes on his own for making lunch. best of luck :)
  • shani251
    shani251 Posts: 145 Member
    last time this happened at our house, i made my sweetie help me pack lunches for a week. He saw the time and care that i put into it and it helped him to understand a little better the impact of his actions. I pack breakfast, lunch, and two snack (and some more munchies because he's a hungry guy). When he saw that it takes me about half an hour every night to do this (not to mention the planning ahead involved in cooking extra dinner so he can have leftovers for lunch) it helped him to be just a little more thoughtful.

    If that doesn't help, i'd go with the cereal suggestion. :laugh:
  • chattipatty2
    chattipatty2 Posts: 376 Member
    I just have to get this out I'm so pissed about it even though in the grand scheme I know it's not a huge deal. Fiance wants me to make his lunches so he can save money. I worked my butt off last night and made him two very yummy very healthy steak and veggie enchiladas. I told him to take one of them to work since they were so big. So I call him to see how they are and he says he is at a business lunch so he spent money at that. So I said bring them home you can have them for dinner. He says he can't he left them in the hot car so they are not good. I said ok well you have the other one at home right. no he took both of them. I am pissed because I buy the grocery's and he just wasted my money and all the time it took me to cook them, just to take both with him like I told him not too and just leaves them in the car so he can't even eat them later. This is all after he asks me to make his lunches so he can eat better and save money. I didn't reply because I was so mad about it I knew I would just overreact. So I came here to vent to you guys and ask..............any lunch suggestions that can sit in the car and still be fine, because he won't be getting anything he can waste for a long time. Thanks for the vent and any suggestions you have.
    aahhhh feeling better already, glad I didnt' get amp at him.
    Note I did not read further, so someone else may have said this or may have been more sympathetic. But after 18 years of being married, I can tell you now. If you start this pattern, u will lead a life time of frustration. In the grand scheme of things, this is a big deal. You can make his lunches because you love of him and care about him. That is one thing. But if he disrespects your intentions, that is another thing. Let him know how this made you feel. And if he does it again? Never, ever make his lunch again. No strike 3's here. He is a big boy after all.
  • OceansForever
    OceansForever Posts: 221 Member
    My suggestions is he should make his own lunches. He's not in elementary school.

    ^^ That!

    I would be beyond pissed. I hate cooking and if whatever I cook ends up being thrown away, I would be livid.

    It was a great gesture on your end that you went through the trouble of cooking for him (it's not like you are his personal chef) but I wouldn't be cooking for him for a loooooong time.
  • fpgessel
    fpgessel Posts: 18 Member
    How about 'your not his mother' but I'm guessing that she didn't make his lunches either. For the record - I have a loving relationship with my husband, but when WE make our lunches to save OUR money, WE do it TOGETHER. Please tell me he is doing something else for the household or the family while you are making his lunch? If this is important to him, then he can make the lunch. Please be warned that whatever habits you start now are likely to continue for the next 30-50 years. Be choosy on what tasks of his you take on.
  • LisaF1163
    LisaF1163 Posts: 141
    Please send all future steak and veggie enchiladas to me. They will be appreciated.
    Can we work out some kind of sharing arrangement?
    NO! I will fight you both to the death for the steak and veggie enchiladas! :smile:
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    yo make him prove he'll eat what he brings before youll invest in this project. Have him make his own so he can understand the value in it.

    geez im pissed for you- thats really sad.
  • baxgilter
    baxgilter Posts: 246 Member
    Oh man. He needs to make his own lunch. Im ignoring the fact that he wasted your time money and effort. My guy would love it if I made his lunch, but Im not his mother. My time is precious too.
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