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...did you learn something about them that surprised you after they passed away?
I did. Quite shocking, actually. But, very interesting.
I learned that my mom was a nudist. All her friends are nudists, and she was really into it. Owned a cabin on a lake in a nudist place where she went all the time. LOL. I was like, are you f'ing kidding me? But, I then I thought, AWESOME. And, why did she hide it? I would have been cool with it.
My sister doesn't know because she didn't go to the wake after she died.
LOL.
So, what about you? Did you learn something about your parents after they passed?
I did. Quite shocking, actually. But, very interesting.
I learned that my mom was a nudist. All her friends are nudists, and she was really into it. Owned a cabin on a lake in a nudist place where she went all the time. LOL. I was like, are you f'ing kidding me? But, I then I thought, AWESOME. And, why did she hide it? I would have been cool with it.
My sister doesn't know because she didn't go to the wake after she died.
LOL.
So, what about you? Did you learn something about your parents after they passed?
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yes, I always knew dad was pretty awesome....but i didn't know that prior to me being born he wanted to part of the LAPD. I didn't find that out till the get to together after his service..
I also found out from his cousin that he was very close to his cousins since he was an only child growing up.
I did know that i got his fair skin...hahaha we could sit under shade with sunscreen on and we would still burn.
its been 12 years since he passed and i miss him more and more everyday.0 -
Haha yes!
My dad was always quite an oddball (and I loved him for it and have some of that in me too), but what I learned was quite shocking as well.
We were clearing out his apartment after he passed and found all these photos of him in women's clothing! He was at some party in the photos but was the only one cross-dressed. I doubt he was doing this often, but it was pretty funny!0 -
...did you learn something about them that surprised you after they passed away?
I did. Quite shocking, actually. But, very interesting.
I learned that my mom was a nudist. All her friends are nudists, and she was really into it. Owned a cabin on a lake in a nudist place where she went all the time. LOL. I was like, are you f'ing kidding me? But, I then I thought, AWESOME. And, why did she hide it? I would have been cool with it.
My sister doesn't know because she didn't go to the wake after she died.
LOL.
So, what about you? Did you learn something about your parents after they passed?0 -
I stopped in at my step dad's house to drop off a card the year after my mother died and learned that the only picture of me in the whole house was a wedding photo I gave to them. My daughter, my brother, my step dad's kids... photos covering one living room wall. Me, not so much. That reinforced the "not feeling guilty about not crying at her funeral" thing.
I did learn that my dad used to grow pot under the stairs when I was little. That came out last year at a BBQ I hosted :laugh:0 -
Oh man did I!
So my dad was married before my mother. They couldn't remember if it was once or twice. I found that out when I met the woman at the funeral. Also I may have a sister out there, I think I do. Not gonna open that can of worms.
Oh and I didn't know his name. Thought it was Bob. It was actually Carlos. Roberto was his middle name.0 -
I've not lost my parents, but I lost my grandmother last year. I found out that she was a locally famous horseback rider when she was in her 20's all the way through her 40's. She won a lot of trophies for jumping competitions. Never knew that.0
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Oh man did I!
So my dad was married before my mother. They couldn't remember if it was once or twice. I found that out when I met the woman at the funeral. Also I may have a sister out there, I think I do. Not gonna open that can of worms.
Oh and I didn't know his name. Thought it was Bob. It was actually Carlos. Roberto was his middle name.0 -
when my grandmother died we found out she had been telling us the wrong birth year...she was a year older than when she told us.
we also found out that she may have been married prior to being married to my dads father...never was able to dig deeper into that one.0 -
LOL. This stuff is awesome.0
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I found out after my great grandmother died that she had an illigitmate daugher. When I found her birth certificate, the mother wasn't listed and the father was my great grandmother's brother. Kind of sad but the world was still messed up way over 100 years ago.0
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Found out about dad's younger days from family members when we were all sitting round remembering him. turns out he was a hypocrite having a go at me for teenage drinking!
Dad was very macho and didn't do emotional displays of affection so you never really knew how he felt. When we were clearing out some of his clutter we found a small wooden box with photos of his grandparents, parents, brother, my mum, me and my son. He'd kept photos of all the people he cared about.0 -
I haven't, Thank God. Both my parents are in their 40's.
My maternal, great-grandpa passed Wednesday and his viewing is tonight. I just learned from his Obituary that he survived the Battle of the Bulge in WWII. My OTHER great-grandpa(paternal) just passed and he was a tan kcommander in the Battle as well! Both my Great Grandpa's were in the same WWII Battle. I know it was a big one but still kind of cool.
Also, my son got to meet two Great-great-grandfathers. Not many people can say that in their life.0 -
My dad was married two times before he married my mom, and it wasn't until he died that I met his other children. Didn't keep touch, but I met them.0
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Both of my parents are still alive.
On my Fathers side (his parents.
Grandpa used to be the personal mechanic for Al Capone when he came down to Miami. I actually have photos of them together when Grandpa was a younger man.
Grandma was a "wing walker". One of those women would would get out of the Bi-plane and walk on the wings while it was flying.
Makes my whole "Airborne" thing look tame by comparison.0 -
Never learnt nothing really apart from the reason he dies was stomach cancer which drs said wasn't due to either his smoking or drinking (he was int eh armed forces so lot of happy hours) it was in fact due to him getting hit in the stomach with a ball when he played field hockey and was the goalie0
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A week after my mom's funeral, my brother and I got an email asking why "Joe" was listed as my mother's life companion - because, it seems, this gal's dad "Bill" had been with my mother for years. I always thought it was weird that Bill left her a house....0
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My question is - Did any of these post-death revelations change how you perceive your parents or how you live your life now?0
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My mom let it slip that something I did really crushed my dad as I had the chance to do something that had always been his dream and I didn't follow it (out of foolish/youthful pride). I always thought I was the only one that decision affected and it turns out it wasn't, and was (i think) the reason there was so much friction between us until he died.0
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My question is - Did any of these post-death revelations change how you perceive your parents or how you live your life now?
Mine didn't because I look at it as if he had lived long enough he would have seen where that decision led me and he would see the result, my two beautiful girls, and he would realize things worked out the best in the end.0 -
My question is - Did any of these post-death revelations change how you perceive your parents or how you live your life now?
I laugh when I think about it. The secrets people keep. How you think you know someone and you find out all sorts of things you never knew. I kind of like it.
Provided I never meet my long lost sister late one night when I've been drinking and neither of us realize it. That's my only real fear.0
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