What's wrong with people?

earlyxer
earlyxer Posts: 240 Member
in Motivation and Support
Sick of hearing people tell me I lost too much weight. How come people never come up to you and say "Hey, you better be careful - you're getting too fat!" or "You really ought to brush your teeth!"? But they have no ****ing problem saying "You're losing too much weight"?
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  • Microfiber_wechange
    Microfiber_wechange Posts: 640
    :flowerforyou:
  • Tiff587
    Tiff587 Posts: 264 Member
    From the look of your photos you look great! I can see your hard work is really paying off! Well done!

    I think people will never understand what we are trying to achieve and what drives us if they don't have that same drive. People will judge us for the tiny snap shot they see, it doesn't make them right!
    I know I get judged when I wont have chocolate or ice cream, they don't understand that my goal is more important than that chocolate bar!

    A lot of people will just be plain jealous!

    :flowerforyou:
  • lenaa50
    lenaa50 Posts: 34
    I completely agree with you.

    no one ever says, hey your putting on weight, watch your health.
    but as soon as you lose some weight, BAM you hear the niggly comments come out...aww your losing so much weight, you feeling alright.......well actually, yes, feeling so much better and healthier than before, but people just don't get it.
    and I agree that my goal is so much more rewarding to me than having chocolate or ice cream...
  • thebigcb
    thebigcb Posts: 2,210 Member
    Well done.

    Pay no attention to them, there are hundreds of unqualified experts on this site.

    Find out a small piece of information and use that to base all there assumptions
  • charlottey22
    charlottey22 Posts: 71 Member
    absoultely! its annoying!, ive only lost 6 pounds but when people notice they always say - careful or ull loose too much! why would they need to make that comment? x
  • niksinnotts
    niksinnotts Posts: 62 Member
    god i agree totally!! when people say "ooo don't lose too much" or "don't lose anymore", its not helpfull, i would guess they are jealous that we are doing something positive in our lives!! when i lost weight a few years ago i had people saying these things to me and i was still significantly overweight!! maybe they think they are being flattering?!?! but just try and ignore it is all i can say:flowerforyou:
  • chuckyp
    chuckyp Posts: 693 Member
    Two reasons:

    A. They are fat and envious of your weight loss.

    B. They are used to seeing you at your former weight and that is their reference for "normal" for you, even if you were overweight. Now you lose some weight and look skinny or sickly to them. Given time with the new you, they will get used to it.

    I got that a lot when I first lost my 30 lbs. Hell, I still get it from people I don't see too often. Don't sweat it.
  • Tbarr3000
    Tbarr3000 Posts: 9
    I don't know about you guys but when I hear this it is always from the same type of people. They are unhappy with their own weight. I know because they have said so. They have also done little to nothing to change that.
  • thebigcb
    thebigcb Posts: 2,210 Member
    Opinions are like AH's, everyone has one
  • rgrange
    rgrange Posts: 236 Member
    haters gon' hate
  • jcgrant43
    jcgrant43 Posts: 64
    Wow! How timely..I had the same thing said to me yesterday, and it actually was bothering me. Kinda of glad to hear that it isn't just me that runs across this. I'm not going to change my goals because of it, as they are very specific, and I'm close to achieving them. I hope you do the same.
  • MsBaby117
    MsBaby117 Posts: 201 Member
    9 times out of 10 the people who say that are jealous because you are doing what they really want to do...Just ignore them. Let your haters be your motivators :flowerforyou:
  • martina123321
    martina123321 Posts: 115
    Opinions are like AH's, everyone has one
  • Fit_Forever25
    Fit_Forever25 Posts: 313 Member
    Oh well there is a word for this called 'Jealousy!'
    90% of the people around you would never feel good if you are happy or doing way too good in your life
    so just IGNORE and keep up the good work!!
    make them Jealous as much as u can ;-))
    I enjoy it now :D
  • kaned_ferret
    kaned_ferret Posts: 618 Member
    To be fair, my dad DID say "you're getting FAT!" *pokes my muffintop*

    So it does happen, but no, that didn't feel good either lmao.
  • sasarafo
    sasarafo Posts: 18
    I don't get it. Looked at your photos and you just look like a very fit and toned person? If you were a walking skeleton then I could see folks commenting out of true concern but you look great!
  • specialtreat
    specialtreat Posts: 75
    I had a friend notice I have lost a "little" and asked me how much more I want to lose. She snapped at me when I told her my goal weight and told me thats too much and not to worry cause she will tell me when I am looking gaunt and have lost too much. What The!!
    My goal weight isn't even the lowest I have been before or for my height, Geees! So I totally get what you are saying.

    I had a look at your photos and yes you are thin, but not skin and bone thin, looks like you have some serious muscles growing there which will bulk you up a bit. They are just jealous that you look better than them.:wink:
    Well done on your success at losing weight.
  • Dublinmum
    Dublinmum Posts: 19 Member
    Funny that. When I lost the first 10lbs I had some people tell me that I was looking great but cautioning me not to loose too much more. 10lbs!, I needed to loose 70lb in total to get back to the top of my healthy weight range. I just smiled and said nothing.

    Now I'm down 31lbs, almost halfway to my goal and nobody is saying 'anything'. Absolute silence. Well that's not true, my husband is fantastic and has supported me every step of the way, and a couple of friends have commented that I'm looking great. But as for the rest, nothing. Maybe they feel that by commenting on the weight loss they are actually saying that I was grossly overweight in the first place. I like good manners, but sometimes you can bring it too far :smile:
  • kacbldmm07
    kacbldmm07 Posts: 96
    My husband told me this last night. He also said he doesn't like me skinny, he likes me healthy. Just because I'm skinny doesn't mean I'm healthy? Wow I never knew this. :explode:
  • joeq722
    joeq722 Posts: 86 Member
    Thats because you didnt translate it.
    'youre losing too much weighta' lots of time means:
    "youre looking good. Stop that because I cant/wont do it!".
  • Christina1007
    Christina1007 Posts: 179 Member
    I think you look great. I can understand that for some people the visual change can be too much, but they will get used to it.

    Just reply to them that you feel great and better than you ever felt before and to bugger off! Well done for the amazing transformation.
  • Flixie00
    Flixie00 Posts: 1,195 Member
    Yep, know what you mean, I have started to get such comments. Those same people never warned me about eating when I was putting on the weight, and that was far more dangerous for my health as I have high blood pressure and had (now OK) high cholesteral. I still weigh 13 lbs more than the maximum weight recommended for my hight but people call me skinny now.

    I think its down to a mix of jealousy, people being comfortable with you looking a certain way and the population in the West now weighs a lot more than it used to so people find it hard to visualise what a healthy weight is.

    Now if asked I say I am concentrating on building muscle and just carry on doing what I do.
  • Leamac83
    Leamac83 Posts: 99 Member
    I think when people make comments that arent positive it is generally coming from their envy or jealousy. Ive done it myself too. If someone is genuinley pleased for you they will tell you that youve done well or you look great. When someone is jealous that you have achieved something that they cant get of their fat lazy *kitten* to do then they wont insult you, god no, they will just make a stupid comment like...oh you will waste away.

    If your healthy and happy who cares what they say! :)
  • drsturgill
    drsturgill Posts: 1 Member
    I totally understand, where you are coming from. I have family who keep telling me that I have lost to much.
  • Helloitsdan
    Helloitsdan Posts: 5,564 Member
    haters gon' hate
  • mwapay
    mwapay Posts: 18
    Two reasons:

    A. They are fat and envious of your weight loss.

    B. They are used to seeing you at your former weight and that is their reference for "normal" for you, even if you were overweight. Now you lose some weight and look skinny or sickly to them. Given time with the new you, they will get used to it.

    I got that a lot when I first lost my 30 lbs. Hell, I still get it from people I don't see too often. Don't sweat it.


    i totally agree they are envious of your weight loss..though i have had people tell me your too fat your always gaining iv lost seven kg and am surely not looking the same but thy wont give credit..in the end iv decided am doing this for me its my life,my health my problems if i remain overweight
    so keep going..
  • sparklefire
    sparklefire Posts: 8 Member
    When people tell me not to lose too much weight I say "Theres no fear of that!" Cuz I have a LONG way to go. I think thats awful tho... like people who have told me my whole life how much I look like a pig are now afraid that I'm going to be an "unhealthy" skinny person who doesnt have enough fat stores for winter or something! GAHHH!!! smh.
  • victoria4321
    victoria4321 Posts: 1,719 Member
    People get so mad when you say they're getting fat. I told my brother he was getting fat and boy was he mad. He's working out with me now though so I guess it worked.
  • Aleara2012
    Aleara2012 Posts: 225 Member
    Sick of hearing people tell me I lost too much weight. How come people never come up to you and say "Hey, you better be careful - you're getting too fat!" or "You really ought to brush your teeth!"? But they have no ****ing problem saying "You're losing too much weight"?

    I have had people tell me I have become too fat, it wasn't a nice thing to hear either. Still waiting for the day I hear somebody say I have lost too much weight :D
  • Aid_B
    Aid_B Posts: 427
    This is an easy one,

    One word answer , Jealous !

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