what do you do...

belladonna786
belladonna786 Posts: 1,165 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
when you are feeling really really down about the way you look? How do you stop the negative self talk and get those feelings of being disgusting out of your system?

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  • LoraF83
    LoraF83 Posts: 15,694 Member
    Honestly.....I exercise. I push myself and think about what a bad-*kitten* I am. I think about the fact that I'm stronger, faster, and leaner every day. That's kind of awesome.

    It works for me :) But everyone is different!
  • islandnutshel
    islandnutshel Posts: 1,143 Member
    Color my hair, pluck my eyebrown, put on make up and do my hair.
    Me mom always said "If you look better, you will feel better"
  • Jennloella
    Jennloella Posts: 2,286 Member
    bourbon. few drinks in me, and I AM Beyonce ;)
  • Jennloella
    Jennloella Posts: 2,286 Member
    Color my hair, pluck my eyebrown, put on make up and do my hair.
    Me mom always said "If you look better, you will feel better"

    seriously though, this. or lift weights. when I feel strong I usually feel good.
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
    I still have atleast 60+ lbs to go. I was feeling a bit down today.

    I have this watch that my dad gave me about 10+ years ago. One of the fancy watches. I was unable to wear it few months ago because it was too tight on my wrist.

    Lately I have been been able to not only wear it comfortably, but play with it (you know when you move your wrist only to rotate the watch around the wrist). Little things like these NSV's increases my spirit.
  • karylee44
    karylee44 Posts: 892
    wish i knew.. i am the queen of negative talk.

    the days i feel really good.. are days when there are no mirrors around.. :)
    or when im teaching.
  • michellekicks
    michellekicks Posts: 3,624 Member
    I go for a run.

    ... or give myself a pedicure.

    ... or go for some retail therapy.
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    I write and rationalise whatever it is I'm feeling depressed about. Rome wasn't built in a day.
  • kadins_momma07
    kadins_momma07 Posts: 328 Member
    Color my hair, pluck my eyebrown, put on make up and do my hair.
    Me mom always said "If you look better, you will feel better"

    ^^ This!!
    Sometimes I do my makeup just to clean the kitchen. I also put on my tennis shoes, for some reason having those on makes me want to move and get things done.
  • lu136mickey
    lu136mickey Posts: 202
    wish i knew.. i am the queen of negative talk.

    the days i feel really good.. are days when there are no mirrors around.. :)
    or when im teaching.
    you look great , i can't imagine you thinking you do not
  • britsept27
    britsept27 Posts: 2
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  • jasper186
    jasper186 Posts: 134 Member
    Until recently I ATE!!! Since finding MFP I look at the progress I have made, I think about how I can now eat anything I want (in moderation and as long as I log it) and I say to myself.........I am not on a diet....I have made lifestyle change that is working for me. I feel better than I have in years and I like me! Try to dump the bad feelings and be happy.
  • DaughterOfTheMostHighKing
    DaughterOfTheMostHighKing Posts: 1,436 Member
    wash my hair... do something different.... exercise till I'm tired...
  • amnski
    amnski Posts: 251 Member
    Color my hair, pluck my eyebrown, put on make up and do my hair.
    Me mom always said "If you look better, you will feel better"

    ^^ This!!
    Sometimes I do my makeup just to clean the kitchen. I also put on my tennis shoes, for some reason having those on makes me want to move and get things done.

    ^^All of this. And I also second the "Rome wasn't built in a day" mentality. Chin up and smile :smile:
  • LindaLouLu
    LindaLouLu Posts: 271 Member
    Depends what I'm down about (did someone say something or do my pants just not fit right today?)

    If it was something someone SAID- the go to response is to write it out. I will write whatever I want. Talk as mean and nasty as I want. Say everything I want to say. Sign it. Seal it in an envelope, take it out to the BBQ and then I set that puppy on F-I-R-E!!!! Once it's ashes, so is the down feeling.

    If it's just a clothes thing- it's time for a spoil myself day. Mani-pedi (at home), do up my hair, paint my face like I'm someone famous (but NOT trashy), find the nicest outfit I can fit in, then I go for Window Retail Therapy and drool over all the nice clothes I'll be able to wear when I finally get to a maintenance point. :laugh:
  • AngelRobbie
    AngelRobbie Posts: 153 Member
    I exercise also! When I am down on myself I just want to (quite literally punch something) so I need to find another outlet for my frustration. I just want to spend all of my energy and pass out. I usually wake up with the reverse feelings :D

    It's hard to stay positive! Just remember, we are all here to help!
  • tracylee679
    tracylee679 Posts: 189 Member
    When I am feeling really down I get out old pictures of myself to remind me how far I have come. Also to remind myself that I will never look that way again! It is hard to not get down on yourself from time to time especially when progress seems sooo slow. Just remember it will take time. You didn't put it on overnight it won't come off that way either...
  • Tzippy7
    Tzippy7 Posts: 344 Member
    workout !!
    Honestly when was the last time you did not feel better after a great workout?
  • CoderGal
    CoderGal Posts: 6,800 Member
    I remember all the ugly people who think they're hot and pretend I'm one of them.
  • karmah2771
    karmah2771 Posts: 42 Member
    I try to remind myself that I am better off now than I was before I started my journey. Then I mentally list all the ways my quality of life has improved and that if I continue on this way how much better it will get.
  • belladonna786
    belladonna786 Posts: 1,165 Member
    Aw thanks guys those are all great! I have got to get moving it just so hard with the twins being so demanding, im thinking of getting a treadmill since i cant get out as often s i would like :) Thank you all so much
  • fbandit14
    fbandit14 Posts: 61 Member
    Actually going on here helps a LOT: I see folks who have a lot more to lose, who are positive, nd it rubs off on me! BTW: twins are the best
  • belladonna786
    belladonna786 Posts: 1,165 Member
    Actually going on here helps a LOT: I see folks who have a lot more to lose, who are positive, nd it rubs off on me! BTW: twins are the best

    :) yes they are! and thanks for the reply
  • MalissaDC
    MalissaDC Posts: 123
    I look at my old photos. I remind myself of the progress I made and the things I can do now that I couldn't do before.
    I keep the bathroom closet door open so it's in front of the full length mirror when I'm getting in the shower;) lol--I don't have to confront myself about it daily right? ;)
  • harleygaljojo
    harleygaljojo Posts: 111 Member
    I go ride my Harley, Lil Pearl always makes me feel better in ther wind
  • Secondgoround
    Secondgoround Posts: 61
    I think once you are on a program of eating correctly and exercising, you have those negative feelings less and less. When you start to see actual results, you have positive progress to fall back on for a boost.
  • mollysonnotice
    mollysonnotice Posts: 140
    I write and rationalise whatever it is I'm feeling depressed about. Rome wasn't built in a day.

    This! ^
  • roachhaley
    roachhaley Posts: 978 Member
    I dont. Its one of my huge problems.

    Sometimes just getting ready helps. Take a shower, shave, do your hair, put on makeup, put on lotion etc.

    Recently I ordered hair extensions because my hair is in a horrible growing out stage - I'm thinking this will help with my confidence loads :)
  • Sox90716
    Sox90716 Posts: 976 Member
    I run.

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