Calorie Intake - Help please!

netting too little if I have to guess

I cannot say. Although in all my life weight has never "fallen off" me. I cannot see your diary so I don't know if you are loosing at all. What I can tell you is that what I eat greatly affects how I loose. You can try increasing your fiber and the types of food you eat. You could research fat blockers (like broccoli, oatmeal, and strawberries) and metabolism boosters (hot peppers and ice water and the first two that come to mind) as well as antioxidents like green tea. And finally make certain you are getting enough water. I can't loose anything unless I drink about 6 glasses of water a day. I usually average closer to 10 or 12.

netting too little if I have to guess

^^^ I like that guess.

To the OP: I'd experiment with eating more. If 1900 is your "maintenance" level, try eating an average of 1400 "net" calories (that means logging your exercise and eating back your exercise calories too!). That should set you up for a one-pound weight loss a week (500 deficit calories * 7 days = 3500 calories = 1 pound).

If that starts working for you, then you can experiment with lowering them a bit (say by another 250, bringing you to 1150) which might net you another half pound a week.

But 700 net calories is just too low. You aren't fueling good workouts, and you aren't feeding your body. You CAN lose weight through starvation; I've done it. But it's painful, self-defeating, and in the long run not sustainable, as I've found out at least 6 times in my life.

BMR is the minimum amount of calories that your body burns, just existing. If you were to sleep, completely still. Other things, like moving your hand to type or getting up to go to the bathroom, or even standing vs sitting, require additional energy, as calculated by your TDEE, your total daily expenditure. When you don't eat enough to keep your body existing, or when you burn those calories by exercising, and then don't replenish the body, your body does everything that it can to store the food you give it and will reject any weight loss. Try upping your calories to at least your BMR to get your body out of starvation mode. Give that a try for a week or two and see if you notice a difference.
Do you notice a difference in your body as a whole yet? Do clothes fit better, or is there a part of you that feels smaller? If you're exercising intensely it's also possible that you're building muscle which weights more than fat by volume.

You may be sabotaging your effort by eating too few calories. When you do this, your metabolism slows down to compensate.
It's a self-preservation mechanism.

Hi. This is my input...

It is my belief that the goal of this process that you're undertaking is making a sustainable change in the way you eat, the way you feel, and the way you feel about yourself. In any big project, like the one you're undertaking, I think it's always best to start at the end and work your way backwards. If we were talking face-to-face, I'd probably ask you questions like: What are the types of foods that you find give you fantastic energy to play with your kid(s)? What are the types of foods that make you feel tired or groggy? If you ate mostly the foods that give you fantastic energy, how much would you have to eat so that you're neither full nor famished; but comfortable?

With that in mind, I see two main challenges with what you're currently doing.

1. You've put yourself into a starvation mode, which there's no way you can sustain for years and years. Instead it's driving your energy straight down through the floor.
2. You're measuring your results before you've really established clearly in your mind what you're trying to achieve.

Here's my advice. Stop measuring your results and focus on the long-term process. Take your time. Read about nutrition (not only for you but for your little one(s). Learn about the healing powers of fresh fruits and vegetables. Keep a log here not only of what you eat...but most importantly, log how you feel. Log how the foods you eat make you feel positive about life or down and negative. When you start monitoring how what you eat affects your emotions, you'll be shocked!

When you start to notice the pattern of how nutritious colorful fruits and veggies taste great AND make you see the world as a happier place, you'll worry less about the numbers on the scale. Instead, you'll be using food to manage your energy in a positive way that will uplift everyone in your life and set a great example for your kid(s). As your energy and positivity goes up....the numbers on the scale will go down.

It sounds simple, but it works...

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