I hate this.

My grandmother did bernstein and she lost the weight. However he puts people on 800 cals a day so as soon as you stop eating that really small amount you gain it back.

Trust me, don't do this because of what you think other people think of you. And is much as people look down on overweight people....there will be just as many people who will resent you because you have improved yourself. I know it's weird but those people are out there.

Do it for your self because it's healthy, and because it's the right thing to do.

I've almost lost 50 lbs, .....and I've still got 50 to go.

Let me ask you something. Do you drink diet sodas?

I was a candy bar a day person, sometimes two...I would sneak them, literally and hide the wrappers. I gave up my 3 diet Cokes a day when I decided to get healthier, and guess what? No cravings for chocolate since I started drinking at least 60 to 80 oz of water a day. Only this week have I incorporated a block or two of dark chocolate into my diet as a treat for a good work out. It is heart healthy and lower calorie. For some reason, I feel like the diet cokes added to my cravings for sweets, cakes, candy bars, ice cream...Now I just don't even NEED it. I reward myself, but I don't HAVE to have it.

I haven't lost that much weight YET, but I know the right things to do, and I also see a huge difference in my cravings since I gave up the diet sodas. Maybe there is something to that whole artificial sweetner thing. Anyway, good luck, and don't give up. Just resolve to eat healthier each day by making small changes along the way.

Diet sodas always made me crave sugar - the fake stuff just made me want it that much more so if I want soda, I drink a glass of real soda and then I'm done. I don't do it frequently (maybe a glass a week - or 2 if its TOM) but knowing I can have what I want, just to moderate my amount, makes a HUGE difference.

Eat what you like - just measure your amounts. I have 3 kids myself and it's difficult to handle a household, run children around and then do all of the other stuff I need to do on top of it and still work out. I have begun to look forward to my workouts (most of the time) because it's a time where I feel like I'm doing something good for myself and I always feel better after I'm done.

If you absolutely love chocolate cake - cut yourself a small piece and have it - just log it. Log everything that goes into your mouth so you can see where you are. You may be surprised that, despite how it seems, you're eating more than you think or less than you need. I was shocked when I started logging stuff.

Now I try to log things before I eat them but if I don't, I log them after. If I'm not home I write it down on a piece of paper and log it when I get home.

Don't get discouraged. This isn't a diet - it can't be because a diet is a special plan for a specified time to help you lose weight. It's not a change of life. It doesn't change the way you see food. MFP has helped me so so so so much.

We have some GREAT encouragers here! Keep your chin up and it will be okay. You will overeat your calories some days (everybody does). Don't beat yourself up. Just either spend a few minutes running around in a circle with the little ones or go for a walk pushing the stroller or lay on your back and lift the baby up and down over your chest and get some exercise. You can adjust your exercise to you. That's the added blessing. Each day is a new blessing - God's mercies are new EVERY morning. Be encouraged and keep your chin up!!!!

You Can Do It!!:flowerforyou:

First, you're here. Congrats.

Second, who give's a crap if someone accepts you. If they don't take you for who you are then (pardon my language) F them. You don't need people in your life that will judge you for your size.

That being said, getting healthy for you and your loved ones is important. Nope, you can't eat all that you want all the time and expect it to be okay, it wont be. You CAN live without chocolate, you just have to try. Have a little here and there, but don't snack on it all day :noway: Replace it with something else, something healthy. It will SUCK at first, but it will turn out great.

Please please please feel free to hit me up if you want to talk about it but you have to change your thinking on why you're here and what you expect to come from it.

Good luck to you :drinker:

You are being too hard on yourself, you can do it! I am the same way at times though, I just think bad food tastes better! But while I am eating a lot of bad food I just think to myself, "Is it worth it?" It makes me feel good but it doesn't make me look good. Also, everything is fine in moderation, instead of eating a whole bag of hershey minatures just eat 5 and remember that you can eat 5 every day this week if you want. I think that is a better reward than just eating them all at once. And there are also a lot of alternatives to bad food, a lot of healthy recipes on here that are subsititutions for the bad stuff. I hope this helps a little! Just remember, you could look like a super model one day, how cool would that be?! And be healthier than one!

-Danielle

Let me ask you something. Do you drink diet sodas?

I was a candy bar a day person, sometimes two...I would sneak them, literally and hide the wrappers. I gave up my 3 diet Cokes a day when I decided to get healthier, and guess what? No cravings for chocolate since I started drinking at least 60 to 80 oz of water a day.
I haven't lost that much weight YET, but I know the right things to do, and I also see a huge difference in my cravings since I gave up the diet sodas. Maybe there is something to that whole artificial sweetner thing.

i completely agree... im not sure where i heard it so you can research it if you want, but artifical sweetner makes your body think its getting sugar and then when it realizes it hasnt it craves it more! it also makes you bloat and changes your brain chemistry making you feel depressed.

when you cut it out completely you will feel so much thinner, even if you havent lost much weight....like when your period is over kinda-feeling.

also cutting out foods with lots of refined sugar will stop the cravings. the more sugar you have the more you crave it. so try to eat ALL 100% WHOLE WHEAT PRODUCTS ( pasta, rice, bread, EVERYTHING lol)

and no juice (except pom)

eating all whole wheat (not multigrain!) keeps me fuller so much longer, and it usually tastes better (if you had told me this i wouldnt believe you but its true!)

but soda + juice can be hard to give up! try this...
make green tea (about a full pot)
add a small bottle of pom or acai juice
refrigerate
or
try flavored seltzer ( no sugar substitute!) idk where you are but it you live in new england by any chance, Polar has some great flavors!
i've also found that schwepps seltzer doesnt have that weird seltzer after-taste and its satisfying like soda

that really cuts back on the cravings, but sometimes you just need chocolate. and i CANNOT stop at one piece either. here are some ideas;
hot chocolate
chocolate fruit dip and fruit
chocolate pudding
lollipops


good luck and dont worry about the small losses for the big effort..im so right there with you!...if it takes time, that means it wont come back. and you have a family that loves you. the last issue of glamour had a photo shoot with so-called plus size but actually normal -healthy size models (8-12) and it really made me feel confident even though my body is not perfect. check it outt!

good luck hope this helped!

Trust me, don't do this because of what you think other people think of you. And is much as people look down on overweight people....there will be just as many people who will resent you because you have improved yourself. I know it's weird but those people are out there.

Do it for your self because it's healthy, and because it's the right thing to do.

I've almost lost 50 lbs, .....and I've still got 50 to go.

I know what you mean. I have people like that at work. I work at a high school but it is the adults who really act like children. One co-worker went off on me because she said I was "in competition with her" since I've lost my weight. I mean, really. So, all she did was motivate me. I have 20 pounds to go. Great job on the 50! You're doing great!:flowerforyou:

I don't drink any soda, never have......I drink a ton of water, all of my life. My weaknesses are carbs and chocolate. Really, I beleive it is a total lack of self control and emotional eating. I dont' smoke, I don't drink......I eat. I can't say NO.
S

You're right. It IS a total lack of self control. You know it. I know it. I have the same problem only I smoke, too. Well, sort of. I've just started Chantix (AGAIN) and have quit. The only way it seems I can stay smoke free is if I'm on Chantix. I'd rather be on the meds than on the cigs...

Anyway, I too have very little will power. Especially when I'm bored. I always start off with a bang and end with a fizzle. I have ALOT going on in my life right now. You have 5 KIDS!!!! OMG! How are you still sane?! You're a great mom and a wonderful person. You need to stop being so hard on yourself. STOP. TAKE A DEEP BREATH. MEDITATE. Think of all the reasons why you want to suceed to a healthier life. Not what other people think about you, not the skinny clothes. Not the envy you'll make other people feel. Meditate and think about the long, wonderfully fullfilled life you have now and ahead of you. The time to spend with your children and their children. Then, give it to GOD. I have very little will power but without God, I'd have no chance. Trust me. Ask Him to become a part of your journey to a healthy lifestyle. It isn't a magic trick. He will ask you to take responsibility and own this journey but HE will help you if you let Him.