Getting past fat girl thinking

cantjustcant
cantjustcant Posts: 1,027 Member
edited December 21 in Motivation and Support
I have been here on MFP for 315 days. I have lost 31 pounds and 24 inches. I have gone from walking short distances, to an exercise bike, to running. When I started running I could only go three driveways before stopping but in April I ran a 10K non-stop...slow...but non-stop. I do yoga and zumba and hike and 100 challenges and burpees because I want to. Tomorrow marks 6 months of not smoking (proud of that one right there)!!!!!!!!!! I have traded in my size 24 for size 14 and my 3X for larges. The change in my physical body is astounding (if I do say so myself).

In October I posted a thread about how I kept texting and seeing an ex that cheated on me and posting it gave the strength to tell him to....ummmm.....well I told him to **** off. http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/357396-why-can-t-i-just-tell-him-no

Within a month of making that decision I met a guy. He's a fireman type guy. He's absolutely incredible. Between his schedules at both departments he works for and my schedule, we are lucky to get 2-3 hours together once a week. When we are together he is so wonderful to me. He tells me how he thinks I am beautiful and sexy and so proud of my journey so far. I think he is full of crap. I see so many flaws with me. I see the lumps and bumps and for crying out loud I still weigh 197 pounds!!! How beautiful and sexy can that be?

I am 44 years old. I have never been the skinny girl even in high school! I don't know how to stop thinking that I am not worth someone like him. I don't know how to stop being the fat girl.

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  • MissingMyOldSelf
    MissingMyOldSelf Posts: 689 Member
    First off.... you're an INSPIRATION to many! You went from couch potato to fitness buff in a matter of months! It's not even been a year, and you are running full 10k's! I can barely run down my driveway and back (total of about 200 yards).

    Second..... it's not just the physical parts that make a man think you're beautiful. You're a gorgeous person inside and out! You make people smile, laugh, feel good about themselves, you're a shoulder to cry on and vent to,..... you're a rock!

    Can't..... take a good look in the mirror at how far you've come. The before and current pictures are SUCH a difference. I know for a fact I'll never get past the fat girl mentality, and that's something that I'll have to live with, but as for you..... girl, you're a hawt mama, and your man is so lucky to have you in his life!! You say you "still weigh 197lbs".... but just remember that at the beginning of this journey, you weighed 31lbs more! What a major physical transformation!!!

    You have so many people who love you for you, and it's all because of the love and support you give! We love you, Can'ty!!!!!
  • MindyBlack
    MindyBlack Posts: 954 Member
    First off.... you're an INSPIRATION to many! You went from couch potato to fitness buff in a matter of months! It's not even been a year, and you are running full 10k's! I can barely run down my driveway and back (total of about 200 yards).

    Second..... it's not just the physical parts that make a man think you're beautiful. You're a gorgeous person inside and out! You make people smile, laugh, feel good about themselves, you're a shoulder to cry on and vent to,..... you're a rock!

    Can't..... take a good look in the mirror at how far you've come. The before and current pictures are SUCH a difference. I know for a fact I'll never get past the fat girl mentality, and that's something that I'll have to live with, but as for you..... girl, you're a hawt mama, and your man is so lucky to have you in his life!! You say you "still weigh 197lbs".... but just remember that at the beginning of this journey, you weighed 31lbs more! What a major physical transformation!!!

    You have so many people who love you for you, and it's all because of the love and support you give! We love you, Can'ty!!!!!

    ^^Yeah, what she said!
  • Sherriediva1
    Sherriediva1 Posts: 345 Member
    YEAH, YEAH!!

    What she said too!!

    I think you need to change your screen name from cantjustcant to cantjustCAN!!

    Remember: You are woman, friend, supporter, lover, lifegiver and nurturer! Your spirit is divine, your strength is immeasurable, your will has and is transforming your body, your soul, being at the center of you may take more time to recognize that you have evicted the "fat girl". She no longer lives inside of you! Keep her out and accept the love that is your due!!

    Inspired by you,
    Sherrie
  • daydream58
    daydream58 Posts: 572 Member
    I can't believe it's been forever since I got an update on the fireman and now you just blurt it out there for the whole world to see... don't make me come down there and beat you up Canty! You will have to outrun me to avoid it one of these days! (I know you can easily do that too... so I'll have to make you play tennis with me or something LOL)

    Your are a beautiful person tho and when you're all strong and fit and skinny AND YOU WILL BE because you want it and you know how to get it and we're all going to get it with you, together!!! you will slowly believe in the nbrew skinny Cant. You're incredibly strong. You're brave. You're courageous and you DO believe in yourself or you could not have accomplished all you have with totally changing the way you eat, totally changing from a smoker to a non-smoker who runs 10Ks and totally changed from a fat girl who puts up with cheating losers to one who attracts hot firemen types!

    You are all that and a bag of broccoli and don't you forget it. We will just keep reminding you until you can remind yourself... that is what MFP buddies are for, right?

    Much love always always always xoxoxo
  • slkehl
    slkehl Posts: 3,801 Member
    Believe him. Guys have a different perception of women than we do of ourselves. I was shocked by how perfect my ex thought I was back when we were dating. I looked in the mirror and saw a body that needed a LOT of work. He saw someone who was unbelievably beautiful, and I remember him with arms around me asking me how it was possible that I looked like that. I've never felt that way about myself, but accepting that he was telling me what he truly thought was amazing.
  • gajudegal
    gajudegal Posts: 6
    If only you could see what others see. You should never think you don't deserve anything. You just have to keep telling yourself " I am the prize "
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    If someone else wrote your post, what would you say? You would tell them what an amazing job they were doing and what an inspiration they were.... We treat ourselves harshly, when we should treat ourselves like we would our best friend...
  • clioandboy
    clioandboy Posts: 963 Member
    You are fab! Your thinking will probably catch up, as will your body image, I think of it a bit like the skin on my belly...... I would lose 10lbs and for a week I would look at my belly and seriously see it as OMG it is worse then my skin would catch up then I lost another 10lbs the same again.... maybe the same thing is gonna happen with your head???? am sending you an add
  • Arthemise1
    Arthemise1 Posts: 365 Member
    You guys are inspiring. Maybe I should believe my husband when he tells me how wonderful I am and that the weight doesn't matter to him (other than that he wants me healthy and to be around for a long time).
  • Erisad
    Erisad Posts: 1,580
    You and me both. I feel that I have to lose a lot more weight to be worthy enough for my boyfriend too. He says that's not the case but I can't help but feel that way sometimes. >.<
  • WifeNMama
    WifeNMama Posts: 2,876 Member
    You're a hottie patottie with a naughty body!

    Yup, pretty much just wanted to blurt that out, and now I'm done. Whenever your brain tells you differently, say "shut up, brain."
  • amy1612
    amy1612 Posts: 1,356 Member
    Youre not the fat girl. Plain and simple. Youre just not, and even if you were, if someone wants to be with you, who are you to tell them theyre wrong about all the things they think are wonderful about you. Youre a fit, healthy ADULT woman. Time to recognise who you are, not who you were, and move on. :)

    Think strong, be strong.x
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