Anyone ever feel invisible when going out?

ONE03
ONE03 Posts: 125 Member
Like no one notices you? I guess it's better than negative attention.
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  • victoria4321
    victoria4321 Posts: 1,719 Member
    Its probably in your head. How exactly do you want to be noticed though?
  • Gr8ChangesAhead
    Gr8ChangesAhead Posts: 836 Member
    I am to obnoxious to be ignored...
  • interceptor311
    interceptor311 Posts: 980 Member
    Thats me.. I'm told I look unapproachable...
  • gabbingfilly
    gabbingfilly Posts: 106 Member
    Thats me.. I'm told I look unapproachable...


    If I wasn't a happily married lady and I saw you in public, I would say "Heyyyyyyyyyyy" :smile:
  • 7bel0
    7bel0 Posts: 192 Member
    Thats me.. I'm told I look unapproachable...

    I would absolutely approach you. Just saying..
  • comogirl
    comogirl Posts: 154 Member
    I don't feel invisible I feel the opposite. I feel judgemental glances all the time. I never understood why anyone cared what I look like/ about my weight. If I am ok with it why do others care and judge. Part of the reason I am on this weight loss journey, I want to be healthier and I want to stop the negative attention and judgement from others. I was always ok with being heavy. I'm sure I will like being thinner too.
  • kelley_lynn
    kelley_lynn Posts: 133 Member
    always, and then there are times... when i am glad i am invis :)
  • I would say so be checking you out. Or maybe even try to get pulled over by you. lol
  • Sarah_Wins
    Sarah_Wins Posts: 936 Member
    Thats me.. I'm told I look unapproachable...


    Based on your profile pic, I get that

    But I love cops :flowerforyou:
  • allisonrozsa
    allisonrozsa Posts: 178 Member
    I had an "invisible" moment a few months back, but I loved every second of it. ha ha ha! was out to lunch with a friend, and the guy who was at our table previously came back looking for something. He saw my friend and was COMPLETELY fixated on her, didn't even notice me when I tried to answer his question. I wish I had followed him and given out my friends phone number, it was SO funny!
  • spearfox
    spearfox Posts: 276 Member
    Thats me.. I'm told I look unapproachable...
    I know what you mean.
    Body and facial language.
    You being a cop probably know how to project it and read it.
  • shaynak112
    shaynak112 Posts: 751 Member
    I wish I was invisible when I went out. :p
  • interceptor311
    interceptor311 Posts: 980 Member
    Thats me.. I'm told I look unapproachable...

    I would absolutely approach you. Just saying..

    Where have you all been??? lol
  • interceptor311
    interceptor311 Posts: 980 Member
    Ya, I hear I don't smile enough! :grumble:
  • Briski1411
    Briski1411 Posts: 296 Member
    Most of the time I try not to be noticed. I kind of don't mind because I just do my thing and don't care for anyone to notice me and possibly intervene. Other times I LOVE the attention, but I rarely get it. I very rarely ever notice a women checkin me out, like once every 6 months to a year. However my wife tells me on occasion women are checking me out.

    To be honest I notice more guys checking me out when I were tank tops/muscle shirts than I do women, I hope that doesn't make me gay :0( !!!
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    There are definite times when I feel invisible - not so much by myself, but when I'm out with friends. They're pretty and sociable, and I'm kinda average and a little shy around new people. I love my friends and it's not anything they do on purpose, but it just happens sometimes. My advice is to find your own thing apart from others, so you can stand out on your own. For me, that is doing my own thing by myself at the gym or in class and work. Just being by yourself makes you feel different than in a group. Also, keep working on your health and as you lose weight you will begin to feel a little more alive and willing to take chances.
  • hapoo100
    hapoo100 Posts: 926 Member
    I definitely was invisible for a very long time. I tend to get noticed more often now that I lost the weight. Its kinda nice some times, I just dont really know how to deal with it yet.
  • RTricia
    RTricia Posts: 720
    yes.
  • scott1080
    scott1080 Posts: 109 Member
    i dont even have to go out to feel invisable
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
    Confidence, being dressed well, and a positive demeanor go A LONG way when it comes to people noticing you.
  • chelll224
    chelll224 Posts: 52 Member
    Totally invisible. People even bump into me all the time. I was walking to lunch last week and a guy on the sidewalk almost mowed me down, he was too busy checking out 2 girls on the other side of the street to notice I was right in front of him. It's very depressing sometimes.
  • i was so invisible...

    I went out to a club and was sitting down by myself while my friends were on the dance floor, a guy came over and sat on me. Didn't see me there as the couch was black and I was wearing black.

    watch out!!! NINJA COUCH!!!! lmao
  • sisierra
    sisierra Posts: 659 Member
    Fer sure! And while I'm pretty confident (or can put on a pretty good act), it does wear at my ego/esteem a bit =/
  • Rach911
    Rach911 Posts: 72 Member
    Thats me.. I'm told I look unapproachable...

    I too would totally approach you...smile or not...still cute :tongue:
  • Yes. Even when I try to look good and smile its like people look past me.
  • dg09
    dg09 Posts: 754
    I'd love to feel invisible. I feel like everyone is always staring and judging, and I hate it.
  • RikanSoulja
    RikanSoulja Posts: 463 Member
    No not ever really a problem for me.
  • paeli
    paeli Posts: 295 Member
    I've always felt sort of invisible, but I find I get noticed much more often now that I've lost some of the weight. I still don't know how to react, so I try to smile and make eye contact with people. It's hard as I live in a big city where it's taboo to make much eye contact, everyone wants to avoid each other, lol.
  • rrrainiii
    rrrainiii Posts: 31 Member
    I've always felt like the "fat friend." My friends get all the attention no matter how well dressed I am or how confident I try to be. It's probably just an insecurity thing. *shrugs*
  • Skinny_Jeans_Soon
    Skinny_Jeans_Soon Posts: 326 Member
    Yep, all the time! If someone does look my way, I always look behind me because I know they aren't looking at me. I like being invisible because I really enjoy people watching. I love crazy drunk people, they make me giggle!