Need emotional support

TJFreeman
TJFreeman Posts: 96
edited September 2024 in Chit-Chat
I have enjoyed reading posts by many of you. You have all been very encouraging and supportive. I wanted to share something that I have been going through with you, which will also explain my absence from the boards for the last day and a half. and probably the next few days.

My father went missing on September 11th. Because there was no evidence that he didn't just "walk out of his life", there could be no detailed investigation. On October 2, when his SS check hit the bank the detectives on his case went to the bank to see if there had been any activity. Since there had been none since September 4th, they put him on the national missing persons database. This past Tuesday evening, a man was walking his dog at a boat dock approximately 2 miles from my home (my father did not live with me). His dog led him off of the walking path into the woods and led him to what turned out to be the body of my father. The detectives said he had been there for at least 30 days. I cannot divulge any details as there is an ongoing investigation into his death. I can only say that foul play has not been ruled out. Since all of my father's family, including my half-brother, lives out of town and my parents have been divorced for many years, I have been left to make all of the arrangements on my own, which is something I have never had to do. It has been stressful, frustrating and emotionally taxing. I am feeling very fragile at the moment. I have had a strong support system in my family, but I wanted to reach out to all of you. Tell your loved ones how you feel while you have the chance as life is very short and uncertain.

Thank you all for taking the time to read and share your comments on this post.

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  • Wecandothis
    Wecandothis Posts: 1,083 Member
    My prayers are with you. I can't even imagine what you must be going through. You have no solid answers yet have to deal with the practical details. God bless you, and grant you the grace to get through this, and comfort you during this stressful and confusing time. I pray that justice will prevail in this, and that you will have some kind of closure in this matter.

    I wish I had better words of comfort, or could say something - anything to help. But this is huge, and all I can offer is to stand with you shoulder to shoulder, and offer you love and prayers from afar. It's not much, but it's all I've got just now.

    Bless you.
  • April0815
    April0815 Posts: 780 Member
    I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my prayers.
  • passionhi
    passionhi Posts: 118
    My prayers are with you. I can't even imagine what you must be going through. You have no solid answers yet have to deal with the practical details. God bless you, and grant you the grace to get through this, and comfort you during this stressful and confusing time. I pray that justice will prevail in this, and that you will have some kind of closure in this matter.

    I wish I had better words of comfort, or could say something - anything to help. But this is huge, and all I can offer is to stand with you shoulder to shoulder, and offer you love and prayers from afar. It's not much, but it's all I've got just now.

    Bless you.

    I couldn't have said it better myself.
  • nolachick
    nolachick Posts: 3,278 Member
    I am very sorry for your loss. :flowerforyou: we are here for u.

    I live 1000's of miles awar from my family in central america and call them every single day. if they call me at an unexpected time I am afraid to pick up the phone in fear of hearing bad news. I live in constant fear that something will happen to them while I am away. Sorry I am venting in your time of need but it is something that I too carry with me everyday.
  • courtneyweiss
    courtneyweiss Posts: 59
    I can't even imagine what you must be going through right now. I hope that you have a strong support system and are able to lean on your loved ones when you can't stand on your own.
  • TJFreeman
    TJFreeman Posts: 96
    Thank you all so much. Your prayers and words of kindness mean so much to me. The same goes for anyone who posts after I post this.
  • Mamakatspokane
    Mamakatspokane Posts: 3,098 Member
    You are in my prayers. I can't imagine the stress of everything you are going through. I am so sorry for your loss.
    God Bless
  • leavinglasvegas
    leavinglasvegas Posts: 1,495
    I am so sorry for what you are going through right now. I will keep you in my prayers, I will even send your name to Silent Unity where you will be prayed over for weeks to come.

    God Bless!
  • ilike2moveit
    ilike2moveit Posts: 776 Member
    My prayers are with you. I can't even imagine what you must be going through. You have no solid answers yet have to deal with the practical details. God bless you, and grant you the grace to get through this, and comfort you during this stressful and confusing time. I pray that justice will prevail in this, and that you will have some kind of closure in this matter.

    I wish I had better words of comfort, or could say something - anything to help. But this is huge, and all I can offer is to stand with you shoulder to shoulder, and offer you love and prayers from afar. It's not much, but it's all I've got just now.

    Bless you.
    Said so eloquently-my heart echoes these words. May God give you the peace and strength to get through this. May the truth be brought to light and justice be served.:cry:
  • m2kjenn
    m2kjenn Posts: 1,671 Member
    I am so very sorry for your loss and all you are dealing with. You will be in my prayers.
  • Brittany_Kayy
    Brittany_Kayy Posts: 262 Member
    Like everyone else I am very sorry for your loss. I can not even begin to imagine how you must feel. You and your family are in my prayers, sweets. :flowerforyou:
  • mommared53
    mommared53 Posts: 9,543 Member
    ((((TJ Freeman)))) I'm trying so hard not to cry right now because I'm at work. I can't express how sorry I am to hear about your dad. I can't even imagine having to go through something like that. I hope the authorities find who did it. You'll be in my prayers. I pray God will give you the strength you need to deal with everything you have to deal with. Take care of yourself and come back on here when you're ready. We'll be here for you. :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
  • BrenNew
    BrenNew Posts: 3,420 Member
    As everyone else has already said, I'm so sorry for your loss, and especially the way it came about! :sad:
    Hopefully everyone's kind words of support will help you get through this awful time just a little bit easier than it would be otherwise. :smile:
  • mamacindy81
    mamacindy81 Posts: 649 Member
    Tamela: I was shocked to read about your loss. Know you are in my thoughts and prayers. Take things one step and one day at a time. Thank you for encouraging others to reach out to those they love.
  • TJFreeman
    TJFreeman Posts: 96
    Thank you ALL so much. Your kind words and encouragement are a huge part of what is keeping me going right now. God bless all of you.
  • keiko
    keiko Posts: 2,919 Member
    Tamela, I am so sorry for your loss. It's one thing when our parents pass away from a disease but now you have the added stress of this investigation. I can't imagine how all of this feels. I pray that God gives you strength for the weeks ahead, that He fills you with His peace.
    :heart: Kelly
  • TJFreeman
    TJFreeman Posts: 96
    Tamela, I am so sorry for your loss. It's one thing when our parents pass away from a disease but now you have the added stress of this investigation. I can't imagine how all of this feels. I pray that God gives you strength for the weeks ahead, that He fills you with His peace.
    :heart: Kelly

    Thank you Kelly for your kind words. You are so right - trying to grieve for our loss, make arrangements and deal with detectives, coroners, etc. has been especially trying. I know it will be a rough road ahead, but it is kind people like you and the other nice people on MFG and the support of my other friends and family that will give me the strength to keep going.
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