Catty Coworkers

ironmom77
ironmom77 Posts: 45
edited December 19 in Motivation and Support
Struggling with friends/coworkers. I am so sick of them commenting on what I eat, my workouts and saying little snide comments like "you're getting TOO skinny." Too skinny?? I am at a HEALTHY weight!! I am so tired of them. Now they have begun to actively exclude me from activities. I think that they think this is supposed to hurt my feelings, but it just pisses me off. I feel like we are back in high school and they are the "clique" and I am the "workout nerd." Come on people, grow up!! If you don't like something about yourself, then change it! Don't get all pissy with me because I have decided to change my lifestyle and don't want to go chasing the cupcake truck all over downtown Birmingham.

I am sorry if my success makes you feel bad about yourself, but instead of being a hater, why not ask me what I am doing? Why not join me for a workout or a run? Why not take this as an opportunity to better yourself instead of trying to tear me down? I would be more than happy to help anyone, especially if it means they are getting healthier too.

I am not on this journey out of vanity. I want to get HEALTHY. Since I have lost 25 lbs, I am no longer on Blood Pressure medicine, my skin has cleared up, and I am full of energy. I am more confident, and my husband has been looking at me the way he used to before I had kids.

Is anyone else struggling with this?

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  • SweetDorothySweat
    SweetDorothySweat Posts: 114 Member
    Yes, I know how you feel. My family ALL started making rude comments about how I was too thin when I had lost my pregnancy weight (which started when I weighed 135, which was not near my goal weight (115)). It has continued since I have lost more weight, but I have talked to them about how rude it was and told them that I am healthier, and stronger than all of them, and asked them to lay off because I was offended, which worked wonders. They all respect me more now and do not comment negatively on my weight or my passion for health. You should be honest with your coworkers. Next time one makes a comment on your weight, tell them it is offensive, and maybe offer a helping hand for if they would like to get in shape (maybe not if they are the type to get easily offended). Good luck and be strong. Don't let the jealous haters bring you down.
  • Grimmerick
    Grimmerick Posts: 3,342 Member
    Looks like you lost more bad stuff than just the weight, and that's a good thing. You don't need negative people dragging you down. Let them fall off like the weight. Sorry it took you losing weight for them to show their true colors. Surround yourself with active, supportive positive people instead :)
  • iWaffle
    iWaffle Posts: 2,208 Member
    I am more confident, and my husband has been looking at me the way he used to before I had kids.

    Is anyone else struggling with this?

    Yeah, you're husband won't quit looking at me either. I keep telling him to stop.

    Seriously, don't let it get to you. Let them hold on to their hate. In the end all they'll have to show for their hate is a lot of empty cupcake wrappers and extra rolls. You'll be the one that can grab anything out of the closet without worrying about if you can get it buttoned or not. It's pretty common for people to be jealous about what they can't have and their comments are just ways to mask this jealousy. They wish they were you and your example is keeping them from justifying those whip cream covered Frappichinos that they gulp down every day.

    Every inch you lose is a slap in their face. Don't expect them to not be bitter about it. They don't really hate you. They're mad at themselves but you're just a nearby target for them to lash out at. They're not your real friends. You don't want to do stuff with fake people anyway so just be nice to them at work and let them do what they will on their own time.

    Hopefully one of them might take the opportunity to change and join you but don't hold your breath. I have friends that have made comments about my lost weight but they won't do a darn thing different in their own life for the most part. They'll talk about trying to cut back but then they all go out to fast food joints for lunch nearly every day. Makes me the outsider at work some times but I'm not supporting their unhealthy lifestyle.
  • Namaste1983
    Namaste1983 Posts: 603 Member
    WHEN I SWITCHED TO GLUTEN FREE PEOPLE STOPPED ASKING ME OUT TO LUNCH. IT'S FINE BECAUSE I BRING MY OWN LUNCH. THE ONLY TIME I EVER HAD AN ISSUE WAS WHEN MY WORK HAD A GOING AWAY PARTY FOR ME BEFORE I LEFT FOR MY UPPER BODY LIFT AND MY BOSS ORDERED 5 LARGE PIZZAS. FAIL. HE ASKED ME "YOU CAN EAT PIZZA RIGHT?" AND I SAID "NO, I CAN'T HAVE FLOUR OR WHEAT" AND HE SAID "OK, WE'LL GET SOMETHING ELSE" AND THEN HE ORDERED 5 PIZZAS SO I SAT WATCHING EVERONE EAT PIZZA AND I JUST WAITED TO GO GET A SALAD AT THE SALAD BAR IN THE CAFETERIA. YOUR DIET IS YOURS ALONE AND PEOPLE WON'T PAY ATTENTION OR ADJUST FOR IT SO I DON'T EXPECT THEM TOO. I ALWAYS CARRY A SNACK AND DON'T GET OFFENDED ANYMORE WHEN PEOPLE GO OUT TO LUNCH AND ASK EVERYONE BUT ME IF THEY WANT SOMETHING.
  • juliaamilee
    juliaamilee Posts: 262 Member
    have lots of junk food junkies here, with lots of snacks. I do well for the most part and can limit what i eat. Someone all the time is bringing or eating something. I think I do well. Of course I hear how skinny your getting blah blah. I hate to hear it all the time. It makes me feel like I have to mind my p's and q's. Of course everyone giving me their 2 cents worth, when I want to say. I have lost 50 and you have gained what??? I think my plan is working way better!
  • KaseyC0711
    KaseyC0711 Posts: 18
    Use your success as a tool for guidance and positive energy.... People, well women specifically, will be negative, degrading, dis-respectful, etc. only because they're jealous of the lifestyle changes you've made. Keep challenging yourself to be the better person, although it can sometimes be difficult when faced with negative energy. Fill your life with those who will rejoice with you when you achieve your goals, and close the doors for those who react with negativity. Life is too short to worry about what others think of you.... Most of the time, its because they wish they were you. It's a beautiful thing to be able to stop taking prescription medication for health issues!!! That means youre making active, healthy steps towards a better future.... Not only for yourself, but for those who love you!!! Keep your head up girl!!! And dont let anyone get you off track!
  • barbaradilisio
    barbaradilisio Posts: 39
    I can somewhat relate to this. I used to work in a place with some catty women. The backstabbing and rude comments really annoyed me. They are likely just insecure and jealous of you. Try not to let it bother you. Life's too short!
  • ironmom77
    ironmom77 Posts: 45
    Thanks everyone for all the positive feedback. You are all reinforcing what I had been thinking, and what I have told several of my friends. Sometimes the pettiness annoys me SOOOO MUCH!!
  • ironmom77
    ironmom77 Posts: 45
    Yeah, you're husband won't quit looking at me either. I keep telling him to stop.



    This had me literally howling with laughter!
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