weight loss didn't change everything :(

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  • myfitnessnmhoy
    myfitnessnmhoy Posts: 2,105 Member
    If, like me, you're the type of person who will always find something wrong with yourself, the weight will merely become one less thing to find wrong.

    I'm using my weight loss as a catalyst to do some things that have been on my bucket list for years, but I've never felt able to accomplish them. This spring, I hiked up to a cabin ten miles from the nearest road and climbed a mountain in deep snow. In a month, I'm doing a 180-mile 3-day charity bike ride. This summer, I'm going to start training seriously to hike the 100 Mile Wilderness section of the Appalachian Trail - I currently work with a crew twice a year that maintains 18 miles of it, and I'm hoping to hike all of it next year if I can work it into my schedule.

    But I think I'll always be the fat kid that got beat up for being fat. It'll probably be part of my body image forever, but it's also part of my inspiration to finally do better after all these wasted years.

    Running away from that fat kid burns calories. It's working for me for now. We'll see what happens when I reach my goal weight, but I don't think I'll ever see myself as skinny or even healthy. But I will be able to do all the things that skinny and healthy people do.
  • TheTallMan
    TheTallMan Posts: 23 Member
    We are our harshest critics. It may take a while for you to accept that you look good (and trust me, you do look great). What's important is to not let it get to your head too much, just stay healthy, continue to eat right and keep on exercising, eventually you'll see yourself in the same light as others see you.
  • jsapninz
    jsapninz Posts: 909 Member
    It does take awhile for your brain to "catch up" with you....however, it sounds like you may have deeper issues. Perhaps you should see a psychologist to work through these. :flowerforyou:

    Either way, good job and stay strong!
  • jessicawrites
    jessicawrites Posts: 235 Member
    Would it help to have some form of event to mark your success? Maybe taking on a physical challenge that you couldn't do/were scared to do before? Running a 5K or 10K, climbing a mountain, signing up for surfing lessons...there might be something that represents "progress" or "freedom" or "strength" or whatever resonated with you as you pushed yourself to lose the weight in the first place. Then it might be easier to start envisioning a new identity based on this proof of what you can now do.
  • ccpowers
    ccpowers Posts: 203 Member
    It is self image. I have a bit of the opposite problem which doesn't help with my loss. I think I look pretty great most times. Then however when I see pictures I realize that what I see and what others see may not be the same. But I am working on accepting that I need to work much harder.
  • jnmuniz5
    jnmuniz5 Posts: 1
    I feel exactly the same way. I have always struggled with weight, and after having children, the number on the scale continued to rise. So here I am, a year into my lifestyle change, 60 lbs less, but I still look in the mirror and see "fat me" Enough about me... my goal was to tell you... yes others feel the same way...
    You should be so proud of what you have accomplished, and instead of trying to fill in the blanks with some magical word that you have been waiting to fill in, fill it in with the small stuff... I have lost a "butt load" of weight, I have changed the way I see food... I feel great now that I am more active... dont sell yourself short, you have accomplished something that many people wish they could. I live in Edinburg, Texas... we ranked #1 in individuals with a BMI over 30... and let me tell you, some of these people, even with tools as cool as MFP, they would not have the drive or will power to make that change. So congratulate yourself... you have already won!
    P.S. you look fantastic!!! <3
  • LoneyBfit
    LoneyBfit Posts: 10
    Yes I think we all feel that way at times. But the 1 thing that is motivating me is the way that I feel when I get finished exercising I have more energy and I am actually nicer....it takes away the stress. That is the enemy (Devil) trying to steal your joy. But when you start to feel like that just start being grateful for all that you have accomplished with setting a goal and reaching it. I pray that I can even do half of what you have achieved. Keep up the Good Work!!!

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