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I'm not sure you can stop loving or caring for someone even if it hurts you. I have however been in a very dysfunctional relationship that lasted almost 4 years. There were ups and downs and wanting to end it but not wanting to be alone and also wanting to be in the relationship but knowing it wasn't making me happy. The best advice I could give just based on what I went through was to try to spend your time focusing more on you. Making an effort to do things that make you happy that don't involve him. It can be anything, writing or drawing or painting or dancing or reading or singing or cleaning or exercising. There are so many things you can do with your time to find out what makes you happiest and after spending so much time forcing distraction in your life, you will realize you're not thinking about him or how you feel about him as much and you can put things into perspective better. And once you find something that makes you happy you will find out just how empowering it is to take over your own life without leaning on someone else to make you happy because you're taking care of that part. It will build up your confidence and help you to make the right decision about what you really want from him. A friend told me once, You're so much stronger than you think you are. I believe that to be true about everyone. And once you realize it there is nothing you can't do with or without someone special. I really hope this helps. And I really hope you feel better. Always remember, you deserve to be happy, :flowerforyou:

i gotta a feeling this experience is going to make a much more stronger woman out of you. I predict you will find a guy, very,very soon, that will REALLY appreciate your beauty outside, as well as inside....Your a very pretty lady.....I wish you the best..you deserve it! I will pray for you! Stay sweet & strong (and cute!!)

everything will be fine in the end.. if its not fine its not the end:flowerforyou:

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The hardest part about emotionally abusive relationships is realizing you're IN ONE. The people around you tell you that you're making mistakes, they criticize the person you're with, and you defend them. You defend them to yourself. You do everything you can to hold it all together. Everything about it hurts. You can't escape it, and it's overwhelming, and you're legitimately afraid that things will end.

But then they do end, and the relief is a real, tangible thing. I was with my ex for two years, known him for.. ever. I couldn't see what people were saying. I didn't understand. I knew that he hurt me, regularly. I knew that I'd be strong enough to leave for a day... a week... but he'd come back, and tell me things would change, and that he loved me. And I went back.

This journey, losing weight, loving yourself - it's about a lot more than what's on the outside. It's about what's broken inside that has allowed you, me, anyone really to stop loving themselves, to let themselves fall apart. The people in your life who drag you down are toxic. They will only continue to be toxic.

Love isn't enough, when it's only your love. You're trying to make changes in your life. Focus on YOU. If he's not going to come along for the ride, then it's OKAY to boot him out of the driver's seat. You are strong, you are beautiful, and you can do this. Hang in there.