Bikers OW Va-jay-jay does it go away?

It's worse for guys, just think Tchaikovsky's "Nutcracker Suite"

LOL I heard after a while it will not be so painful. You'll get used to it. at least that's what people have told me. I used to take a spin class (ok I was registered) however, I couldn't get past the butt aching pain so that didn't work for me. If you can get past the pain I heard it gets better. I hope it works out for you. Good luck!

Do not get a bigger or softer seat! Both of those sound good in theory but they will, in fact, make the problem worse.

Not really...pressure or chafing are not something that simply go away, unlike sit bones pain--mucous membranes and nerve endings aren't the same as skin, so they can't simply toughen-up like the hindquarters.

I've finally found a chamois/saddle combo that make things the least miserable, as well as using chamois butter (I like Sportique Century Riding Cream). We've also had to put a shorter stem on my bike...100mm was simply too long with my bike's already aggressive geometry and had too much of my weight rolled forward onto my girl parts. Cut-out saddles can help, but some cut-outs don't work for some crotches. It's definitely a trial and error thing.

I'm doing best on a Bontrager InForm Affinity saddle, which has a wide and subtle dip, rather than a sharp-edged cut-out. I'm looking forward to trying the new Ergon SM-3 saddle once it's available, too. The Bontrager isn't quit T-shaped enough for me, so it tends to force me too far onto the nose, since the more pear-shaped saddles and my gracilis (inner thigh) muscles battle for space.

All of this is a YMMV sort of thing and no 2 people find the same combo to work for them. It can be very expensive finding the ideal fit for each person.

All of this is a YMMV sort of thing and no 2 people find the same combo to work for them. It can be very expensive finding the ideal fit for each person.

This is true too. I've found that I prefer a thinner chamois (pad) on my shorts. Too thick actually makes me more uncomfortable. I rely purely on my seat, but I also mountain bike which I think means I'm more upright.

This is true too. I've found that I prefer a thinner chamois (pad) on my shorts. Too thick actually makes me more uncomfortable. I rely purely on my seat, but I also mountain bike which I think means I'm more upright.

Yeah, I have NO issues on my mountain bike and fewer issues on my cyclocross bike. It's definitely a positional thing for me (and having a lordotic spine and anterior-tilted pelvis). The crappy thing is that I am most comfortable in a relatively aero position, with the exception of that one really sensitive area. I'm getting tired of finishing rides having drawn blood (and let me tell you, once the sweating starts that is NOT a place one wants to have salt in an open wound). If I keep everything totally hairless "down there" I am generally good, since that eliminates one source of friction, but that's a lot of work. I researched laser hair removal, but that doesn't work well for blondes (and costs a fortune, even if it doesn't work) and my carpet most definitely matches the drapes. :blushing:

It does, but you can help it by following a few simple steps.

First, make sure the bike and the seat fit you. You might have to spend a little time at a local bike shop. A good bike shop should have someone experienced in adjusting the height and perhaps angle of the seat to match you, and if necessary will have a variety of seats should you need to change it out.

Second, bike shorts. They give you that little extra padding and make sure that all the painful rubbing happens between that padding and your bike seat, and not your bottom and your bike seat.

Third - cotton kills. Avoid cotton because when it gets wet with sweat it basically turns into fine-grit sandpaper.

Padding on the seat itself is almost always your enemy.