Should I tell my boyfriend?

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  • YennaBean
    YennaBean Posts: 77 Member
    The only reason I told my husband is so he'd stop bringing me home sweets. Lol!

    I think you should just tell him you're trying to live healthier.. you don't necessarily have to say you're trying to lose weight!
  • mrs_deg1983
    mrs_deg1983 Posts: 157
    Get a new BF; get one that will be supportive of goals and dreams... if you can't even talk to him about something like weight loss and exercise doesn't sound like much of a relationship...

    i think on of us misread what she wrote. She didn't say he would be supportive, she said she didn't know. lol sorry not being rude just making sure who said what.
  • gayje
    gayje Posts: 230 Member
    I would venture to say that he WOULD understand. If *gaining* is very hard for him to do he'll be able to understand (and support) you trying to loose weight because that is also a hard thing to do.

    You said you are doing this for yourself so maybe just do it and surprise him when you see each other next. Either way, good for you and good luch in your decisions, whatever they may be.
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
    Get a new BF; get one that will be supportive of goals and dreams... if you can't even talk to him about something like weight loss and exercise doesn't sound like much of a relationship...

    Bazinga? I really hope that was a bazinga.

    @OP: I personally need to know more about the kind of person he is. I myself think you should tell him for couple of reasons. First, if he's gonna be supportive, then how is that bad? I mean I'm not a vegan and I don't get it but I still support people who are :)

    You're going to need support. I have some very good friends on MFP but nothing beats a personal support. Then theres the doubt thing. Trust is like a piece of paper, once you crumble the paper, it'll be be smooth like it was before. Long-distance relationships are hard enough.
    Its an awesome thing to talk about too. You can talk about losing, he can talk about gaining. Both of you can start weight-lifting which should help you lose weight and help him gain weight. You with less calories and him wiht more calories ofcourse :)

    Good luck. I still can't believe somebody wants you to dump him for...literally nothing. Its like breaking up with somebody because you had a dream about him talking to some stranger. *sigh*
  • chevy88grl
    chevy88grl Posts: 3,937 Member
    My boyfriend is naturally thin. He struggles to gain weight. When I decided it was time to lose weight and get healthy, I asked him if he wanted to join the gym with me. At the time, we were a long distance couple though we did see each other regularly. We joined a gym that is nationwide so he could workout at one close to his house when he was at home and I could workout close to home when I was at home.

    We started at the gym for totally different reasons. I started eating better and he followed along - even though he didn't NEED to do it. There were some tough moments when I was frustrated at the lack of weight loss and he couldn't understand since he's never, ever, ever struggled with his weight (he's 36 yrs old and the SAME weight he was in high school).

    I say tell him. Let him know what you're doing. Give him the chance to be part of your support system.
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