I reall need some help guys.

Well one thing you could do is stop dwelling on the past. That would be a great first step. Don't think about what you've done or gone over in the past just think about now and the future.

Plan your meals ahead of time to keep you from worrying about how many calories you are consuming and that will help you with the cycle a little.

Check out things that will help you with the shaky feeling. My husband goes through this- it hits him hard and fast with no real warning signs. When he gets to that point he grabs something like a granola bar or sugar pretzel or something that has immediate sugar but also has some carbohydrates for energy to burn later making him feel full fast and stopping the shaking. Keeping healthy snacks with you will help with that and if you keep your planning down so you have extra calories left over you know you can have these snacks without the guilt or worry of going over.

Stay focused- if you failed to stay in your goals one day then make an effort to do better the next instead of hating yourself for going over. You are doing this for you and whatever other reasons you have, so think of those when you start getting down.

If you find yourself eating because of boredom then find a good hobby. If you are eating because of stress try to take a walk and clear your head before you dive into something to comfort you. If you find that you are eating more then you should try to control your portions by measuring them, drinking more water, and waiting a little bit before going for more.

Good luck with your goals. Stay positive and motivated. You can and will lose weight!

I see on your profile that you quit smoking. That is a HUGE accomplishment, and in my opinion, a more pressing thing to do than lose weight. So you gained some weight while quitting, but that's okay. You will lose it. Be so proud of yourself that you are no longer smoking cigarettes! That being said, I would love to give you some feedback, but it would be helpful if you could open your diary. How many calories are you eating? What are you set for....a pound a week? Two pounds a week? What are you eating? Are you drinking enough water?

Perhaps you need to try to step back and look at your situation from a different perspective.

What is your goal? I know you want to lose weight (most people here do!) but why?
Is it so you feel more energetic, so you can fit into particular clothes, so you can take up some kind of exercise, so you feel more in control, so you reduce your risk of diseases like diabetes or heart disease?
I think having a clear idea of WHY you are doing this can really help keep your focus on what you know you need to do.

Another suggestion is not to be too hard on yourself. If you are going over your calorie goal every day, maybe that's not the right goal for you. And if you are starving and shakey, it sounds like you have set it WAYYY too low.
Try resetting your goals with a more moderate calorie deficit (I started out at "lose 1/2 pound per week"). It may seem like it will take way too long to lose the weight that way, but what you are doing not is not working so you need to change things around.

I also think it is a great idea to set mini goals, like:
- eat a healthy breakfast every day this week.
- snack on fruit instead of cookies every morning.
- exercise for 20 minutes 4 times this week.

These kinds of things are much more achievable than a giant goal like "lose 50 pounds". It means that you have something positive to DO, something you can focus on, and something that you can actually achieve and celebrate. And these small changes might not seem like much, but they do add up over time.

Good luck!

I feel your pain but just know that we are here for you. I am not an expert at eating the right foods to lose weight but i do know that eating more protein keeps you full longer. I have heard people say before you eat, stop and think if you are really hunger, bored or check out what is going on before you eat. I have learned that drinking water with lemon or one of those 10 calorie sugar free mixers help. Don't beat yourself up we all go through it at some time or another. Maybe you should see your doctor to make sure that everything is working properly. Then speak to a nutritionist. Good luck to you and believe everything will work out!!!!

I agree with those who posted before me. Realize that you have to take the first step. Everybody does. The advice we are giving is because we have been there, and probably had that same sense of worthlessness. Plan ahead. After a short time, it becomes second nature. Try something new every week. I have switched to so many lighter versions and love just as much as the full fat and never knew! Just keep at it. Changes will happen.

I do the "5 meals" thing, it keeps my blood sugar steadier and I rarely feel hungry. Plus I make sure I eat a lot of protein, that helps a lot. I am on 1200 cals/day (approximate, sometimes I go up to 1300/1400 but usually come in around 1200) and make sure I get a minimum of 100g protein.

For breakfast I will have fruit (try to keep to berries, they are less in sugar--I eat blueberries, raspberries and blackberries--and a few cherries) and a Greek yogurt. (the Greek yogurt has twice as much protein, 14g, as regular).

Snack 1 I usually have a protein shake, I love the EAS AdvantEDGE carb control chocolate ones--they are only 110 calories, 17g protein and no sugar, 3g fat.

Lunch I usually eat a turkey, lettuce and tomato sandwich but I either have it on a wrap, half a kaiser roll or a Fold It (100 calories and super yummy!)

Snack 2 I usually eat a salt free rice cake with 2 tbsp peanut butter (225 cals all together)

Dinner, lean beef or chicken and lots of veggies, sometimes a little bit of starch side like a piece of sourdough bread or a very small serving of rice or potatoes, but I've learned to like having only protein and veggies.

I am a HUGE sugar and carb lover so for me to do this, you know it's workable--I'm never suffering and starving or feeling denied. If I want pizza (one of my faves) I work it in, if I want Ben & Jerry's, I work it in--but keep that to once every 2-3 weeks so I don't fall in the habit. I also like granola bars for a treat sometimes.

I do 30-45 mins cardio daily combined with pilates, strength training and stretching. I also take supplements--gummy multi vitamins, Vit D, Vit E, B complex and a probiotic, biotin and sugar free fiber supplement.

I also drink a lot of water, and I usually add a little lemon or lime juice, lots of ice and sip it all day long. I am lucky in that I don't like soda, so if I don't drink water I drink unsweetened iced tea in moderation.

Feel free to friend me and look through my diary Good luck. You can do this! I am 44--down 38 since starting MFP (love this site) and 93 lbs total since my high weight.