Ladies I need some advice!!!! PLEASE

First of all, you have to get to a place where you find yourself attractive - if you are not confident in your own beauty, it is conveyed in the way that you carry yourself, and can attract the WRONG kind of men. Men LOVE confident women - big, small, tall, short, it doesn't matter!! If you are confident, it is attractive (now this doesn't mean that any man would go out with a confident big woman, but you get the idea). Go to the mirror right now (I'm serious) and pick out five things that you LOVE about the way you look!!!! Could be your waist, your booty, your eyes, your hair, your lips, your hands, your feet, or anything else!!!!!!

Secondly - if YOU are not ready for marriage and kids, then YOU ARE NOT READY!!! Don't allow anyone else (especially your mother) to come in and tell you that you are not where you need to be in life!! You are young!! You grow SO MUCH as a person in your 20's - enjoy them!!! Be open to finding the right man, but DO NOT be obsessed with it or completely opposed to it!!!! Maybe you won't get married until you are in your late 20's or early 30's - when you are ready, and when you find the right person to share your life with, you will know it!!!!!

Focus on getting fit and healthy - in every way!!!! Love yourself!!! Write down a list of dreams that you have for your life, and GO FOR IT!!!!!!! You are amazing, and you deserve an amazing life - now go enjoy every moment of it!!!! :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

People shouldn't pressure you about making such big decisions (or any, really).

My family and friends do this to me and I just tell them that it is none of their business. They now know better than to get into my personal life in this way. Makes things easier. And, sometimes, when someone slips up and still takes a jab at me...I just try to let it go.

I mean, just because people pressure you, doesn't mean you have to take it in. It is difficult, but make firm boundaries and then try to let those comments that persist just roll off you. It is your life - you're the only one who can decide if/when/how you make choices about marriage and family.

First off, I commend you for knowing what you want! Be strong and don't let others dictate to you how to live your life. I have experience in this subject. I spent my 20's living life and doing whatever I wanted whenever I wanted and I would not change that for the world! I finally settled down and got married at 31 yrs old and had my first baby at 32 yrs old and I praise God that I waited because it's such a HUGE life changing thing and I don't think I would have been as mentally prepared in my 20's. There is NO shame in waiting for what you want until you are ready for it. I look at so many people that I know who look back and wish they would have waited so they could have done more for themselves first.

As far as dating, if you are not happy with yourself, it will reflect on how others act around you. You need to be happy and comfortable with yourself and have good self confidence so that you can bring a positive spin and attitude to any relationship. Just remember that NOBODY is perfect and we all have our flaws so be sure to not let something good pass you by while waiting to achieve the impossible perfection! Sounds like you have a very good head on your shoulders and that you already know what you want. Just stick to your plan and tell others to deal with it and let you be who you want to be! Good luck! Feel free to friend me if you like what I have to say!