Ok..getting the creep out at my gym thinking about switching

Ignore it.

Bring your fiance to the gym with you, at least a couple of times.

Not a bad idea! It might be a task getting him to come up there because this gym is all about using "GOD" to make it look good, and to us it is a joke, God is everywhere and as well he certainly should be but you can't walk into this gym without the "word" whatever that word is to them getting crammed down your throat and it is very very threatening and even the commercials are bible verses and shows them all sitting on the couch in front of the gym praying and laying hands on people and I am like whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat? I think it has gotten too much like a cult or something for me and too full of hypocrits like saddom and gamorra idk if I spelled that right but, you will see people there working out and praising the Lord and that very weekend see the same people out messing around on their spouses at the local night club?!?!?!? dont get it, anywho now that I have sat and had a revelation of sorts with all of this maybe it is time for me to either switch or just get an elliptical and a few varying hand weights and stability ball here at the house thats really all I need anyway!

I wouldn't be upset about the way the place is run. People if they are Christians or not still make the mistakes of doing stupid things. Sometimes they have just not learned yet what it is like to confess your sins and become a better Christian. Laying on of hands is a powerful movement and not a cult. I don't want to shove Christianity down your throat by any means but it is not a cult. It is a form of worship and prayer. I hope you can see that Christianity is not the way these people portray it and you can give it a shot outside of what your instinctive feelings are.

If the trainers are making you uncomfortable, speak to management. Chances are they are making other women uncomfortable with their gawking as well.

I agree with the previous 2 posts about talking to the mngmt. If they were just members then I don't think there is much to do but ignore it. However, as employees they should be not be so inappropriate. I am sure the mngmt, especially if it is a Christian gym, would not appreciate that kind of behavior from their employees. Not to dis you but I'm sure you are not the only one that they are staring at.

That's a major reason why I stopped going to the gym, unfortunately. I was tired of being googled and hit on by creepy old men. I'm there to workout and better my health, I'm not there to socialize because that's what bars are for. Maybe you should try finding an all-womens gym so there are no distractions AND I highly suggest telling management at that gym about these weirdos because it's not cool.

I'd personally probably go right up to them and ask them why they were staring. Is it possible they're just dazing off in your direction? Maybe because you're paying so much attention to them watching them stare at you, they think you're the creepy one staring at them. When you walk in they think "Man, there's that creepy girl who constantly stares at us while she works out... what's up with her? Why's she staring at us?"

Edit: Also, maybe see if there are women-only gyms in your area. Although that may not completely prevent staring, maybe you'll be less uncomfortable if you're being stared at by women?

I say complain to the management! Let the people who will lose your fees fix it for you. Ignore the gauking and complain every time it happens!

Another thought I had is when I'm in a certain mood and feeling a bit insecure I might look up and see someone staring at me, or so it seems. I think to myself hm, weird, then I realize I had looked up to the clock beyond them on the other side of the room, so at the same time they may be thinking the very same thing, that I was staring at them.

Our situations sounds a bit different but I know when I'm feeling not myself I can get parinoid. I find at times I am wokring out I stare out into space and I suppose it could seem like I'm looking at someone then too.

Someone mentioned your clothes, what you wear should have nothing to do with you feeling comfortable working out, it's not a bar it's a workout facility. LIke the young girl that was told her clothes were what got her raped some years back, no matter what a woman wears she should not be accused of anything being her fault.

So please be careful of blaming yourself. There are many people in this world that use the word 'Christian' and it means something completely different to them than to another... some hide behind it and act out.

Sally