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I'm going to guess this topic brought you here expecting pics or something or other involving a sex change operation. I'm sorry that I'm not able to oblige on that, but please continue reading. If you have advise, offer it. If you have a witty remark, I'll take that too.
About 2 months ago my female boss left the company I work for. A short time later, a male co-worker was promoted into her position. I have not had a male boss in over a decade, and even when I did it was only for about 9 months. Every boss in every position I've had post college has been a female. Plus, this is the first time that my boss has changed when it wasn't due to an act of mine (ie: promotion or employer change) so it's a bit odd for me.
It's a little odd for me trying to figure out how/if I should change the way I'm doing things. And he's not giving me much direction on wanting things differently yet, other than the fact he tends to be the type to just holler from his office sometimes instead of picking up the phone or sending an internal IM. In fact, I know already that I've missed a couple things that I found out about later cause he hollered assuming I was here.
Any advise as to what to do? No, I'm not going to sleep with him.... SOOOOOO not my type! :laugh:
About 2 months ago my female boss left the company I work for. A short time later, a male co-worker was promoted into her position. I have not had a male boss in over a decade, and even when I did it was only for about 9 months. Every boss in every position I've had post college has been a female. Plus, this is the first time that my boss has changed when it wasn't due to an act of mine (ie: promotion or employer change) so it's a bit odd for me.
It's a little odd for me trying to figure out how/if I should change the way I'm doing things. And he's not giving me much direction on wanting things differently yet, other than the fact he tends to be the type to just holler from his office sometimes instead of picking up the phone or sending an internal IM. In fact, I know already that I've missed a couple things that I found out about later cause he hollered assuming I was here.
Any advise as to what to do? No, I'm not going to sleep with him.... SOOOOOO not my type! :laugh:
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:drinker: We don't need no thought control......:drinker:0
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I don't understand the question. Men are individuals and they have different management styles, just like women do... Have all your female bosses acted exactly the same?0
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Working for men is way better. Just ask him what he expects and he'll tell you. No Jedi mind tricks. Enjoy it!0
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Uh, I doubt there is more difference between male and female bosses than between one boss and another.
Just work hard and be welcoming, and eventually you will figure out your new boss's management style. He may be anywhere from hands off to a micro-manager. This has nothing to do with his sex, it has to do with his personality.
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Could you maybe ask for a one to one meeting with your boss and ask him to help you out by being clearer about what he wants you to do? Explain to him how you worked with your previous bosses and maybe you can work something out between you so you can be a more productive team
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I think you will find male bosses are easier to work for because females tend to be all power hungry and overly concerned with stuff that doesn't matter. guys just want to get the work done.0
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Not sure that gender will make a major impact, but I guess I would say to be direct.
Ask him to let you know what's on his mind and if he has any preferences.0 -
pretty much just do your job. If he wants you to change things, he will tell you.0
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You sound responsive and responsible enough so, no, don't change how you go about things. Most men tend to expect employees to get the job done without asking or micromanaging. Obviously this is not always true, but mostly. I would just note the difference in that he verbalizes more and roll with it.0
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I'm not really sure what the question is really? Nothing should change...unless you used to talk about womanly things with your old bosses? I don't think a man would appreciate that. I had to switch from a female boss to a male boss but I kept doing things the way I was doing them because I knew I was doing them the right way. If he wants you to change something, he will ask. Until then, just keep doing what you are doing! He's a person like any other!0
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I think you will find male bosses are easier to work for because females tend to be all power hungry and overly concerned with stuff that doesn't matter. guys just want to get the work done.
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Have all your female bosses acted exactly the same?
oddly enough, yes. they've all been 2-faced witches after their own agenda and barely cared about their subordinates.
LMBO! Well, maybe this will be a positive change once you learn to "manage" him. Men are easier to figure out (at work) than women are. Take some time to learn what he likes or doesn't like in his employees. You can manage him by making sure you do what he likes (meaning what he expects his employees to do) and avoid the things he doesn't like. This should also help you stay out of his line of fire. This may mean, however, that you initiate one-on-one meetings with him from time to time to discuss your performance, what he wants from you and where he sees areas of improvement. This will make you look like you care about your job and could also benefit you at review time.
Just a suggestion. :-)0 -
oddly enough, yes. they've all been 2-faced witches after their own agenda and barely cared about their subordinates.
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I'm afraid I don't understand what the problem is, or what you're asking, specifically. If it's an issue with missing a few directions because he's called out & assumed you were there when you weren't, it's probably just a matter of saying, "Hey, if you hear me call back a hearty 10-4, then it's safe to assume I've heard you and will take care of whatever needs handling. If you don't hear me call back, then you should probably throw me an email."
I actually clicked on this ready to give some support to someone going through a gender reassignment thing. I have no idea what any of this has to do with male versus female. It's a boss. You do your work, try to play nicely in the sandbox, make boss happy. Rinse. Repeat.0 -
I don't understand the question. Men are individuals and they have different management styles, just like women do... Have all your female bosses acted exactly the same?
^^such a good point
In my current work there was a director rotation and I have learned to test my assumptions. There are things I do that are standard behaviors and then things that can be suited to the relationship. When my Director stepped in (from male to female) I thought about my interactions with that role and then wrote an email asking for their preferences in situations where change was an option (also explaining my current norm) She was happy that I had taken the time to try and best meet her needs and opted to keep most things the same but changed a few things. It allowed us to dialogue which was great and I am more confident with our relationship than a lot of my colleagues because we decided on a game plan that would work for us.0 -
One of my favorite 'de' motivational posters is "The only consistent feature of all my dissatisfying relationships is me." It's true - if you have trouble getting along with others it's probably about more than the people you work for.
Men and women are different managers - men are far more interested in the bottom line as in meeting deadlines, humor, your making them look good and not expecting them to understand the emotional baggage we sometimes bring to work with us. But, they also need to be managed up - as in figuring out how to be one step ahead of your boss.
Women tend to focus on the relationships they manage, so you would most likely have longer meetings, be asked about your life, make sure you are okay with the assignments you are given and work by consensus. Women also need to be managed up.
If you are really interested in knowing more then Deborah Tannen has written a number of books on this topic.
Good luck with the new boss.0 -
I thought you were going to say that your boss was female and left and came back as a male
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Is said male boss said previous female boss?0
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