hurtful comments/need tips to be healthy

When I am feeling particularly bad about myself I think of all the good and positive things that my body can do- thankyou that I can get out of bed myself and wash and dress independently, that I have legs and arms that work and enable me to do so much, that I have eyes that can see the spring flowers and can see my children grow etc etc. Sounds a bit stupid, I know, but if we had a terminal illness or were seriously disabled I bet that the last thing we would be worrying about would be the fact that our legs rub together etc. Be kind to yourself as you travel along your weight loss journey; as you've noticed, others can be cruel so we should be nice to ourself and not beat ourselves up about everything. I do wish you luck as you try and lose weight, but do it for yourself and for nobody else. You ARE worth it x

It's all about dedication! You'll have to work really hard but if it's something you want, I know you can do it!! Watch your portions is very important. It's 80% healthy eating and 20% exercise! You can workout 2 hours a day but it wont do anything if you are putting the wrong stuff into your body by eating junk! Eat lots of fruits and veggies and lean proteins like fish and chicken! Drink lots and lots of water as well. Before every meal, drink a bottle of water to help fill you up so you don't over eat on food. Alot of people confuse thirst for hunger. So if you drink a bottle of water before you eat and you feel full and fine, you probably were just thirsty. This prevents over eating. Do some sort of moderate cardio 3 times a week for at least 30 minutes! And strength train every other day to build lean muscle. This will help burn fat the entire day! I have faith you can do this! If it's important to you you will find a way, not an excuse! You can add me if you like!

I understand how you feel and totally relate to everything you said. You can do this, but do it for you, not to show someone else how wrong they are. If you can gloat in the future, that's even better.

Just start walking, start understanding what you are eating and then you will begin to understand what you can change in your life to reach your goal.

You can do this!!! We can help!

You are beautiful, but you have to find that inside you so you believe it!

My suggestions:

1. Don't make too many changes at once (although this kind of depends on your personality type). Choose one or two things to focus on first (e.g., drinking a certain amount of water a day, only eating when hungry, measuring/weighing everything you eat, getting in x minutes of activity a day, having only one "treat" per day, etc.). After you have mastered that, move on to adding another smallish change.

2. Don't cut out treats--or any food that you like--completely. Or at least know that you CAN have it again, but first you want to master some of the things from my first suggestion (like portion size or stopping when satisfied).

3. Weigh and measure yourself NOW. Take an honest, full-body picture of yourself. Hide this stuff away if you need to, but not having done this when I started losing weight and getting healthier is honestly one of my biggest regrets.

4. Be prepared for set-backs. If you fall down a stair or two, you'd never throw yourself down the rest of the flight. Letting a few slip-ups (which happen to everyone!) have that much power is crazy--and a sign that you're not ready to do what it takes to make this change in your life.

You can totally do this! Use MFP's resources, but don't let them overwhelm you. There are LOTS of (successful) strategies for approaching healthier lifestyles and weight-loss. Different things work for different people, so if what you've been doing doesn't feel like it's working, you have plenty of other healthy and doable options.

Good luck!!