tummy toning

Try planking or lay on your back and put hands behind head like a sit up but only go halfway up. It works your abs like a full sit up bacause you are using only your abs not your thighs.

This is nothing to feel embarrassed about, your putting in the effort which is a wonderful thing, i wasn't very good with the whole exercise thing when i first started, you just need to find the exercises that work best for you. A great new way ive found to do ab crunches in a much comfortable way is to lie flat on the ground, raise both legs in the air and try touch your toes (i.e smooth your hands up your legs, to where you feel most comfortable), then go back down. I would start by doing 10 of these in a set of 3. I have newly started this and seeing the effects and find it much easier than other crunches.
Hope this helps =D
Sara xx

I'll just add another vote to throwing in weight lifting. Even at my lowest weight while I was training for HMarathons/Marathons pretty much constantly I hated the fat left on my stomach. I had very little core strength to speak of.

Now, with under 3 hours of lifting a week I am finally seeing differences in the strength, function, and appearance of my core area.. The cardio is awesome and necessary (IMO) but the weight lifting will build that lean mass that is going to continue burning calories.

Don't believe me, believe the Institute for Sports Medicine and the Journal of Obesity: http://www.hindawi.com/journals/jobes/2011/482564/

I want some muscle but there's two things.. Muscle weighs more than fat and I really need the weight off good weight or bad weight its still weight. and two I want a little muscle but I don't wanna look like those chicks that have so much muscles they look like men.

I have muscle.. I'm stronger than my dad... But its surrounded in fat and that's the problem.

1. ) Muscle does not weigh more than fat. A pound of muscle is still a pound. Just like a pound of fat is still a pound. A pound of muscle takes up less space than a pound of fat.
2. ) You're not going to 'look like a man' because women don't produce the same amount of testosterone as men to build muscle like men, unless you're taking steroids, or testosterone supplements.

My advice to you is to continue your cardio regimen, and start introducing weight lifting. Follow your current diet plan, and make sure that you're drinking enough water. Be honest with yourself and your eating habits, and you'll see the results that you want in time.

btw, check out the story of this girl here: http://www.canyoustayfordinner.com/ read her blog posts regarding losing 135lbs, and her struggles.

I agree with the others about lifting.

The reason many people say muscle weighs more than fat is because for the same amount of space it takes up, it does, as it's more dense. However, when you are in a deficit and losing weight (fat) you are not going to be gaining muscle at the same rate you are losing fat! So you will still lose weight, don't worry.
Most people don't gain muscle at all while on a deficit, the best they can hope for is to maintain their muscle mass (as most people, without lifting, lose muscle as well as fat while they lose scale weight) However, as you have quite a bit to lose, and you would be new to lifting, you may find you gain some muscle while on a deficit, this will not last that long, and as I said before it will be nowhere near the same rate you are losing fat.

As far as the high testosterone levels go, even a woman who has very high levels of testosterone, is still going to have less, than the men who have low testosterone. I just looked it up and the normal range for a man is 200-1200 ng./dl. The normal amount for a woman is 15 - 70 ng./dl. As you can see 200 (low for a man) is still significantly higher than 70 (high for a woman)

This is really embarrassing but I cant do a sit up I get a few inches off the ground and cant pull myself up any higher... I try but it just don't work. Is there something I can do to tone my tummy other than sit ups? This girl needs abs lol

What every one is saying here is true, your not really going to see anything until your body fat count comes down. I have the same problem. After a long illness and losing a lot of muscle, I got a free trial (8 days) at a UFC gym. I had a chance to spend about 2 hours with a personal trainer and this is what he had me do to start getting my abs and arms strong again.

Start on your hands and knees, put your feet on something about 6" off the ground so you don't use them for this exercise. Move you hands forward so your knees are at an angle (as you get stronger make the angle deeper so your in a knee plank position). Now pull your stomach in to your back as hard as you can, angle your butt up for 15 seconds, then slowly relax all the way to the floor for 5 seconds then again slowly back up and in. I did 10 repetitions and it felt really good at the time but the next day I was sore. this is a good way to start strengthening your arms and stomach and is low impact so you don't hurt your neck or your back trying to do sit-ups.