HELP !!!!!!!!!!

caz1507
caz1507 Posts: 29 Member
Hi I'm fairly new to this, I started about a week
ago and need some little
Tips , I have started eating healthier and walk
for about 1:30h a day I am
Currently at 223lb and want to get down to
150lb, I am 5'8ft and have
Alway been self conscious. Even on scorching
hot days I refuse to take my
Jacket off because I am so ashamed of my body
P.s do friends on here help with motivation ?
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  • tstead0123
    tstead0123 Posts: 15 Member
    hi add me if you want, i have been on here about a 6 days now, so far with encouragement from others i am starting to lose a couple ofpounds, i think. The more friends you have on here the better as it helps :) good luck and welcome :smile:
  • 1DeterminedGal
    1DeterminedGal Posts: 20 Member
    You can add me as well. I'm a good "encourager" and never nag or smack you around. LOL

    I've only been here about a month.
  • TamAD48
    TamAD48 Posts: 387
    I"ve been on this site for a few days now and have found that everyone has provided a lot of great support and motivation. I'm seeing results and also feeling a lot better about myself. Feel free to add me as a friend to provide support and encouragement. Together we can all do this!
  • Your journey sounds a lot like mine! I am 5"8 too and want to get to 150. Feel free to add me and we can keep eachother accountable and motivated!
    Cathlene :)
  • caz1507
    caz1507 Posts: 29 Member
    Thanx for the advice on how friends help on this
    I think this is the start of a wonderfull beginning
  • leslierae1804
    leslierae1804 Posts: 16 Member
    You can add me! I'm always looking for more friends to help motivate along their weight loss journey. I've been on here for a while now and the more friends you have to help you out, the better!
  • Venturin
    Venturin Posts: 244 Member
    Welcome Caz..

    I was also very self conscious when I started trying to lose weight, but I went down to the local park to walk anyway.

    Yes there were sooo many thin, athletic people running and biking and wearing tight outfits, I was embarrassed.

    But then I saw another big guy, moving slower than the rest, trying to work off the pounds. Then a couple of big girls, chattering away as they walked. I saw lots of overweight people in fact, all with this look of determination on their faces.

    I started to offer encouragement to the ones I passed who were sweating, who looked like they were trying very hard, "keep it up!" Being outdoors among the trees really helped give me positive energy, and with my iPod playing music I liked, who cared what anyone else thought? When I was in my zone of achieving step after step, I barely noticed anyone else.

    Everyone out there, exercising on the trails are there to have fun and get healthy. Push past the negative feelings, get out and join in! All great journeys begin with the first step. Go out and take the steps with us!
  • goblynn
    goblynn Posts: 148 Member
    TAKE YOUR JACKET OFF WOMAN!!! (lol)

    Take your first step towards self-confidence by acknowledging where you currently stand and accepting the work it will take to be where you want to be. :)

    Take your jacket off and hold your chin up high. You can do this. Always remember that every person in the room is too worried about what they look like to worry about anyone else. :)

    If you are making wiser (healthier) food choices and walking daily you will start to see the lbs melt away. :)
  • Prilla04
    Prilla04 Posts: 174 Member
    Hi Caz. I think I have been in a similar place as you, as far as being self-conscious, at a point in my life. Then I hit a phase in my life where that all disappeared to a great degree. I finally realized 'Why would I want to go through MY life believing I was ANYTHING but gorgeous and wonderful?" Really. Think about it. Why would you do that to yourself? You have the right to be your biggest fan. Everyone possesses beauty - it's not just reserved for models or whomever society deems as attractive or deserving. So get out there and OWN your space in the world and the all beauty you possess. You deserve it, girl!!
  • MonicaT1972
    MonicaT1972 Posts: 512
    Yes, many of us here share and motivate freely. Please feel free to add me, ask me questions anytime etc!!!
  • jennb78
    jennb78 Posts: 13
    I have been on for 6 days and wasn't sure how about the friends thing and message boards. I was just going to log my food and be done. Then I started reading messages and found a lot of information and a lot of people in the same boat as I am.
    I definately think that having friends on MFP is very helpful and motivating!!!! I do not have a support system outside of my MFP friends so I love it.
  • nay33
    nay33 Posts: 31 Member
    Hi Caz, I am Naomi and I have been using this site for almost a year. I am 5"5" and wanting to get to 150 also. I have gotten a lot of encouragement from so many nice people on here. I love this site because no one is negative and everyone is so supportive. I mean after all we are after the same thing to lose the unwanted weight so we can look and feel better. Feel free to add me for a friend if you like, the more friends you have the better the encouragements. :)
  • whayamean
    whayamean Posts: 50 Member
    Feel free to add me. I am 5'8" Used to be 346 down to around 200. I'd also LOVE to see around 150 one day.
  • feel free to friend me as well...just joined a couple days ago, but this seems to be a great spot for encouragement and inspiration on those days that are a little more challenging...(I've been logging on my own since January, but like the tracking here better...)

    We're all here for similar reasons, and need the same help and support! : )
  • tweetybaby69
    tweetybaby69 Posts: 258 Member
    Hi caz, I have been on here since March and I have met a lot of people that are truly motivating whether I run up the stairs for one minute or walk for 5 hours on the beach. Feel free to add me, we are all on this journey together.
    :flowerforyou:
  • twinsmom03
    twinsmom03 Posts: 90 Member
    Yes we are here to help and motivate!!! add me if you want
  • Cyngen
    Cyngen Posts: 557 Member
    Hi and welcome to the gang here. yes, friends here really do help with motivation. Don't be ashamed of you, you know what you want for yourself... It's all good. Feel free to add me as a friend. I'm on often during the day and try to help as I can. I have a big job ahead of myself as well....
  • kdramaduck
    kdramaduck Posts: 3
    Me! I'm new too, but I would love to encourage you on your journey. I know it's hard not to be self conscious, but it's not worth the heat exhaustion. You can do it!
  • marycmeadows
    marycmeadows Posts: 1,691 Member
    feel free to add me. I made my lifestyle change on 1/1/11 -- I have gone from someone who wouldn't set foot in a gym to being a gym rat. I've lost 111.4lbs. I started at 303.4 and I am now at 192. :) (I'm 30y/o, 5'6'')
  • GhettoMissAfro
    GhettoMissAfro Posts: 8 Member
    Hello, nope I didn't have that problem I was 300 pounds when I started, I didn't care what anyone thought of me because I knew what I was out there for, I love to walk, I have 4 tatts on my ams My kids name and a butterfly i said all of that to say I loved me then and I love me NOW, so be proud of who u are, if someone has a problem with how u look that's what they have necks for so they can turn them. add me if u want I love to chat
  • kristen6022
    kristen6022 Posts: 1,923 Member
    Just a few tips:

    Slow and steady always wins the race. It's great to have a goal, but please don't expect to reach that goal tomorrow. I think lots of people give up because it gets hard. It is hard, it's the hardest thing you'll ever do. But it's so rewarding!

    Log everything that goes in your mouth and don't lie to yourself. You are going to have days that you want a cookie, donut, cake, chips, etc. Eat them. Just eat a serving and stop. And log it. And if you eat it, don't even something else. It's like life, full of choices. No choices are bad, you just have to learn from them and move on.

    Keep up the workouts, but don't get obessed about it. You still need to LIVE through this journey. If it's between going out with friends or working out, go out with your friends, just don't eat/drink everything in sight. You have to learn to live like this for the rest of your life. It's not a diet, it's a new lifestyle.

    If you fall of the wagon (and trust me if you are human, you will), get back on THAT day. Don't wait until tomorrow, don't wait until Monday. Figure out what you did and don't do it again.

    Really take a hard look at your diet before you even start. If you have a tendancy to be a convienence eater, stop it. If you tend to be a couch eater, stop it. If you eat when you are happy/sad/depressed/etc and not when you are hungry, stop it. Etc and so forth. If you can cut things out (go cold turkey) without it making you miserable, give it up. But learn that you won't be able to cut it all out, keep one thing that makes you happy. And never feel bad about it.

    Ok, enough words of wisdom. Go out there and get them. And congrats for making that first step!
  • Alpine005
    Alpine005 Posts: 87 Member
    Good friends are always a help.

    A couple of tips from me (110 days in, 50 pounds lost)

    - Log everything! If you have a bad day, it happens, but log everything! Drink lots of water!
    - If you do have a bad day, it's not the end of the world, just get right back at it and did I mention, LOG EVERYTHING!
    - Find some good friends on here and make your food diary public.
    - Tell everyone you know about your lifestyle change, that feeling of accountability makes it harder to get off track.
    - Browse the success stories; there are some amazing stories that are pure motivation. These forums are a great way to stay in the right frame of mine. 99% of the posters are really good, supportive people. Many of them are extremely knowledgeable too. I have learned a ton on here!
    - Don't set any unrealistic goals or timelines. Stay under your calorie goal each day and you will lose weight, plain and simple. Sometimes it will happen faster than others, but you will lose weight! Don't get caught up in the day to day drama. Set it and forget it!
    - Enjoy it, losing weight is an amazing thing, in many ways you experience a type of freedom you didn't have before.

    Good Luck!
  • Sinisi2012
    Sinisi2012 Posts: 333 Member
    Welcome Caz! I have been on here for about a month and have found this site to be so helpful. Everyone has been nice and offer encouragement and support. There is lots of helpful info in the boards from recipes to exercise and sucess stories. I have lost 7lbs and have another 50 to go. You are not alone :)
  • shbretired
    shbretired Posts: 320 Member
    You're already doing good with your walking!

    I hope you drink lots of water, wear good shoes, and stretch those achilles tendons.

    I lost alot by working up to 5 miles per day, you can too!!

    Now just adjusting how you eat, you'll be fit & sexy in no time. ☺
  • historygirldd
    historygirldd Posts: 209 Member
    Reading the message boards also helps with tips and motivation. Just being here has helped me a lot. I have attempted to diet so many times and quit within three months. Although I am losing slowly (my choice as I want to truly make life changes, not a diet for awhile), I have worked at it much longer this time. I have been on here since January (yes a resolution). It helps just being here and knowing others are going through exactly the same things I am. Good Luck on your journey to weight loss and healthy living.
  • s0ready
    s0ready Posts: 99
    if someone has a problem with how u look that's what they have necks for so they can turn them

    I LOVE THIS!!!!!!
  • aprilgrl27
    aprilgrl27 Posts: 176 Member
    Welcome! The more friends the better :) Encourage them and they encourage you :):wink:
  • mkutkowski
    mkutkowski Posts: 10
    Howdy! I've been here for a couple of days, but in my short time here, I can honestly say that the friends you make on here are very supportive. I'm very close to being in the same boat as you (same height, weight, and weight loss goal) and I too am new to the diet and exercise scene. Feel free to add me as a friend, and best of luck on your journey! :)

    Melissa
  • stackhead
    stackhead Posts: 121 Member
    Just a few tips:

    Slow and steady always wins the race. It's great to have a goal, but please don't expect to reach that goal tomorrow. I think lots of people give up because it gets hard. It is hard, it's the hardest thing you'll ever do. But it's so rewarding!

    Log everything that goes in your mouth and don't lie to yourself. You are going to have days that you want a cookie, donut, cake, chips, etc. Eat them. Just eat a serving and stop. And log it. And if you eat it, don't even something else. It's like life, full of choices. No choices are bad, you just have to learn from them and move on.

    Keep up the workouts, but don't get obessed about it. You still need to LIVE through this journey. If it's between going out with friends or working out, go out with your friends, just don't eat/drink everything in sight. You have to learn to live like this for the rest of your life. It's not a diet, it's a new lifestyle.

    If you fall of the wagon (and trust me if you are human, you will), get back on THAT day. Don't wait until tomorrow, don't wait until Monday. Figure out what you did and don't do it again.

    Really take a hard look at your diet before you even start. If you have a tendancy to be a convienence eater, stop it. If you tend to be a couch eater, stop it. If you eat when you are happy/sad/depressed/etc and not when you are hungry, stop it. Etc and so forth. If you can cut things out (go cold turkey) without it making you miserable, give it up. But learn that you won't be able to cut it all out, keep one thing that makes you happy. And never feel bad about it.

    Ok, enough words of wisdom. Go out there and get them. And congrats for making that first step!

    ^^
    This = awesome post :)
  • ralh
    ralh Posts: 14
    Hi,

    I have been using this site for a few days and have found a lot of support and encouragement from people on here and the food database is really good.

    Add me if you like, I will be on here at some point a few times a day.

    Rebecca x