FAIRYTALES and Happily Ever Afters

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  • zaithyr
    zaithyr Posts: 482 Member
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    Happy marriages exist. Fairytales? Maybe if you are talking about the original Grimm fairytales which usually had depressing endings lol! I am happily married. We've hit our roadbumps and there's been days I wanted to ring his neck but at the end of the day I wouldn't have anyone else!
  • ILoveJesus72
    ILoveJesus72 Posts: 181 Member
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    I believe that my life is perfect. Is it a fairytale like in the movies? No way! LOL

    I have been married 20 yrs. Raised to grown sons - one graduating this month and the other joined the Air Force and is getting married in July.

    20 years of marriage is HARD WORK! Finding my hubby was the best thing that ever happened to me. See, the problem with fairytales and the hollywood version of love is that it's not realistic. That's why marriage's don't last anymore. Once the doe eyed lens of the honeymoon season wears off and reality sets in, people don't want to work. If it ain't easy then get rid of it.

    You will find perfection in your life! Hang in there. Your perfection has to fit YOU and your spouse. Don't look @ others or movies or novels to get a reality check of love. Love is a fleeting emotion anyway. Dedication, commitment and vows are what is real about love.

    Anyway, I hope this helped some. God bless you and keep your head up! :)
  • ILoveJesus72
    ILoveJesus72 Posts: 181 Member
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    Do they exist? Like the real, true, undying love you read in fairytales and see in movies like "the notebook" or "the vow"? im starting to think its just a set up to get young girls all whimsical and hopeful only to have them grow up and be utterly disappointed!! :sad:

    don't base your expectations for life on movies.
    girls watch The Notebook and guys watch porn and both end up disappointed with reality.

    LOL oh my goodness! I nearly spit my coffe on the screen. This is so funny!

    Then something is wrong.. b/c it can be reality just gotta be more creative and try :D

    My nakey-time is nothing like porn... because I'm not faking. :happy:

    LOL oh my goodness! LOL this made me nearly spit my coffee on the screen. I love this!
  • jg627
    jg627 Posts: 1,221 Member
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    As soon as prince charming eats a big plate of beans, the fairy tale will be all over.
  • litatura
    litatura Posts: 569 Member
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    Maybe I'm just lazy, but I don't want marriage to be hard work. I have enough things in my life that I have to work hard at. :tongue:
  • ILoveJesus72
    ILoveJesus72 Posts: 181 Member
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    As soon as prince charming eats a big plate of beans, the fairy tale will be all over.

    Oh you are not kidding!! I live with 3 men in my house - hubby and sons. Not counting our male dog!! I'm well acquainted with the "bean eating" phenomenon of the male species.

    YIKES!
  • runnercheryl
    runnercheryl Posts: 1,314 Member
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    Maybe I'm just lazy, but I don't want marriage to be hard work. I have enough things in my life that I have to work hard at. :tongue:

    I don't think anyone WANTS it to be hard work. :tongue:
  • zaithyr
    zaithyr Posts: 482 Member
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    Do they exist? Like the real, true, undying love you read in fairytales and see in movies like "the notebook" or "the vow"? im starting to think its just a set up to get young girls all whimsical and hopeful only to have them grow up and be utterly disappointed!! :sad:

    BTW The Vow is actually a true story
  • ILoveJesus72
    ILoveJesus72 Posts: 181 Member
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    Maybe I'm just lazy, but I don't want marriage to be hard work. I have enough things in my life that I have to work hard at. :tongue:

    :) Well it's the "good" type of hard work. Makes the marriage stronger. I've found that if it's too easy it usually doesn't have much strength. It's the hard times that make us who we are. If life is too easy you never know what you can face and conquer.
  • harpercutie
    harpercutie Posts: 118 Member
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    from what ive observed, no. but i have an idea as to how to make it appear like you can have a fairytale:

    my idea is that you have no expectations( im not saying settle for a random guy) but dont expect anything magical out of anything. that way if something magical does happen, you will be enthusiastic opposed to you waiting for something magical to happen then being disappointed when it doesnt.

    for example, if you have low expectations for a movie then you see the movie it usually isnt as bad as you thought. but if you go into a movie with higggh expectations then the movie isnt as enjoyable as it could have been due to your high expectations. does that make sense?

    i haven't yet tested this idea of mine but i will let you know how it works out.
  • bushidowoman
    bushidowoman Posts: 1,599 Member
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    Yes. :)
  • Starklover
    Starklover Posts: 57
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    I guess I dont believe in the fairytale idea... granted it would be nice, but from what I have observed most of the princesses/damsels-in-distress are mindless. They just let whatever prince come by and rescue them...

    Maybe not the healthiest but I like a good fight... I like being able to take charge, and also the ability to take orders... I love my relationship... even when I want to smack him upside the head :)
  • catherine4211
    catherine4211 Posts: 944 Member
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    I was told in another thread by a know-it-all that I am delusional and life is not like the movies. I will stay delusional for a little while longer and see what happens.
  • walker001
    walker001 Posts: 116 Member
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    YES, YES !!! My hubby and I just celebrated our 40th Wedding Anniversary. Everyday is not perfect but neither is life. I still LIKE him as well as LOVE him dearly.

    We are not both retired now and we so most everything together.

    You have to give and take and don't sweat the small things. You can't always have things your way.

    It takes a lot of work, to make it work. But to have a life long partner is so wonderful and rewarding.
  • manasunshine
    manasunshine Posts: 130
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    dont know but i certainly hope so :happy: :love: :laugh:
  • CoryIda
    CoryIda Posts: 7,887 Member
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    I have known some elderly couples whose love stories are truly amazing; however, they all had struggles and challenges to overcome.

    The fact of the matter is, life is not perfect - there will be trials, there will be disagreements.

    Personally, I am more impressed by the people who manage to overcome great obstacles and strengthen their relationships through those trials than I am by people who don't have to face major trouble.
  • ILoveJesus72
    ILoveJesus72 Posts: 181 Member
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    I was told in another thread by a know-it-all that I am delusional and life is not like the movies. I will stay delusional for a little while longer and see what happens.

    :( Sorry they said that, it's pretty rude.

    Although I don't believe romance/love is like the movies I think it can still be amazing, romantic and loving. Nothing wrong with being "delusional" :)
  • bitty1taz
    bitty1taz Posts: 309 Member
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    Right now I think true love and happy ever after is a bunch of horse sh*%. But, then again, I'm currently going through a breakup after almost 6 years so my oppinion may not be the best.
    I hope that for you there is.
  • aftergypsies
    aftergypsies Posts: 248 Member
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    Fairytales, idk. Happily ever after? Yes! My bf and I had a rough start. We lived 2000 miles apart, were young. We had no idea if we'd ever be together in the same place. Now we've been living together for 7 years and couldn't be happier. We had a lot of drama though and issues to work on. It was HARD. If you want something bad enough you work on it. If it is worth it. He definitely is and he obviously thinks I am as well.
  • ILoveJesus72
    ILoveJesus72 Posts: 181 Member
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    YES, YES !!! My hubby and I just celebrated our 40th Wedding Anniversary. Everyday is not perfect but neither is life. I still LIKE him as well as LOVE him dearly.

    We are not both retired now and we so most everything together.

    You have to give and take and don't sweat the small things. You can't always have things your way.

    It takes a lot of work, to make it work. But to have a life long partner is so wonderful and rewarding.

    Love this!! 40 years is amazing!! Congratulations on your marriage and I definatley agree that having a life long partner is wonderful and rewarding.

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