New-ish mom trying to get back on track

erock_21
erock_21 Posts: 5 Member
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Hello,
I guess I can start by telling my story. I am a 32 year old mother of 1 son, who is almost a year old.

I have always had "weight issues" and this has been a life-long struggle. Before I was pregnant with my son I got down to 145, the lowest I had been in a long time. Before that I usually fluctuated between 160-170. When I was pregnant with my son I got up to 230. The day after my son was born I weighed 210. Last summer and fall I stayed around 190-195. I nursed for 9 months, nursing did not help take off the baby weight like some people claim.

Then I got pregnant again got up to 198 (3 months pregnant) lost the baby.
Here I am almost a month after the loss, sitting between 190-195 trying to get under 190 and back into my regular cloths. It makes it more depressing wearing maternity cloths, I want to get over the loss of the baby and feel good about myself again.

The last month I have become a vegetarian again, mostly because I hate cooking meat and it grosses me out to eat it. I have always been grossed out by meat and was a vegetarian for a long time until I tried the adkins diet which helped me get down into the 150's. I was a vegetarian in the past for about 7 years, I gained weight because I ate alot of cheese and pasta. This time I am vegetable focused.. no grilled cheeses for this girl. I also eat fish probably 4-5 times a week.

I have been trying to do the calorie counting thing, I try to stay under 1000 calories a day. I walk alot for exercise. I "pop" raspberry ketones every day (300 mgs a day). I drink alot of water, eat whole grains, lots of fruit and veggies. Weight loss has always been a huge struggle for me, I think because I have been weight obsessed my whole life and will try every yo yo diet, crash diet, and diet pill I can get my hands on. Which has totally screwed up my metabolism. That being said, I would totally take any diet pill that actually worked, any suggestions??

I was excited last week because I got down to 190, my goal for this week was to get under 190, somehow the scale is saying I gained 5 lbs. I think I might be starting my period again or something because I have been "good" with my diet and exercise.

One of my "downfalls" is that I like to drink. I don't have a sweet tooth, but I really enjoy a beer, cocktail or glass of wine to wind down at the end of the evening. I have given up alcohol before (when I was pregnant) and have no problem doing it, I just enjoy it. I guess you could say I have a "drunk tooth".

Anyway, I am looking for support and new diets to try. I am avoiding going adkins because I don't want to eat meat, but I will try almost everything else. I would really love to get down past 190 which has been seemingly impossible since my son was born.

Also this is the 1st time I have ever discussed my weight with anyone. Even at the doctors, no matter how much I weigh I feel shameful when I get on the scale in front of others, or discuss my weight it makes me want to cry.

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  • shay0119
    shay0119 Posts: 29 Member
    Hello...I am a mother of a young son also so I know how difficult it is to lose the weight. If you need any encouragement please feel free to add me:smile:
  • bigtwagner
    bigtwagner Posts: 113
    You may not be eating enough calories. Your body may be going into starvation mode. Both my wife and I are in about the same weight range and we are eating well more than that...1900 for her to be exact. Do what works for you. Feel free to add me, i am never negative, and always encouraging.
  • Embera
    Embera Posts: 289 Member
    i agree you need to eat enough not too much but not too little ither i dont really like cooking with meat ither but i really love chicken ground beef is weired to me raw anyway im in your boat ish too my daughter is only 8 mo and i actualy lost weight during pregnancy but then i gained it back when i was in hs i was around 240 after i moved and we walk to get places i went down to 220 but ive gained 5 recently being stuck in the house with my daughter
  • mismis13
    mismis13 Posts: 4 Member
    Hear you! I am the mom of two grade school boys (11 and 8) and I too have always struggled with my weight. Like you I remember that scale bouncing at that 200 mark. I have never been the "skinny" girl nor do I want to be at this point. This past January, I found MFP, and joined along with a family member (has since dropped out). And I have found that I Can Do This! My calorie goal of around 1390 is realisitic, and the weight has been consistently coming off! I am down 22 pounds!!! I feel a little better everyday, and am learning to that I need to do this for myself, as well as my family. This has not been easy for me, my husband is also overweight and has no interest in joining in on my efforts. But I like the way I feel, and know I am making the right choice. I now understand that this is a journey not a race. And the pay off, is a better life! I just recently went to try on some clothes from last summer, and they ALL FIT, and some are baggy! Its just a challenge each day, and I'm worth it.
  • erock_21
    erock_21 Posts: 5 Member
    Thanks for the support! I really appreciate it!

    I guess I do need to find some sort of "balance" but I also want quick results that is why I am restricting my calories and also because while I do get out and walk alot, I am not going to start bodybuilding anytime soon. I like exercise that is outdoors and fun like swimming, hiking, walking, snowboarding, ect. I think as long as I stay active and eat healthy I will eventually start losing weight.

    good for you mismis13! 22lbs is a great accomplishment! I would love some baggy cloths right now :) The good news is I bought a size 12 jean skirt today that fit! But I am still not fitting into any of my size 12's from before I was pregnant, so the skirt I bought probably ran big.

    Maybe I will add some more calories today, I just don't want to gain weight. My metabolism is all messed up so it's really easy for me to put on the pounds.

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