mental barrier?

Clearly i am doing something wrong i have not been able to lose even point something of a pound for at least 3 weeks, ugh!, and the sad thing is i have been doing better than before in exercising and nutrition....

so it stinks and i am like so bitter sweet, this is making me want to work out harder and eat better, but at the same time, makes me feel like giving up.

I don't know if its a mental barrier i have that is also not letting me succeed or what? I have never been at the weight i set my goal to be, and i think i sabotage myself subconsciously, i think its a hidden fear i have in the sense that i don't know how i will look at the weight i want to be therefore i might be holding back from the unknown? Or at the same time i have spent so much of my life on diets and trying to lose weight, that if (and when i do) lose the weight and get to where i want to be, what will be next?? It is weird to think about but honestly its like a feeling of losing something you have had with you all your life, even if you never wanted it there.

Sorry just a ramble but anyone else feel weird about getting to goal because you have never seen yourself there before?

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  • rwinnie2
    rwinnie2 Posts: 59 Member
    Have you thought about the readjustment as your fat turns to muscle it actually weighs more, and its really common to platoo (think I spelled that wrong) and you weight bust won't shift for a bit but will eventually get going again, measure your body, hips, belly, arms the work I bet the change is there just not on the scales
  • jrodx2
    jrodx2 Posts: 203 Member
    Have you thought about the readjustment as your fat turns to muscle it actually weighs more

    Sorry but this is not true at all.

    My first question to the original poster would be are you eating enough? It really does make a huge difference for people, especially if you are working out alot.
  • rwinnie2
    rwinnie2 Posts: 59 Member
    People often say that muscle weighs more than fat, but that is a misstatement. Muscle is actually more dense than fat, so a pound of muscle takes up less space than fat. Another way to look at fat versus muscles is that a cubic inch of muscle will weigh more than a cubic inch of fat. Muscle is about 18 percent more dense than fat.

    So I misstated the sentiment was there.
  • j77r68
    j77r68 Posts: 271 Member
    this is a one day at a time type of thing. for me sometimes an hourly type of thing. i'm really good at the self sabotage thing and i'm working hard at trying to not be good at it. i really, really have to think at how far i've come on MY own and it would be really stupid to throw that all away.
    just keep plugging away, i seem to be having a few off weeks at a time where scale doesn't move and crap thoughts and feeling down about lack of progress is in my head BIG time. but i have to push through because i'm determined to get this weight off once and for all

    don't give up, you can do this!!!:flowerforyou:
  • LexyDB
    LexyDB Posts: 261
    Have you thought about the readjustment as your fat turns to muscle it actually weighs more.

    What? This is as ridiculous as muscle weighing more than fat. Your bodies fat stores don't turn into muscle, it fuels your body activity. Muscle is added when you overload the fibres and cause tears (lifting heavy weights) which repair stronger, adapting to the load applied.
  • michelleepotter
    michelleepotter Posts: 800 Member
    Honestly, I don't know about self-sabotage, but I do have a horrible habit of starting out strong and then faltering. For example, I start out cleaning my house every day, then it's most days, then some days... and the whole time I am fighting myself, trying to get back to that strong start, but no matter how hard I try, it just deteriorates right before my eyes.

    The last three weeks, I have stopped losing weight. In fact, I have actually gained 3 pounds. It started when I went on vacation, and I knew I overate a bit, so when I gained weight I freaked and thought, "OMG, here I go again!" I just KNEW that I was screwing everything up again.

    But, honestly, looking back I realized that with a few exceptions, I have been eating right, and I have been exercising more than ever. I can feel myself getting stronger. My legs look and feel amazing, I can do 20 push-ups, and I can get through my entire kettlebell workout video. No way I could have done that six months ago! My husband insists that I look smaller, though I only measured myself for the first time a few days ago, so I can't say for sure.

    I am not sure what the issue is. I know the gain is not muscle -- there's just no way I am doing enough to build a whole pound of muscle every week. My friends on MFP say it must be water retention from ramping up my exercise. I don't know. And honestly I'm still cycling between despair and hope. But I do KNOW that I have been doing what is necessary for good health and weight loss, and the only logical thing is to keep it up!