Ever wish you could UNTELL people?

notnormallyacaloriecounter
notnormallyacaloriecounter Posts: 71 Member
in Motivation and Support
I've literally been working my butt off the almost 2 months and am officially down 24 pounds. At first when people at work would mention how much skinnier I was looking I would brush it off, or deny it, because I wanted to keep it private. This last week, I got cornered by some ladies at work asking if I was losing weight so I finally let them in. Now I feel like the air has somehow become toxic, and filled with such negative energy. It's really effecting me, and for obvious reasons, I'm really bothered by it. I work with pretty competitive and somewhat petty women that don't care how they make others feel as long as everything works for them. I know they say the best revenge is success, but how do you deal with it mentally? I really wish there was a way to untell them.

Anyone else have similar experiences?

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  • dawnlinski
    dawnlinski Posts: 22
    Well done with your progress, and yes I've felt like I could untell people some things but be proud and if they do find they want to compete with you, you have a head start! No matter how much you weight or what they weigh. x
  • FTIM2015
    FTIM2015 Posts: 460 Member
    Oh yes I've dealt with those sort of people!

    Unfortunately it really bothered me and my weight loss stopped (didnt gain more than 5lbs back), but i've started again now as i dont care what they think.

    Good luck xx
  • lil_bear0811
    lil_bear0811 Posts: 56
    It's hard when you work with people who are like that and you'll find sometimes their competitive side turns to secret sabotage. Let them be the reason you push harder on your work outs and the reason, you pass up an extra helping of something. When you feel like you can't push any harder do one more rep, or 5 more minutes. The glory you feel will be the best reward ever.

    Keep up the hard!
  • chi18
    chi18 Posts: 95 Member
    This is why I haven't told anyone. Whatever their opinion is, I just don't want to hear it. As for advice, when dealing with toxic people I personally find it helpful to have a mantra - something you can post-it at home where you will see it regularly and repeat to yourself. When I first started really dealing with my toxic family I wrote two sentences: "It's not my problem," and "Your opinion of me is none of my business." They're still stuck to my bathroom mirror and I remind myself of those things frequently. Whatever these co-workers think of you is none of your business so stay out of their heads and get back into your own head. YOU CAN DO THIS!
  • chelsa1986
    chelsa1986 Posts: 71
    YES.
    My husband's boss' wife. I didn't actually tell her I was dieting, so she must have heard it thru her husband. We went to the fair one day (two years ago) after I had been dieting for a few weeks and while we were walking she said, "So, how much do you weigh? How much do you want to lose?" When I refused to tell her my current (highest) weight she literally asked me 10 more times until her husband told her to stop. I was mortified. I brushed her off, kept at it, and lost 100 lbs. She facebooked me a year later going on and on about how great I looked and then she wrote (ON MY WALL) "So, how much exactly do you weigh now?". Some people never learn and they aren't worth your time.
  • jdploki70
    jdploki70 Posts: 343
    If I could have hid the weight loss from my wife I would have. We were both losing weight, I just lost a lot more of it. Now she feels slighted somehow that I "got to go to the gym" more than she did, that I am being obsessive about what I eat, and that I am "making her feel fat". I see it for what it is, her frustration with her own weight problems, but it doesn't make the fact that she resents my weight loss any easier to deal with at times.
  • notnormallyacaloriecounter
    notnormallyacaloriecounter Posts: 71 Member
    I'm really glad that other people have gone through this too or should I say I'm glad that I'm not the only one. Maybe there is no good way to say it, but thanks, guys, it comforts me a little knowing that other people have, so to speak, survived and succeeded despite the negative and toxic people around them. Just gotta' keep truckin' and leave them in the rear view.

    Thanks guys!
  • patranus
    patranus Posts: 61 Member
    The best advice I can give you is that once you stop caring about what other people (who are largely irrelevant in your life) thinks/say your life will be far more happy.

    Most people who get bitter about the success of others improving health is usually due to the realization that they lack their own willpower to do the same.

    Most people have trouble overcoming themselves to even start working on their health. They really shouldn't allow shallow/petty people get in their way.
  • ccguillory
    ccguillory Posts: 30 Member
    Sometimes yes, luckily I have few friends I work with that we work as a team and understand that it is for our health not for the number.. you know what I mean.

    I don't take the thoughts of others which can be petty and insecure but if I feel someone wants to be motivated I just let them know what I am doing.. like zumba.

    But you are right with other people you can't talk with them about it because they will pick you apart and then there is a wall. BTW I just read an article that if you were "obese" or "overweight" then lose the weight that you are still prejudged.

    My advice don't tell those people how much you have weighed lost whatever, if they ask.. just respond, "Didn't your Mama ever tell you never to ask a lady how much they weigh..lol and laught it off. However if they ask what you are doing.. there's no harm. I would respond Zumba, and invite them

    Then the balls in their court and it's on them and therefore you don't feel pressured or toxic around them. :)
  • steinbok
    steinbok Posts: 82
    Just look at it this way, "it is what it is" and let it go. There's always going to be petty, jealous, judgmental people. When that's the case, they have to deal with it. Why make it your problem. You did what you did and you should be proud of it. Succumbing to their "negative energy" only empowers then. Rise above it.

    With the weight loss. Just say, yes, and leave it at that. :)
    and then just keep going till you reach your goal.
  • NanoBear
    NanoBear Posts: 67
    A few women at work are getting a bit like that. I haven't actively told anyone, but it shows when I'm 90 pounds down from 6 months ago.

    They constantly ask me how I'm doing it, and I give them the same answer every time: I stopped eating crap, I keep track of what I eat, and I exercise more. I get the impression they think there's some kind of secret to this 'miracle' weight loss that I'm not telling them. Come to think of it, a lot of people seem a little disappointed when I tell them how I'm going about it. Everyone wants a miracle cure.

    As for how it affects me, it annoys me in the lunch room when I'm trying to talk to someone else. Other than that, it's their problem, not mine. They can go wallow in their self pity while I keep dropping the pounds.

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